to not like people drying their hands on my bath towel?(83 Posts)
in our bathroom there is a hand towel hanging from a towel rail at the side of the sink. it is always clean, changed often.
the kids tend to dry their hands on their own bathtowels which hang on the other side of the room on the bottom rung of the heated rail so they can reach.
when ils come to visit, ive noticed after theyve been to the toilet and wsshed their hands, that there is a trail of water splashed across the bathroom to the bathtowels and my towel is wet and screwed up in the middle.
at first i thought the kids had made the mess but even when the kids havent been upstairs this still happens and the kids cant reach my bathtowel.
i make a point of telling them there is a clean hand towel hanging from the sink when they go up.
dp thinks it doesnt matter, their hands are clean and thinks even if they are using my towel it wont hurt me.
i am funny about things like that, i dont like to touch cups or cutlery or plates which people have used, so im not sure if its me being ott.
aibu to not like this so to remove my bathtowel when they come (and other visitors) so they cant use my towel?
i dont have my own plate or cup, im fine using a clean plate and will clean up after dp and dcs but if someone else has eaten and left their cutlery floating around the plate it turns my stomach to pick the cutlery off.
me and dp have 4 towels between us, all the same towel, we each have a clean towel on separate rails so kept separate until washed.
dds have separate towels.
I first experienced this in Germany. Had visitors to stay < Dh's cousins >, and when they asked were the guest towels were and I said we didn't have any and to use ours, they were horrified and said they couldn't do that as ours had our germs on them. And looked at me as in a disparaging way.
On the other end of the scale, in UK, my sil, niece and her toddler visited, and Sil asked where an unused towel was to dry off the washed changed nappy bits. I showed her and then she ushered her dd with gd into my kitchen and washed her in my kitchen sink. When I said something, SIL retorted, it's fine, just needs disinfecting afterwards !! I was < angry face>
I agree with you, OP. We each have our own towels in this house. This started because of skin infections. I wouldn't dream of using anyone else's towel. Luckily, we have a downstairs loo so people don't need to go into our bathroom. I did ask DD if she would mind if people used her bath towel as a handtowel if they happened to use the DC's bathroom and she wouldn't like it. Luckily, in their bathroom the bath towels are on a drier above the radiator at the opposite end of the room from the handtowel which is on a handtowel ring right next to the sink.
I'm not houseproud by any means, but no one here shares towels and the handtowels/teatowels get changed every day.
Don't get me wrong, I usually give myself a good dry, it's just not with the same violent fury my partner attacks his body! That level of aggression must lead to some degree of accidental insertion. And he puts on a blank face and says "but I'm clean". Doubt he would wager any money on his bumhole being spotless though. I couldn't shag him for a week after seeing that...
IfYouCanMove - this is pretty much how I dry myself. Obviously, without the drying the penis bit. A good hard scrub and dry all over. I hate dripping water everywhere.
My OH walks around in his towels until he's dry, whereas I like to rub myself dry. That sounds so wrong.
I cannot believe people care this much about towels!
OP you sound like a crazed Miss Marple tracing waterdrops to a towel, and do you mean that you have your own plate, cup and cutlery that no-one else can touch?
Get a cloakroom for goodness sake.
IfYouCanMoveItItsNotBroken that is one of the funniest posts I've read!
Towel sharers here too... although I always have a clean one for myself and DH uses it after me :D
love this thread. Esp Ifyoucanmoveititsnotbroken's post. This is why I am not married
I've waited nearly 2 years for this subject to come up. Its a total utter mystery to me why people don't use the hand towel next to the sink, but actually turn round to look for a used bath towel. My DDs have actually said to their friends you need to use the handtowel, my Dad dries his bum on that bath towel, but then they are kids - what excuse do adults have?
If I have someone particularly
thick laid back coming over, I remove all the towels and just leave the handtowel out.
I feel all odd now, I just HATE it when people do this. God I think I need a lie down
Ha! This is defo not the way dh dries himself. He drapes a towel over his shoulders and parades around naked, dripping water all over the house till dry.
I must admit I did share towels until I had a urine infection last month. Desperate for a pee I barged into the bathroom whilst my partner showered. As I sat on the loo he finished his shower and asked me to hand him the towel. As I watched him scrub his underarm hair dry I thought "I really must stop sharing that towel." As I watched him scrunch it up and rumble about his danglies I thought "seriously, one towel each from now on". After then watching open mouthed while he rubbed vigourously the underside of his penis and what can only be described as digging between his legs to reach the back of his bollocks I could no longer contain myself and shouted "I dry my fucking face on that towel!" Apparently this is how men dry themselves. I confirmed with my brother, dad, step dad and brother in law. I now no longer leave any towels in the bathroom with the exception of a single hand towel. I would hate to think of an elderly great aunt drying her hands where bollocks had been violently scrubbed only hours before.
yes i put the tea towel at the back hook and the hand towel at the front so people automatically get the hand towel first in the kitchen.
I'm with you OP. if I don't see a clean hand towel at someones house I dry my hands on my clothes! I wouldn't dream of sharing towels even among family members. I also hate it if anyone uses a tea towel to dry their hands rather than the hand towel.
never even considered sharing a towel, yuk, anyway we all have baths showers in the evening and im not using a wet towel.
would never share a toothbrush, heave.
at someone else house i look for a hand towel, if there isnt one i shake my hands rather than use someones damp bath towel.
I was put off the sharing of towels when I saw a shit streak on XP's. He hadn't even put it to the wash, but hung it back up in the bathroom, where anyone could see. We didn't share, but I wouldn't have minded until that point; we always did when I was growing up.
DH is nice and clean, but we still have our own bath towels and a hand towel.
I've never noticed what I've dried my hands on in someone else's bathroom. If I see a towel then I will dry my hands on it. It would never enter my consciousness that I need to survey the whole bathroom and pick the right one.
I think the ILs are actually washing their undercarriages after using the toilet that's why they use the bath towel
There's a chance they just see a row of towels and didn't notice the Designated Hand Towel.
This would annoy me too. Why would they do that when there is a hand towel right there??
I keep my lovely bathrobe on the back of my bedroom door and take it to the bathroom when I shower since discovering that DH and the children were all drying their hands on it when it was on the bathroom door as it was easier than using the hand towel. I am not confident that any of them (DH included!) wash their hands as thoroughly as I'd like so it did feel as if my bathrobe was muckier than I had been before getting into the shower! That said, they'd all been using the bathrobe for years before I caught DH in the act and I'd never come to any harm - it just felt icky from then on!
Hide your towel when they visit!
Right that's it, I'm drying myself in margarine from now on to eliminate any risk of cross contamination.
Well, how do you know how you get worms, eh? Eh? How do you know if it was a towel worm or a sheet worm or some other sickly, germ-ridden thing?
Oh but I don't change towels daily, they get used, put on the raidiator to dry and used again, call me a scutter!!
This has never even occured to me, if there's a hand towel nearer the sink I'd use that, but whatever towel was there I'd use it
Hands, once washed, are clean, as are bodies, surely??
But - if you feel a bath towel is dirty once used once then only take one into the bathroom when you need it, then put it straight in the wash and don't leave it in the bathroom for someone to potentially dry their hands on, and only have a hand towel in the bathroom
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