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AIBU?

In telling DS that he is not taking his silly routine to the school talent show auditions.

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Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 15/01/2013 17:09

DS (Aged 8) and his friend of same age want to take part in the talent competition doing a "fighting" routine sort of martial arts style.
This is a bloody ridiculous AIBU, but I am torn between letting them do it and then finding out that it is a bad idea and telling them NO because someone will get hurt and they have no chance of getting through anyway.

They were showing me their "routine" in the play ground after school when one of the teachers told the boys to stop what they were doing.
ARGH!! What should I do? I think this is one of those times when I should be the adult and say NO they cannot do it!!

(Apologies for the non-issue that this AIBU is)

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FauxFox · 15/01/2013 17:10

i would let them get on with it tbh - it's school's prob not yours really.

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DeltaUniformDeltaEcho · 15/01/2013 17:12

If there is an audition system then let them go for it and let the teachers crush their poor dreams....

worked when DD wanted to do a joke routine that made me want to stab myself in the eye

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CocktailQueen · 15/01/2013 17:13

Our school does an audition system. They tend to let one of each act through - one gymnast, one dance group, one singer, one martial arts etc - to be PC. So your ds may not make it through the audition, or he may be good! Or so I see it Grin

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Catsdontcare · 15/01/2013 17:14

Oh this is one of the few times you can let other adults be the bad guy. Prep him for the fact that the teacher may not find it appropriate then wish him well!

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Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 15/01/2013 17:25

ARGH!! Okay, seems I should let him go ahead.

The real bugger is that he tells me today that auditions are tomorrow. Anyone got a spare ninja costume lying around????

(My concern is also because I HATED being made to feel foolish when I was young. If someone else was made to look silly, I would be embarrassed on their behalf. Same in this situation - I cringe when I see DS do his martial arts thing).

Thanks for all the replies!

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wibblyjelly · 15/01/2013 17:27

Link to how to make a ninja mask out of a t shirt Grin

how2dostuff.blogspot.co.uk/2005/11/how-to-make-ninja-mask-out-of-t-shirt.html

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MrsLouisTheroux · 15/01/2013 17:29

I would tell him that you don't enjoy watching it but that it's up to him. Then let him get on with it. Sometimes we should let our DC's fail.

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Whatdoiknowanyway · 15/01/2013 17:33

I remember a talent show at my children's primary where one boy's talent was that he could drink a certain amount of water in 30s.
He couldn't. He got soaked. He looked ridiculous if you wanted to be negative but he was cheered to the rafters by the other children.

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manicinsomniac · 15/01/2013 17:34

oh, I'd just let him have a go.

I give all our acts that don't go through stars and a little prize. Some of them are truly shit but it's better to encourage them than to be too po faced about only wanting real talent and end up with 5 acts auditioning.

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usualsuspect · 15/01/2013 17:36

Just let them do it, you spoil sport.

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LadyBeagleEyes · 15/01/2013 17:37

These post has really made me giggleGrin.

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Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 15/01/2013 17:39

spoilsport Grin. Yip! That's part of my ridiculous dilemma - am I a spoil sport or a sensible mum if I say YOU HAVE GOT TO BE BLOODY KIDDING!

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Fakebook · 15/01/2013 17:40

They were showing me their "routine" in the play ground after school when one of the teachers told the boys to stop what they were doing.

Grin hahaha, it must be really bad then! I'd let them get on with it. Poor things.

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usualsuspect · 15/01/2013 17:44

Just let them make fools of themselves have a go Grin

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MrsMushroom · 15/01/2013 17:46

Let him do it! At DDs Brownie talent night, most of the acts consited of little girls doing rollovers. Same thing.

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JamieandtheMagicTorch · 15/01/2013 17:47

I'm amazed at what I find cringey is deemed cool, or at least, not embarrassing by the watching kids. I know you want to protect him, but I'd try not to worry

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MrsMushroom · 15/01/2013 17:47

Make them make an effort on the costumes....I like Wibblys link...maybe they could incorporate that!

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JamieandtheMagicTorch · 15/01/2013 17:48

Also, if thei it with enough chutzpah, some kids can get away with anything. I think their confidence is to be applauded

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Pancakeflipper · 15/01/2013 17:49

Let him do it and let them deal with it. They will have seen worse I bet.

My DS1 did a magic show that involved making chocolate disappear he ate it

I am sure teachers only do these things to laugh over in the staff room.

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JamieandtheMagicTorch · 15/01/2013 17:49

sorry that was meant to say "if they do it with enough chutzpah"

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Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 15/01/2013 17:53

JamieandtheMagicTorch, about 18 months ago DS still needed me to stay at parties with him because he was too scared to stay on his own, so yes, I should be pleased that he is this confident.

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JamieandtheMagicTorch · 15/01/2013 17:56

I think that when we think about our children at school we sometimes imagine the worst possible outcomes - some horrible malevolent child laughing at them. I work in a school and that happens a lot less than you would expect, and if it does, unlike when I was a child, it's picked up on. Teasing, IME, is not tolerated as it was when I was a child, and children are much more supportive of each other than we remember/imagine

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LaCiccolina · 15/01/2013 17:57

I really don't get it. U would prefer a dance routine? Martial arts can make decent routines, seen enough on BGT and AGT shows! I appreciate he's 8 so not likely to win a show at Las Vegas but this thread seems all about u, if u like it, if u wAnt him to do it, if it will show u up/show him up, how u feel. Barely a thing about if he enjoyed doing it!

If he gets teased it will be for one day only. If he gets thru imagine how chuffed he will be.

Yabu.

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Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 15/01/2013 18:01

Yes, LaCiccolina, the thread IS about me - I was wondering if I would be unreasonable to tell my son something. I was not asking if DS was being unreasonable to perform the "routine".

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DeWe · 15/01/2013 18:59

At dd's school it's voted by the children, so the popular children singing a pop song always are the ones that get through. It's a bit embarrassing watching them do the final acts as they are cringingly bad often, particularly when you know that some children's well rehearsed actual talents (and I'm not looking at my dc here) were voted off in the first round. Hmm

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