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to be embarrassed about family members detailing everything on Facebook

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MWBBE Tue 15-Jan-13 11:50:41

A couple of family members insist on detailing everything they do on their Facebook statuses. They update their statuses about ten times per day and write everything, what they are having for dinner, that they are on the train, that they are going to the green grocers'.......... they don't limit it to stuff that most people would find funny or interesting like most people do. They are also very opinionated and use Facebook to voice their sometimes rather strong opinions.

A couple of people have made sarcastic comments about them to me and I am a bit embarrassed on their behalf. I think they are making themselves look a bit silly perhaps and I know a couple of people are sniggering at them.

They are adults and its a free country and up to them what they write on Facebook, but AIBU to be embarrassed by their behaviour?

manicbmc Tue 15-Jan-13 11:53:04

You can limit what you see of them and what they see you post I think. Unless they've bloody changed it again hmm

MWBBE Tue 15-Jan-13 11:55:08

How do I do that? I really need to know!

axure Tue 15-Jan-13 11:57:39

As long as they weren't posting anything about me I wouldn't' worry. Why should you feel embarrassed? It's their behaviour, we've all got odd/ weird relatives.

manicbmc Tue 15-Jan-13 11:58:16

Privacy settings and go to custom content and then just add the names of those you don't want to see everything.

If one of these people has posted something then there is a little down arrow on the right and from there you should be able to limit what you see from them.

Paiviaso Tue 15-Jan-13 12:06:33


My mom status updates include "chain mail" and those scaremongering statuses ("Facebook has erased your privacy settings and killed your pets", etc). I always cringe for her.

Just hide them from your newsfeed!

Tee2072 Tue 15-Jan-13 12:08:08

Click on the arrow next to their name on the right and change your settings.

Or stop using FB. It isn't required in life.

Cherriesarelovely Tue 15-Jan-13 12:08:36

I agree so I hid them.

picketywick Tue 15-Jan-13 12:24:17

yes, that could be a problem I suppose one shud ask members of your family if they mind you doing it. Good manners?

WhatsTheBuzz Tue 15-Jan-13 12:45:48

yanbu, one reason I stopped using it. Seriously, something amazing happens and some people's first thought is 'putting that on facebook'. Yawn.

Birdsgottafly Tue 15-Jan-13 12:46:02

A couple of people have made sarcastic comments about them to me

That's even worse than your relative's statuses, tbh. They should be the one's hiding the posts, or making a comment back, not wanting a conversation with you about them.

Other people's behaviour has no relection on you and you shouldn't feel embarrassed.

Tackle the comments. If they don't like the posts of people they are "friends" with, then they should deal with it and not tell you about it.

pictish Tue 15-Jan-13 12:47:57's up to them. YOU don't do it, so no need to feel embarrassed.

DoJo Tue 15-Jan-13 23:33:36

Presumably these people are friends with your family members themselves, in which case they can choose to limit what they see or bring it up with the person themselves. Either way they should STFU making comments to you about it - it's neither your fault nor your place to feel embarrassed on their behalf.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Wed 16-Jan-13 08:52:56

YANBU to feel embarrassed but we're all flawed in some way, would these people making snide comments about your family have the balls to say so face to face? Look at the bigger picture, in a crisis would you be able to call on your family members who sometimes post daft or dreary minutiae for help, or the people making sarcastic comments? Just hide what bothers you.

DeWe Wed 16-Jan-13 10:15:28

I think someone suggested once that you could try them at their own game.
Your statusses (or should it be statii!!) go along the lines of
1Breathed in
2Breathed out
3Breathed in
4Breathed out
5Breathed in
6Breathed out
8Breathed in
9Breathed out
10Breathed in
11Breathed out...
and see if they comment...

MmBovary Sat 19-Jan-13 00:54:26

I still don't understand how people can complicate their lives so much on Facebook. Just don't use it, and you will not see any of this, therefore not be upset either.

MurderOfGoths Sat 19-Jan-13 02:50:40

I'd be more embarrassed by the people that were sniggering behind their backs tbh.

makemineamalibuandpineapple Sat 19-Jan-13 08:31:02

It's because the people who have really interesting lives are off leading them and don't have time to be updating their FB status telling us all about it. People that update all the time have nothing better to do.

butterflyroom Sat 19-Jan-13 09:49:18

....don't have time to go on facebook but Mumsnet's more 'acceptable'???grin

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