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AIBU?

To have sold my husband's wedding ring?

42 replies

Treaclesmart · 06/02/2013 14:38

Not sure if I've just done something terrible. My husband and I have been married for 4 years and he has never worn his wedding ring for the one reason that it was too big (we went ring shopping on a hot day and i think his finger must have swollen up). He has been talking for ages about getting it changed but hasn't done anything about it, and the one time he was serious about doing it about 2 years ago he couldn't find it anywhere.
Anyway I just thought with it being valentines day next week i'd hunt it out and get it resized for him. So at considerable difficulty I tracked it down and went to the jewellers this morning. Howvere when I was there I saw some lovey titanium rings which were much more him than the big chunky gold thing he'd never really liked, and only bought because he was hot and bothered and wanted to get out of the shop. They had the right size then and there so no faffing about getting it sent away. Decided to buy one - all well and good - but then decided he didn't need to have 2 rings so called into the cash for gold shop on my way home and sold his original one (and have made myself a tenner profit!)
I don't think he'll mind. i think he'll really like his new ring and appreciate having one that fits and the thought and all, and also as we are totally skint he'll like that I haven't bankrupted myself. But feeling a bit off about selling the ring we said our vows with. Have I done something terrible???

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rubyslippers · 06/02/2013 14:39

i wouldn't have done it as it would have sentimental value even if he didn't wear it

is your DH sentimental?

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PandaOnAPushBike · 06/02/2013 14:41

I wouldn't have done it without checking first. I rarely wear my wedding ring as it's too big now but I'd be gutted if my husband sold it.

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 06/02/2013 14:41

YANBU - if it was that sentimental to him he would have had it re-sized 4 years ago.

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meditrina · 06/02/2013 14:42

The only opinion that matters is that if DH. You'll have to ask him.

In the meantime, you might want to go back to the shop and see if you can recover the ring just in case.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 06/02/2013 14:42

Titanium can't be resized so if he changes now you are a bit buggered. I can't believe with gold prices where they are you only got a tenner profit changing gold for titanium.

I wouldn't have done this without talking to him. I hope he's OK with this.

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Cluffyfunt · 06/02/2013 14:42

Yes ywbu!

Why didn't you ask him first?

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MrsRajeshKoothrappali · 06/02/2013 14:42

I don't think that men are that sentimental.

Just say that you changed it for a better, more suitable one.

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DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 06/02/2013 14:43

Buying him a new ring - fine, tho' he may just not want to wear rings - but selling his original ring without his say-so? I think that's BU.

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twofingerstoGideon · 06/02/2013 14:43

YABU going into a Cash for Gold shop. They give a crap rate for gold. Next time, try your local bullion dealer.

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EuroShagmore · 06/02/2013 14:43

I think YABU. The ring is a symbol of the marriage, worn or not. I don't wear mine all the time but I would be very upset if somebody sold it.

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ENormaSnob · 06/02/2013 14:44

I don't think he'll be that bothered or surely he'd have sorted the original one out so it fit?

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aldiwhore · 06/02/2013 14:44

YABU to have not asked your DH first, that is a tad disrespectful, I'd go batshit crazy if DH did this to one of my rings (whether I wore it or not).

YANBU to exchange a never worn ring for one he may wear, I'm just uncomfortable with the lack of permission.

My DH has a titanium wedding ring and he loathes jewellery but finds the titanium one very comfy.

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StuntGirl · 06/02/2013 14:44

It wasn't yours to sell. Yes ywbu.

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Facebaffle · 06/02/2013 14:45

YANBU - he might as well be wearing a ring he likes and is more suited to him Grin

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MegaClutterSlut · 06/02/2013 14:47

YABU, I don't think you would like it if your DH sold any of your jewellery that doesn't fit/ you didn't wear, especially your wedding ring. Mine is too tight but I will never ever sell mine

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milbracat · 06/02/2013 14:49

YABU. Technically, it was not your ring to sell apart from any sentimental value he might have had. This sort of presumption is not IMO healthy in a relationship.

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EuroShagmore · 06/02/2013 14:52

In your shoes I would be running back to the gold dealer to try to buy it back asap.

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OwlLady · 06/02/2013 14:52

if you are religious (which i am not) your local vicar will bless your rings in church from what i believe

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MistyB · 06/02/2013 14:55

I think it is a lovely idea. (Fingers crossed your DH does too!!)

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nefertarii · 06/02/2013 14:57

Yabu. Of course because its not your ring so technically theft.

I also can't believe you are considering this a 'present' and consider you have made profit.

Whether he will be bothered, I don't know. I know dh would be pissed off that I had taken something of his and sold it, replaced with something cheaper and kept the difference without even consulting him.

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nickelbabe · 06/02/2013 14:57

you shouldn't have sold it.

Yes, buy him a more suitable ring, but then go home and once you've presented him the new one, as k him if he'd like to sell the old one.

and cash for gold shops really don't give you a good price for your gold.

can you buy it back?

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starfishmummy · 06/02/2013 15:05

How would you like it if he took something of yours and sold it?
Yabvu. I hope he is more tolerant than I would be

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shashep · 06/02/2013 15:06

YABU - go straight back to the shop and get the ring back, then ask/decide at a later date.

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diddl · 06/02/2013 15:11

I think yabu.

Also, how did you know what size to get?´Confused

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