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Aibu to hold a wedding reception on sister's birthday?

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Sexolette Sat 19-Jan-13 17:04:33

I'll keep it short.

We recently had a tiny, family only wedding with the plan always being to have a party in the summer.

We are organising said party now and have juat sent out info to people to hold the date.

My sister has told me that obviously she is not coming as it's her birthday and why would she want to go to someone else's party on that day.

I haven't risen to the bait. Am I being unreasonable to hold the party on that date? ?

It's not a milestone birthday, mid twenties.

ApocalypseThen Sat 19-Jan-13 17:05:17

You could choose any day, why this one?

Sexolette Sat 19-Jan-13 17:06:25

We want a midsummer Saturday, only have every other weekend free and have some other holidays booked in which mqke this the best date

wewereherefirst Sat 19-Jan-13 17:06:59

Why your sisters birthday? There's 364 other days to choose. IMO YABU.

HollyBerryBush Sat 19-Jan-13 17:07:04

People don't own dates.

however I'm wondering if there is a history of sibling rivalry between you both

Pandemoniaa Sat 19-Jan-13 17:07:07

Given that you are waiting months and months to have this party, why choose your sister's birthday in the first place?

Pinot Sat 19-Jan-13 17:08:03

YABU and clearly goading your sister. You're also making it awkward for the rest of your family.

What a crap way to celebrate your marriage.

DawnOfTheDee Sat 19-Jan-13 17:08:32

It's a bit odd that you chose that date tbh. I can't believe it's the only date available.

Pandemoniaa Sat 19-Jan-13 17:08:50

It sounds a bit insensitive, tbh. I've no time for adults who get terribly precious about their birthdays but for all that, did you not realise this this wasn't perhaps the best date?

Sexolette Sat 19-Jan-13 17:09:00

Interesting interpretation Pinot.

As a family we never celebrate birthdays together

HermioneE Sat 19-Jan-13 17:09:28

Didn't it occur to you to talk to her first about the date?

delilahbelle Sat 19-Jan-13 17:09:40

Seems a bit harsh of you to book this date when you have the whole summer to choose from. It might not be a milestone birthday, but I'm sure your sister will still want her own night out with her friends. Given there is ages to go, why don't you chose another day?

Pandemoniaa Sat 19-Jan-13 17:09:56

As a family we never celebrate birthdays together

It doesn't sound as if you'll be celebrating this one either!

notMarlene Sat 19-Jan-13 17:10:03

Yeah, choosing that particular date was a shit thing to do.

Sexolette Sat 19-Jan-13 17:10:24

It's not the only date, but as I have explained above it's the date which best suits us. I'm quite surprised by the responses to be honest.

TinyDancingHoofer Sat 19-Jan-13 17:10:29


TheSecondComing Sat 19-Jan-13 17:11:06

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DawnOfTheDee Sat 19-Jan-13 17:11:59

Whether you celebrate birthdays as a family or not isn't really relevant. You could have chose any number of dates but you chose one that you knew clashed with something. It does sound a bit inflammatory.

HyvaPaiva Sat 19-Jan-13 17:12:01

Exactly what Pinot said.

SpicyPear Sat 19-Jan-13 17:13:34

You are completely out of order. Pretty selfish thing to do and my first reaction was same as Pinot.

HollyBerryBush Sat 19-Jan-13 17:13:56

Are you the older or younger isiter? (nosey!)

Personally I dont see anything wrong with it - and this is another one where I cant make head nor tail of MN - most of the tiome the comments are along the lines of "no one over 6 has a party/bothers about birthdays/does it end in zero"

I still think there is sibling rivalry and if she doesnt want to come to your party, so be it.

TallyGrenshall Sat 19-Jan-13 17:14:46


That is going to be one awkward weekend

MoominmammasHandbag Sat 19-Jan-13 17:15:14

I am constantly amazed by the fuss that some adults make about their birthdays.
YANBU OP, your sister needs to grow up.

Gomez Sat 19-Jan-13 17:15:29

Mmm. Seems unnecessary IMO. You have months to chose a day and it just happens to be your sisters birthday. And the first she hears about it is a save the date card?

I am guessing not...

Sexolette Sat 19-Jan-13 17:15:44

Older sister.

I was quite taken aback by her reaction. No rivalry, we're not that close.

Clearly everyone is a lot more precious about birthdays than me!

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