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EVIL MILs - WHY DID YOU MARRY SOMEONE WHEN YOU DON'T LIKE THEIR MUM??

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Hullygully · 07/02/2013 15:36

Why??

What did you think would happen?

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valiumredhead · 07/02/2013 15:37

I love my MIL, she is great and when we get engaged she gave me a massive hug and said she couldn't ask for a nicer daughter in law - even if she pisses me off I remember that and it makes me all warm and fuzzy :)

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SpicyPear · 07/02/2013 15:38

Ooh I can't wait to see how this one pans out!

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Pascha · 07/02/2013 15:38

That reads as Evil MIL doesnt like her MIL. I like my MIL.

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valiumredhead · 07/02/2013 15:38

Oh and to answer the OP, I was with someone else and I loather his parents, just couldn't imagine life with them forever, one of the main reasons we split up.

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toomuch2young · 07/02/2013 15:39

I'm not in this situation, but surely you marry someone because you love them and want to be with them?
I can't imagine that many adults spend that much time with their mothers to put you off marrying them?

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ThedementedPenguin · 07/02/2013 15:39

I'm not married but I assume its because they loved there boyfriend and wanted to be with him. Doesn't mean they have to put up with crap from there MIL.

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soverylucky · 07/02/2013 15:39

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MrsKoala · 07/02/2013 15:41

Erm, because I love my dh. Why would my feelings on mil affect that? If poor dh could only marry someone who liked his mum then he'd be alone forever. That's not exactly fair on him is it? How bizarre.

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Tortington · 07/02/2013 15:41

i dont have any intentions of fucking his mum and dh is such a good fuck - it would have been a shame not to keep him

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TheSkiingGardener · 07/02/2013 15:41

Um. Because you love your partner?

My DH likes fig rolls, which I think are disgusting. Should I not have married him because of this incompatibility?

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WileyRoadRunner · 07/02/2013 15:41

My MIL only showed her true colours AFTER we were married.

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letsgomaths · 07/02/2013 15:42

I have never met my MIL - my DW is totally estranged from her!

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EssexGurl · 07/02/2013 15:43

Because we rarely saw them and I thought that I could cope with a couple of visits a year. They live a 4 hour drive away so even with kids now we probably only see them 3 or 4 times a year for a weekend. Bearable, just ....

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maddening · 07/02/2013 15:43

Because otherwise there'd be lots of nice lonely men living with their loony mums

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weegiemum · 07/02/2013 15:43

I don't speak to my (nutter) mother.

So should dh have declined to mary me (we were talking at the time of my wedding) because my mother is frankly toxic?

He married me because he loves me . stuff my mother!!

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DewDr0p · 07/02/2013 15:43

Hmm I love my dh - it's my MIL I have an issue with (and FIL for that matter)

Fwiw dh and I are of the same opinion. Should he have remained single for ever more?

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Tee2072 · 07/02/2013 15:43

I didn't marry my MIL, who I happen to like. I married my husband.

Is that how some people choose a spouse? Based on their mother? Really?

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BunnyLebowski · 07/02/2013 15:45

Because I fell in love with DP?

He has no more control over the fact he has a toxic narcissist for a father and a lazy grasping mare for a mother than I do.

Luckily we don't have much to do with them so they don't affect our lives.

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MummytoMog · 07/02/2013 15:47

She's lovely - she just drives me nuts since I had the kids. Fairly common I think.

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woozlebear · 07/02/2013 15:47

Oh dear....

Well by this logic I should remain a spinster forever, because my mother is frightful. Luckily DH didn't run away.

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KirstyoffEastenders · 07/02/2013 15:48

I went through with a wedding I knew was a mistake just because I loved his parents and I didn't want to upset them. I left him 6 months later. So I suppose it works both ways.

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Ashoething · 07/02/2013 15:49

Because I didnt realise what a lazy manipulative cow she was until after I had been married a number of years?

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KirstyoffEastenders · 07/02/2013 15:50

Also, should I be worried that BF hasn't introduce me to his Mother, even though we've been together for 9 months, we live together, and we're trying for a baby? Maybe she's a nightmare. Thankfully she lives 50 miles away.

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bran · 07/02/2013 15:54

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SneakyNuts · 07/02/2013 15:54

Well mine was absolutely fine...until I fell pregnant if that helps.

She is a nice lady, just infuriates me sometimes Smile

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