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to think pregnancy doesn't automatically make you fat?

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CailinDana Thu 31-Jan-13 20:36:04

It doesn't make me fat. The baby comes out and I'm the same as I ever was, except with more stretch marks and looser tummy muscles.

I can't be the only one, yet it seems to be an accepted thing that you're going to have "baby weight" to lose after pregnancy.

AIBU to think that plenty of women just eat a normal amount while pregnant and don't have any weight to lose once the baby is born?

VisualiseAHorse Fri 01-Feb-13 16:41:15

Pregnancy made me fatter - not fat. Just bigger than I was before. BF didn't help either, was constantly hungry and must of eaten about 8 million calories a day while BF.

LeBFG Fri 01-Feb-13 16:33:54

Lots of women exercise during pg. Activity is good - no doubt about it (though diet is the single most effective way of controlling GD). However, I particularly made reference to joggers i.e. high impact activities. Even here, most women and babies do well - I'm not stupid enough to think jogging = preterm birth hmm.

I don't think OP was implying anything particularly negative. I think she was trying to promote a debate. It is true that some people think pg = chance to get fat, see it as inevitable and blame their extra kilos on their pgs. It is a fustrating assumption some people make. I was pointing out the opposite end of the spectrum (keep thin and fit during pg) is also fustrating (and possibly more damaging?).

RooneyMara Fri 01-Feb-13 16:32:20

and fwiw I'm 5ft7, weighed 8 1/2 stone before this last pregnancy...I'm not someone who is used to being overweight. Pregnancy can be a really big deal in terms of your fitness, health and activity levels - it's a massive issue for some women.

I was riding a motorcycle till 7 months with ds1. This time I could hardly get out of bed at that point.

RooneyMara Fri 01-Feb-13 16:28:28

Only read the OP, yanbu, of course plenty of women don't put on shedloads of weight.

I put on very little with ds1, straight back to normal clothes etc. I was 29. Ds2 I put on more, lost it quickly.

Ds3 I put on a lot in the first tri as I was feeling like shit, but I had good meds this time so I could actually eat and did so overly to stop the nausea.

I put on about 2 1/2 stone all in, and had such awful SPD that I could hardly move round the house let alone exercise, I frequently cried with the pain even sitting down for most of the day.

I'm 39 now. I don't know if it's that what made the difference but anyway it was really hellish and nasty, and I hated it. I literally couldn't move around.

So it depends. I felt I'd very little control over my weight and had better things to worry about frankly.

Ds3 is 4 weeks old, I'm a stone down, I've startedwalking as I CAN walk again now - also I didn't have a car the first two times so I'm sure that contributed.

I'd hate to stay 'fat' after having babies, but really, people are lucky or they aren't. Who is anyone else to judge.

maddening Fri 01-Feb-13 16:24:26

AIBU to think that plenty of women just eat a normal amount while pregnant and don't have any weight to lose once the baby is born?

Yanbu - equally some eat normally and put weight on.

Some eat less and gain

Some eat less and don't gain

Some eat less and lose weight
Some eat loads and lose weight

Some eat loads and don't gain

Some eat loads and put on weight.

Does that cover it?

Creamtea1 Fri 01-Feb-13 16:20:49

I was a size 8 before I got pregnant, I put on half a stone in the pregnancy all of which I deposited in the delivery room, and then imagine my delight when 1 hour after the birth I slid effortlessly into some brand new size 6 topshop super skinny jeans. And not a stretch mark to be seen. and I put a crop top on to take the baby home for good measure.


SeeYouSoon Fri 01-Feb-13 16:15:56

But those are the reasons why you have to be sensible about it, and listen to your body not to stop completely - I exercised thoughout my pregnancy, never got a single BH and had an 8lb7 oz baby at 42 weeks.

CailinDana Fri 01-Feb-13 16:14:30

Because I wanted to bangers. The thread isn't about women being ashamed of weight gain, it's about the fact that not all women put on weight, which is a separate thing.

bangersmashandbeans Fri 01-Feb-13 16:12:28

Cailin if its that inconsequential to you why start a thread about it??!!

badguider Fri 01-Feb-13 16:12:18

re. jogging in pregnancy - I'm currently reading a book about just that topic with many many studies referenced finding that exercising in pregnancy lowers blood pressure, is a way of avoiding and managing gestational diabetes, and a 2002 study in journal 'epidemiology' showed exercise during a healthy pregnancy can actually decrease the risk of pre-term birth.

obviously sense is called for, and listening to your body, but for those who run before pregnancy, continuing to run/jog at a reduced intensity is actually more healthy than stopping entirely.

gordyslovesheep Fri 01-Feb-13 15:58:02

no in my case is was definitely crisps and Jubblies that added a full 2+ stone to my silly little frame

CailinDana Fri 01-Feb-13 15:51:56

Ok bangers in that case I should say it wasn't my intention to imply that. I'm not going to apologise for it though because I don't think that for a second - the idea that anyone should be ashamed of what they weigh is beyond bonkers to me.

bangersmashandbeans Fri 01-Feb-13 15:45:43

You absolutely did imply that I'm afraid.

