Advanced search

... to be tired of the Goady Fuckers?

(371 Posts)
MmeLindor Thu 31-Jan-13 10:00:17

Is it just me or has there been an increase in goady thread derailing in the last couple of weeks? It seems even the most innocuous of threads are being deliberately diverted by posters who only post offensive or ridiculous comments then refuse to back down.

Here's what I use MN for:

Activism and feminism
Bloggers chat

Not to have arguments with Goady Fuckers who are sitting at home delighted to have got us all off topic.

A lot of threads I've been on in the past few days have been taken completely off topic or detailed. Have we been invaded MNHQ or is it the work of a couple of fuckwits individuals?

Who wants to join me in an Anti Goady Fucker Campaign?

I vote that when someone tries to derail a thread that we all ignore and do a mass report to MNHQ. They are fed up hearing from me in the past weeks.

Pagwatch Mon 04-Feb-13 13:04:47

I can't speak for mmelinor but I wouldn't class that one post as a goady fucker.
I would report it and it is horrible, but not trollish/goady

Trollish/goady would be 'well I know others will tell you x. You just want to hear what you want. There are previous incidents like this. I guess some of you don't care about your children. I'm off to start a thread about how some of you don't like children. Why do you let people abuse your children sad I note that on here a lot ..' ad nauseum. Plus new thread about child hating mners. Etc etc

MmeLindor Mon 04-Feb-13 13:09:36

That is a good point - I have seen posts by people who I KNOW are really decent and caring but if I hadn't known them I would have reported them or said something on the thread. Particularly when someone is not posting about an issue for the first time and has ignored all advice and support in the past.

A newbie would not see that, she'd just think, 'Jeez, that Mme is a nasty piece of work'.

Difficult to say without knowing the exact details of what was being discussed, and if there was a history between the posters (see Randall's point).

Generally I would always err on the side of caution when it comes to victim blaming - I have done enough research and spoken to enough women who were victims of DV to know that many women find it difficult to recognise abuse and leave their partners.

I can't think of any reason for telling a woman who is clearly asking for help that she is part of the problem.

What I don't get in this kind of situation is what the poster hopes to achieve? Does she think that the OP will suddenly realise all she is doing wrong and LTB? And would that not be more likely to be achieved by softly softly approach and encouraging the OP to see the truth about her partner?

Is it goading? It is difficult to tell because we don't know the motives of the poster, but definitely worth reporting to MNHQ so that they can remind the poster of the We Believe You campaign, and that domestic abuse situations are more complex that a simple LTB would have us believe.

GetOrf Mon 04-Feb-13 13:15:07

Perhaps people are not being goady fuckers, but just common or garden fuckers.

And there's not much we can do about those.

MmeLindor Mon 04-Feb-13 13:15:09

yy - I agree Pagwatch

The MRA type goady fucker would go off on a tangent about how men are abused too, and how maybe the OP's DH had a previous relationship where he was abused or his mother hated him. Some women are not good mothers and hate their children...

Generally a GF doesn't use a personal attack - it is more a general <throw a bomb into the conversation> attack which will get the backs of everyone on the thread up.

Like going onto a BF/FF thread and stating that anyone who FFs their baby should be charged with child abuse.

Thumbwitch Mon 04-Feb-13 13:19:48

Interesting points, and yes I think I agree. It was just that I saw the posts just after reading this thread and thought "a-hA! Goady" but I think you're right, it was more insensitive fuckwittery, IMO.

limitedperiodonly Mon 04-Feb-13 13:39:29

I reported one where a poster kept making provocative comments to another poster who had different views. There were other people who shared the opposing views but they were left alone.

The Goader was also replying to other posters as in: 'you might say that but X will be along to disgree in a moment'.

To me, it was obvious it was personal. The GF could have just stated her case without the comments.

X was really restrained because it was nasty provocation. Without naming names she's the kind of poster who has strong views and gets people's backs up. I don't agree with her all the time but then I'd just say so or ignore her. I wouldn't be childish about it.

I was surprised to read that some GFs campaign against some posters to get them deleted or banned. I'm naive like that. wink Now I think that could well have been happening on that thread.

I asked MNHQ for an 'Ahem' to keep the debate civilised but not to delete the GF's posts because any decent person should see how petty they were.

MNHQ obviously didn't agree because they did nothing. I expect I was just imagining it hmm

BeerTricksPotter Mon 04-Feb-13 13:43:09

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

limitedperiodonly Mon 04-Feb-13 13:55:24

YY beertricks.

I realise I've come over all Enid Blyton with my talk of 'backs up' and 'decent people'.

