I have had to move back in with my DM and DF 7 weeks ago. I have found the my mum is very overbearing with my DS and thinks that she is mum sometimes, It is driving me insane and I new to know if its just me or she generally is being unreasonable.
Some of the things she does are...
- She criticises me when I discipline DS, I use the 'Time out' technique and it works well for us my she is always telling me (While trying to teach DS) that 'He needs a smack, That will teach him' She keeps going on about how I should smack him as we were smacked as children and it 'Didn't do us any harm'. I would never smack my DS, end of.
- She calls him 'My boy' and refers to him as this to whoever she is talking to.
- She continuously tells people how she is sure that DS will call her and my DF 'Mum' and 'Dad' because they are a parental figure now.
- I am pregnant with DC2 and I have a scan next week, Because it is booked on a day that she is busy and can't attend I have been told that I 'Never consider other people' I am 'Utterly selfish' and I have been told to 'Shut the fuck up' every time I talk to her about it. FYI she can come to the scan it had to be booked that day as that was the only day i was offered and i have an appointment the week after for results etc. she has now said that she doesn't want to because I tried to exclude her.
- She criticises everything DS wears, If he is in his pyjamas too long or if an outfit doesn't match it's 'Mummy's fault'.
- When I tell DS 'No' an he is upset he will run to her and she picks him up straight away and tells him 'Mummy's being mean'.
- When I am playing with DS she is always find something that will interest him more and so he leaves me and plays with her, This happens every time.
- She criticises my portion sizes for DS and what he eats when i feed him. (Always healthy food, Within the guidelines).
- If he is playing with something pink she snatches it off of him and says 'Only girls play with pink things'.
10. She has to give him his bedtime bottle or she becomes moody as that is the only time DS will sit still and have a cuddle (He has never been a cuddly baby) Then hands him over to me to take him to bed.
11. She walks in my room when she hears that he is awake to say hello when I am getting ready to get up.
Every time I try to talk to her about these things she gets angry and creates an atmosphere for everyone else for the rest of the week.
I don't know what to do, AIBU? Or is this normal?