CailinDana Fri 01-Feb-13 15:34:15

Just to point out - at no point did I say women put on weight due to laziness or indulgence, and at no point did I say or imply that putting on weight was anything to be ashamed of.

maddening Fri 01-Feb-13 15:31:28

Ps a woman I used to know was stick thin - she told me she struggled to lose weight before having children but when she got pg she just shed the weight with no change to eating habits and afterwards found it hard to put on weight

maddening Fri 01-Feb-13 15:27:33

I'm the opposite - I think the hormones do it to me - I put 2 stone on the first trimester - without changing my eating /exercise habits - both pg (1st pg ended in mc). I think it is horminally driven for me as I put 3 stone on in a year when I went on the pill - again with no change in eating or excercise. I do have pcos so this is possibly why the hormones have such an impact to me.

I was unlucky to get spd which meant I was doing less exercise during the last trimester.

Overall ended up 4 stone heavier.

I think it depends on your body.

Some do eat more etc but I don't think you can assume that thw baby weight is pure indulgence and laziness.

LeBFG Fri 01-Feb-13 14:20:05

I said don't get me started...I continued my normal activities and took care to rest between activities whilst pg first time. I'd seen some wonderful examples of healthy women doing all sorts of fun stuff at full term. I gave birth at 33 weeks and I'll never know what caused it. But I now have a completely different take on exercise and physical activity when pg. All those physical changes in out bodies are signs that we were never designed to be out running and raising our blood pressure - relaxin hormones make for unstable ankles, BHs increase, we're out of breath very quickly, we're hotter than non-pg women, resting metabolism and bp is higher, lower iron levels etc. When they measure the fetus, bp is raised after exercise, babies are born smaller (so exclaim the joggers with glee!??). I know plenty of women do this sort of thing and that's fine - it's their bodies and their mental make-up. But I do get upset by the (possibly unwitting) example it sets for all women to be more active during pg. Like we're all lazy cows who can't wait to have an excuse to fill our faces and sit on our arses for 9 months! <deep breath>.

SeeYouSoon Fri 01-Feb-13 13:22:56

"(and don't get me started on jogging when pg). " there is nothing wrong with excercising during pregancy as long as you don't start anything new and listen to your body, being sensible. I carried on my sport till 26 weeks last time, and was at the gym till much later than that and swimming till the week before he was born - I did 100 lengths at 41+5.

I just scaled down the intensity, and was sensible.

CailinDana Fri 01-Feb-13 13:22:10

Thanks bangers! <eyes up flabby bum cheeks and enjoys misplaced compliment> smile

bangersmashandbeans Fri 01-Feb-13 11:05:36

Haven't read all the replies but feel the need to simply say that OP you sound like a smug judgemental cow with your head up your tiny pert bottom. That is all.

BreastmilkDoesAFabLatte Fri 01-Feb-13 10:55:47

I didn't show at all when pregnant with DC1. The week before she was born I was both refused entry to a 'bumps n babies' coffee morning and asked (at aged 32) by a librarian if I were a university fresher.

So yes, pregnancies come, like babies and like women, in all shapes and sizes. And - barring obvious extremes and malnutrition and irresponsible overeating - neither bigger nor smaller neecssarily means healthier.

naughtycloud1 Fri 01-Feb-13 10:54:36

i only put a stone on in baby weight weight was 11stone put by the end was 12stone which was pretty good. wish id have stoped picking after not a size 14 any moresad

willyoulistentome Fri 01-Feb-13 10:50:55

I did out on a fair amount of weight - especially the second time. As someone further up said, if I didn;t keep eating, I was being sick..

However the main thing was the change in lifestyle. Before being PG I was very active with riding and looking after my horse. Rode every day, mucked out, lugged haynets, bales of shavings, feed sacks etc. Walking to and from field.

After wards, I just sat on my bum bf for weeks. Sure I put on a hell of a lot of weight!!

TwoCatsAndABabyBump Fri 01-Feb-13 10:45:14

I lost a stone in the first 3 months. Am now nearing the end and have only gained approx 2.5 pounds. My baby weighs at least 5.5lbs now so I have continued to loose weight during pregnancy it seems without even trying to.

I was still am a tubbington but I'm hoping that when I give birth I will still weigh at least a stone lighter than before I got pregnant, and that will be the lightest I will have been for years. I am also keeping my fingers crossed for breast feeding to shift a pound or two after as well. grin.

For me at the beginning I felt constantly sick. Never was sick but couldn't face the thought of eating. Now I can't finish a normal plateful of tea but I'm ravenous half an hour later which has led to some not so healthy choices.

I'm happy though, I know my babies happy and I find it quite amusing that I'm a stone lighter than i was but can't fit in my pre pregnancy jeans to save my life!

Dryjuice25 Fri 01-Feb-13 10:44:36

I lose weight during pg due to extreme morning sickness where I even have to be hospitalised. This happens throughout the pg and I lose so much weight. After birth I usually about just a few pounds heavier(with third)
and went back to my pre pg weight with 1st and 2nd. But I wouldn't wish the sickness on my worst enermy!

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