But GFs get me like that. Bastard rum coves.

I want to tell people not to reply to GFs and just to hit Report, especially on FWR, which I lurk on. But that would make me even more priggishly head girlish.

MmeLindor Mon 04-Feb-13 13:58:48

I don't think there are lots of goaders hoping to get someone banned - it is a fine line to tread and just as likely to get the goader banned as the other poster.

I know that MNHQ don't always do what we would like them to do, but as Randall commented earlier, they do have a very difficult job and have access to information that we don't have.

GetOrf Mon 04-Feb-13 14:05:09

Can you imagine any of us lot with a job at MNHQ.

We would be really GOOD wouldn't we. No trigger happy deletions. Oh no.

Anyone new they interview - the first question must be 'are you a MNer' and if they say yes they show them the door.

MmeLindor Mon 04-Feb-13 14:12:27

I would spend the first week searching poster profiles and saying OMG GETORF IS ACTUALLY SCOTTISHMUMMY AND BONSOIR* across the office, as everyone just nodded sadly.

*disclaimer - I have no actual evidence for this claim, and since Getorf rarely posts in couthy Haikus, I presume it is not true... but you never know!

GetOrf Mon 04-Feb-13 14:19:35

Haha, I do like my passive aggressive smiley face, so I COULD BE. <dramatic music>

FloatyBeatie Mon 04-Feb-13 14:22:16

If I worked at MNHQ I would spend the first week trying to find out who I am. I've had so many usernames I need a right good defragging.

MmeLindor Mon 04-Feb-13 14:25:51

'I need a right good defragging'

fnarr fnarr

limitedperiodonly Mon 04-Feb-13 14:31:18

MmeLindor the campaigns were mentioned on a different thread, not this one. It made me think, that's all. I don't think it's that common but I wouldn't be surprised at the lengths some people will go to and I think some of them will take the risk of being banned - that's if they even think that far.

I certainly don't think MNHQ should do what I say. But the provocation was obvious - you didn't need special powers to see it. An 'ahem' was all that was needed. I've seen it done elsewhere where one poster is playing another poster, not the post, as they say.

I felt like posting in X's defence, but didn't feel I could. I'd been lurking because it was a subject I was interested in but one on which I didn't have anything brilliant to contribute. If I'd have posted telling the attacker off out of the blue it might have looked like X had got her mates together. That was why I reported like a good girl. What happened or didn't happen next was not my decision.

That was a particular case, which I raised because it interested me and struck me as an example of derailing or general Goady Fuckery. I'm not Mystery X's mate btw and she doesn't need me to stand up for her wink. I just don't like spite when I see it and like I said, it was pretty obvious.

RandallPinkFloyd Mon 04-Feb-13 14:33:01

I'd be ace as an HQer, I'd be sitting there fascinated by everyone's secret name change threads and oblivious to the blood being shed as a thread full of people fight to the death over under-floor heating.

It just makes me laugh sometimes when we all think we know more about the troll than HQ do. I do report if I see something I think is off but I always imagine my report of "erm I'm not sure but something seems a bit weird about this" being met with eye rolls and "No shit. Don't give up the day job Nancy Drew" grin

limitedperiodonly Mon 04-Feb-13 14:33:01

That wasn't meant to be arsey, btw.

<how would you know? Mwha ha ha>

LtEveDallas Mon 04-Feb-13 14:40:07

Limited, I've done that too, and surprised myself as the poster I 'stood up for' was actually someone I didn't really like that much - But sometimes when people are being nasty just for the sake of it I think it is 'right' to get involved.

(Mind you I got it very wrong in a step-parenting thread where I thought the posters were being really unecessarily harsh to the OP, it was quite shock, especially from people that I thought I understood. What I didn't know was that there was a huuuuuge backstory and the OP was recognised from posting lots and lots of similar threads, which was why she was getting the reception she was blush)

limitedperiodonly Mon 04-Feb-13 14:53:04

Good reason for keeping quiet LtEve. grin

I'm still feeling smug about the woman who accused me of pushing in at Sainsbury's on Saturday only for the assistant to say in front of everyone: 'Oh, no. She was definitely next.'

I was, actually.

MmeLindor Mon 04-Feb-13 15:06:20

Oh, I jump in all the time and support posters - not always welcomed and needed but <shrug>

Sometimes a comment from a non involved poster can be helpful, even if it is just a 'Woah. That was quite rude'.

limitedperiodonly Mon 04-Feb-13 15:36:51

You're right, MmeLindor. Bugger. I can't resurrect that thread now because that would make me look like a GF.

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, watch threads, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now »

Already registered? Log in with: