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to want my in-laws to just go home now...

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Florabeebaby Thu 17-Jan-13 19:58:00

they have been here for 7 weeks...the flight is on Sunday.

We have a 2 bed flat, DD 2yr and DS 3m...AIBU to want them to go home now and give me my home and my TV back?

If they ever come back again it's not for more than 2 weeks...otherwise DH will be faced with divorce papers.

That is all.

Florabeebaby Fri 18-Jan-13 12:43:43

I will take that gold medal thank you. smile

DH lost the will to live about 3 weeks in (!!!)..he is self-employed so just works a lot...and takes DD out a lot. He is being wonderful, cooking, cleaning, bathtimes etc...the list goes on. I always wonder how he became the man he is when I spend time with PILs. Wonderful.

They are from Algeria, my French is veeery basic but I muddle through's been bloody hard work though.

DS is fine, his consultant was very happy so no worries there. But it's true, I feel like I am missing out on bonding with him a bit, I'm so busy all the time.

This snow is freaking me out...Heathrow better stay open on Sunday. And the roads clear so DH can drive there and back without problems.

Sunday night plan is take-away, film and sofa. Can't wait.

ps. Just had to rescue some of my DDs toys from the bags as well...If they ask me I will happily give some but come on, don't take.

Sorelip Fri 18-Jan-13 12:45:59

I don't want to freak you out but I've seen online that Heathrow has cancelled a load of flights.

Pigsmummy Fri 18-Jan-13 12:48:04

Wow, you are my hero.

Get some time off? Leave DC with DH and go shopping/coffee/hair cut/anything, you deserve it and the end is in sight!

shesariver Fri 18-Jan-13 12:51:55

Im a rather staunch defender of ILs on here as I feel some DILs are just too controlling and precious but congratulations OP, you have managed to get a YANBU from me, 7 weeks in your home - good god! Did you know it would be 7 weeks or have they just stayed longer than planned?

Florabeebaby Fri 18-Jan-13 12:52:30

Oh, cancellations I knew about...all this might affect the fligths on Sunday even if the snow is gone...


FatimaLovesBread Fri 18-Jan-13 12:52:53

They're stealing your DDs toys?! shock

And purplefairies a 2hr drive not been worth less than a weeks visit! I live in Yorkshire and we have friends in Leicester and we often meet just for an afternoon. Madness

thegreylady Fri 18-Jan-13 12:56:17

Why on earth do they want your dd's toys?

WaynettaSlobsLover Fri 18-Jan-13 12:58:27

Strangely enough flora....I did think they might be Arab!! Lol my in laws are too. Boys and men are waited on from my experience..hence fil having a paddy about wanting an omelette.

diddl Fri 18-Jan-13 13:06:51

Well for me, 7weeks would mean never ever having to host them again!

hugoagogo Fri 18-Jan-13 13:07:47


My dm and sd stayed for 4 days one christmas, me and dh still talk about how terrible it was and how we thought they would never go home.

7 weeks <faints>

EarlyInTheMorning Fri 18-Jan-13 13:17:49

They're probably taking a toy as a momentum though...

DeepRedBetty Fri 18-Jan-13 13:22:25

dds toys????


2rebecca Fri 18-Jan-13 13:41:51

Having parents and inlaws young enough to still be in employment stops this sort of stuff as they can't get that long off work. I wouldn't want anyone for longer than 2 weeks. They could stay in a b&b if they wanted to spend longer in the area. We both work and I don't want to run a hotel as well.

Hissy Fri 18-Jan-13 14:56:46

my EX was from Egypt. His extended family were exactly the same. Everyone steals from everyone.

7 weeks is excessive and for them to do jack shit in terms of helping, while typical, it's unacceptable tbh.

Don't have them back again to your home, put them in a B&B, regardless of what the Algerian Tradition is.... hmm Put it this way, if they were paying for it, they'd not stay in a B&B for months would they?

Glad to hear that your H doesn't expect to be waited on hand and foot like his father.

Florabeebaby Fri 18-Jan-13 15:35:47

It is tradition, shameful to not have people in your home.

DH has seen the error of his ways more invitations from us to anyone.

Yeah, the stealing is weird...i've since discoverd a bar of soap and some make-up...weird.

They are not awful people, just a bit useless and FIL is someone who has never had to do anything for himself, even his clothes are laid out in the morning shock

I would never have married DH if he had been anything like's like he doesn't quite belong to that family at all.

This afternoon I have played with DD and fed/settled etc DS, all the while MIL is watching telly (we have a satellite for arab channels)...DH and FIL are out...Just want everyone to go so that I can chill and watch The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills! smile

oldraver Fri 18-Jan-13 15:57:08

Oh well I'm surprised the snow hasn't interfered with your satellite unplug the fucker

diddl Fri 18-Jan-13 15:57:49

"It is tradition, shameful to not have people in your home."

Tradition for who??

Not for you!

If it´s your husband´s tradition-why has he been ducking out of entertaining them??

Who is going to be ashamed of your husband if it doesn´t happen again-anyone important?

Florabeebaby Fri 18-Jan-13 17:12:51

Not my tradition! And never will be.

My DH has been doing stuff but I suppose he is a bit more know, can speak to them and so on. ;)

And I'm so used to walking around half-dressed etc and now I have to be on alert all the time...

It kind of worked when we didn't have kids but way.

Good idea about the was off earlier this morning for a while so yes, I will unplug it and say it's the snow! Brill idea, can watch Emmerdale and Corrie then as well...ha!

WaynettaSlobsLover Fri 18-Jan-13 17:26:00

I deal with my arab in laws like this: I am European. That means I can still be a good cook, clean my house, be a good mother and have hobbies dont include just waiting on everyone all the time. I don't want my kids drinking loads of milk, please don't give me any diet or health advice since most of you are overweight/riddled with diabetes/health problems galore. Other than that I love you but don't take offence if in my culture we don't live in each others pockets. grin OP, I salute you as the fellow wife of a North African lol

Mynewmoniker Fri 18-Jan-13 18:37:19

You'll have to put HWBH on for the whole day to catch up...but it'll be worth it. You wont believe what happened today! grin

I don't know how you keep your annoyance contained. Especially now they've started nicking from you! Put a mouse trap in your make-up bag...that'll learn em!

2rebecca Fri 18-Jan-13 18:41:19

Why do relatives too old to have jobs want to steal a child's toys?

EyeoftheStorm Fri 18-Jan-13 18:56:05

I salute you, Florabee. My MIL came for three weeks (from Australia) after DS2 born prematurely. I ended up with PTSD. She was the straw that broke the camel's back. It would have helped if I couldn't understand what she said though wink

7 weeks!

Cortana Fri 18-Jan-13 20:01:10

<gets bunting ready for when they leave>

You, are a saint. YANBU!

pointythings Fri 18-Jan-13 20:32:49

OP, you are a goddess.

My ILs (when they were alive) were in the US, 7 hours away. And they never stayed for more than 2 weeks because they didn't want to impose. And they helped around the house, entertained the DDs, did laundry and shopping for us and were genuinely lovely.

And even then I was always glad to have the house to ourselves again, it's just different with long-staying house guests.

marriedinwhite Fri 18-Jan-13 20:36:34

Two more sleeps OP. Early night tonight and then it's nearly all over. >>hugs<<

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