WorraLiberty. What a legend(288 Posts)
Show your support here. The other thread is still going. Not nice.
I don't know either coconutty...we've obvs missed summat. I am always amused by Worra though. Some fantastic posts.
Worra's getting in the neck and is mgrg offering her outside?
Me too-Worra was being supportive on the other thread! I think mrg misunderstood completely.
Mgrg, Some of us have been unable to return to our previous lower paid jobs because we did/do not have the luxury of free childcare. I'm very sorry if this is an innapropriate comment to make in light of the previous thread but you really are being quite rude. Once again I am sorry for your loss.
Mgrg you're telling everyone to get a job, I'm telling you to get a childminder and quit bitching at people on Mumsnet because you're squaring for a fight in real life but don't have the nerve.
mgrg may have misunderstood, but no excuse for being so rude.
It's a shame because she would have had a huge amount of good will and sympathy on here for her situation.
Mgrg - I don't understand why you've got such a bee in your bonnet about Worraliberty. She said nothing untoward on the other thread - nothing. You've obviously sought out this thread to have another go .... until it came up at the top of AIBU just now I'd never seen it before.
Do you know what ... when my dad died I was FURIOUS. I remember going into town and seething, absolutely seething at all these people walking about, chatting, laughing, joking, as if nothing had happened when the most dreadful thing had happened to me. I wanted to slap them and scream what the hell they though they were doing when I was falling to pieces. Thing is - deep down I knew I was being irrational, my world might have changed but theirs hadn't, my loss was nothing to do with them and my distress at them behaving "normally" wasn't fair because they were doing nothing wrong.
It's very normal to think and feel irrationally when you lose someone - maybe especially so when it's far sooner than they "should" have gone. I felt irrational annoyance and sometimes "hatred" towards others for quite some time after my dad died. But ..... and I say this out of concern, you can't take out these feelings on other people. It strikes me that by snapping at, and hounding Worraliberty, you're actually doing - albeit on the internet - what I felt like doing all those years ago when I wanted to lash out. I never did - because quite rightly, people would have been hurt and upset had I done so, and at some point in the future, I'd have regretted it too when I could see things a little more clearly and cope with my loss a little better.
You really need to stop this thing with Worra. It's pointless and won't make you feel any better I can guarantee. In fact you're more likely to bring criticism down upon you and less likely to attract sympathy at a time when you need it most if you attack others with no good reason. That's not to say that people don't appreciate how much of a blow losing your mum is - but they're not going to want to help if you behave irrationally. If you want to talk about your mum, what she meant to you, how much you miss her, how you feel frightened at life without her and so on then I'm sure lots of members would hold your hand - maybe post on the bereavement board ? But don't lash out where it's not due, you'll end up isolating yourself.
I have just read the other post and suspect the op is in a complete red mist rage at everyone but again I can't see why she picked on Worra.
I hope she sorts her self out emotionally and practically speaking she needs a cm.. I think for knows this but instead of posting on bereavement thread she choose AIBU which was a silly mistake.
Worra is tough and always sensible, she will be fine.
I think it was probably a mis-understanding of the acronym. I struggle with them sometimes. YADNBU could have been mistaken for...
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