To have a serious word with ex p about DS's bedtime.

[JillyWillyPops]

Me and ex split up in sept and I finally moved out in nov. we have a verbal agreement the he has ds1(7) and ds(2) 2.5 on a mon, wed and either Friday or Saturday night.

While we were together the boys had a strict routine during the week where ds2 was on bed at 7 and ds1 at 7.30.

I have managed to keep this routine going but ex p has severely let it slip, he is letting ds1 stay up with him for company till he goes to bed at 10.30 sometimes 11 and this is on the school nights!

Now I know that it can get lonely at night but I believe that children need there sleep to thrive. I have mentioned this to him before and he just sort of shrugged it off.

Ds1 has come home from school today saying he's tired and tells me that he was watching mrs browns boys last night which is inappropriate as well for a 7 year old.

AIBU to kick off about this or should I just let it go and let him enjoy some time with his dad?

Sorry it's so long!

[StuntGirl]

Moving between houses every day isn't much of a routine anyway. Could you change the days around so things are a bit more stable for them?

[usualsuspect]

I agree with Stuntgirl, could you jig the days around a bit during term time?

[JillyWillyPops]

It wouldn't be possible to be honest to swap the days around due to his work commitments and lack of childcare. They have both adjusted well to going to their dads every other night and get excited about going.

[pictish]

It's up to your ex, and that's that.
I understand why you feel the way you do, but there's nothing more you can do - you have said your piece.
When the kids are with dad, then dad decides.

[usualsuspect]

Have you spoke to your ex about your DS saying hes tired at school? I wouldn't be happy about a 7 year old being up until 11 on a school night TBH.

[JillyWillyPops]

pictish - I understand what you're saying but it's me that has to deal with the fallout at home when ds is too tired to do his homework and his schoolwork is dropping as a result of this.

Usual - yeah I've asked him before to make sure ds is in bed by 7.30 due to school work dropping but he just shrugged it off.

[StuntGirl]

Could you arrange a meeting at the school to discuss your sons tiredness and its effects?

[JillyWillyPops]

Yeah that's a good idea stunt girl, I'll do that tomorrow.