A friend of mine is same age as me - we were school/college friends. Don't get to see her that often now, as I've 3 DC and we live in different cities, apart from Xmas, etc.
Every time we try and meet she is always, always about an hour late, as was took her time getting ready. She does this to everyone, often at times when we've dinner booked, etc. But it's always our fault for not waiting, booking dinner too early, etc, or like 'what's the big deal?!' (particularly galling as my and DH might have gotten a babysitter to go out with friends, etc)
was on to on the phone a good bit this week as she was meant to come up and see me and the kids and stay over. I also told her of my idea to fix her up on a blind date with a single work colleague who I think she's suit (BTW, he's also a bit too easy going but a nice enough guy) but got a text saying she wasn't feeling great, etc.
she's a lovely looking girl, very pretty, but can't seem to hold down a relationship. in fact, she has never been in a long term relationship. we had a chat recently on the phone about it all and according to her, the guys she meet are just non-committal bas**rds, and she also thinks a lot of them could be 'gay' but in the closet!! 
. She expects to be treated like a princess, and is very conscious of what potential guy earns, etc, which is fine if she's thinking about kids, etc, but surely it more about a guy's values not hi pay packet?
I just listened, etc but i felt like saying the reason you are still single is:
a. you flirt with guys and base it all around alcohol and nights out whereas you're much more a woman of substance and intelligence bt feel you have to act the 'cutsie' girl. This worked at age 22, not age 37.
b. you're not great at compromise and are too precious about your own time and needs which will not work for a relationship.
c. you can be too superficial when seeking out potential boyfriends - looks, job, etc - but you ould meet a gem of a man if you were more open
d. You can't even commit to meeting us at a particular time when we've arranged to meet, how could you commit to a relationship!!
Bit harsh?
I relaly like this girl, bit i fear she will be single if she continues on. she's love to get married and have children, etc (which we all know is an ideal state that require no work of compromise whatsoever! but there are lots of single women out there who are just feel are not as open, are too fussy and too prescriptive about what they want and not open to seeing maybe what they need.
AIBU (don't flame me!)
AIBU?
Would I a bitch to tell my friend the reasons, as I see it, why she is still single?!
MrsBramStoker · 26/01/2013 14:58
Totally agree not my problem and really doesn't make a difference to my life if she's still single.
But got me thinking. some single women in their 30's go around saying they'd love a relationship/marriage/kids but do they really? Really? Some are quite happy with own space etc and don't really know what it means to a committed.
Sometimes I look at her and think she's got all this free time/no responsibilities whereas we have 3 kids under the age of 5. But I know I wouldn't change it for the world.
In reality, I think she couldn't be arsed putting the work in to really settle down with a guy
(Gosh I sound so romantic coming up to Valentine's day )
Yabu.
Leave her to it. She does sound a bit 
but I would be so annoyed if a friend decided to set out for me the reasons why they think I am single!
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LIMELEF thank you - that's exactly it - I got it off my chest.
Of course in reality I wouldn't say this to her!
And some of you are missing the point - of course it's ok to be single - in fact, I loved my single life/before I got married too. But she WANTS to be in a relationship.
pigsmummy - where exactly did I state my superiority at being married ?! a cheap shot
I just think deep down she likes her own space too much.
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