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AIBU?

To kick Ds2 out.......

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GirlOutNumbered · 13/01/2013 08:36

Of my bedroom before sixth months?

He's a screamer. Not in a crying way, in a 'look, I'm awake, everything is really exciting' kind if way. He only now feeds once in the night, but I'm awake a lot more listening to him!

Am I being unreasonable to ship him next door already?

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Bananapickle · 13/01/2013 08:40

Other people will disagree with me but put him in his own room! I wont tell you how early I put my DD in her own room because it will scare some MNers!
It is up to you, for us we felt it was fine as the walls in our house are paper thin and I could hear her first noises in the night without a monitor. She too was a good sleeper and didn't need feeding often in the night so it meant we all, including her, got better sleep.
Do what you feel comfortable doing.

ScalesAndMirrorsLie · 13/01/2013 08:46

But won't you still hear him if he's in another room?

If you think he's ready to move into a room of his own then fair enough, but you want to move him so you can't hear him?

It's his only way of telling you something's wrong, that's how he communicates with you-though I don't like my dc screaming, I'd like to be able to hear them in case anything is wrong.

If the screaming is that bad you'll still hear him anyway so I don't see the point in moving him. Maybe try an find a resolution to stop him screaming?

VitoCorleone · 13/01/2013 08:48

I put my youngest in his own room at 5 months. He was still getting up once through the night but after a couple of weeks he was sleeping right through.

MummytoKatie · 13/01/2013 09:05

From what I've been told by a GP cot death is often caused by the baby falling so deeply asleep that they forget to breathe and don't wake up.

Sleeping on back works because poor baby is really uncomfortable (at 20 weeks I agree!) on his back that he never falls deeply asleep enough. Sharing a room works because you disturb baby, baby disturbs you and you are all far too disturbed to fall deeply asleep.

I found it much easier to deal with the endless snuffling once I knew this.

However, it's all about balance. If you have baby in your room then you'll reduce the chance of cot death but if you are so sleep deprived you push the buggy across the road without remembering to look then that is more risky than shifting baby in the first place.

2tired2bewitty · 13/01/2013 09:09

Dd was evicted at 5 months as she no longer fitted in the Moses basket and there is no room for a cot in our bedroom. How old is ds?

GirlOutNumbered · 13/01/2013 09:38

Des is only 4 months, I think me and my earplugs will have to cope until 5 months, that seems a good age. I shouldn't moan, people are having a much worse time than me.... He's just so noisy!

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MummytoMog · 13/01/2013 09:55

Nah - I chucked both mine out at five months. We all slept better afterwards. Get a respisense if you're worried xx

StraightTalkinSheila · 13/01/2013 13:32

"Risky" to put a baby in its own room at six months? Jesus wept.

Nancy66 · 13/01/2013 13:34

Some people don't have their babies in with them at all. I didn't.

janey68 · 13/01/2013 13:37

These things are guidelines, not hard and fast rules. There is no magic law that means your child is suddenly different the day they turn 6 months. As someone has wisely said, it's a case of weighing things up. If you so sleep deprived that you're either unsafe, or even just grumpy and not giving of your best as a parent, the following day, then you're being a slave to the guidelines rather than letting your common sense prevail.

SashaSashays · 13/01/2013 13:42

YANBU, I never had them in with me after the early days. I didn't realise people did unless they co-sleep or were short on space.

I couldn't of settled with them right there all the time. If you feel he's ready and that you'll be better off for it then why not.

TooManyDicksOnTheDancefloor · 13/01/2013 13:42

Dd1 went in her own room (next door) at 3 days, dd2 has just gone into her own room at 5 weeks. I thought I was doing well keeping her that long! I have the monitor next to my ear though.

ChristmasJubilee · 13/01/2013 13:47

StraightTalkingSheila the baby is only 4 months and yes, there is a greater risk of cot death in babies of this age who sleep in a room alone.

OP you can only weigh up the risks and make an informed decision. I wouldn't take the chance.

featherbag · 13/01/2013 13:49

Own room at 14 weeks here - the first night everyone got so much sleep compared to the previous 14 weeks we were practically drunk on it!

StraightTalkinSheila · 13/01/2013 13:51

Own room. Baby monitor. Mum sleeps. Everyone happy. Sorted.

Pseudo341 · 13/01/2013 13:52

YANBU, lots of babies move into their own rooms before 6 months for all sorts of reasons, lack of space and lack of sleep for parents being the two I hear most. If you're worried about cot death you could consider using the baby monitor the other way round so that some noise from your room will be heard in DS's room to keep him suitably disturbed and not sleeping too deeply.

GirlOutNumbered · 13/01/2013 19:04

I agree janey waiting until 6 months to the day is ridiculous as there is no switch that suddenly flicks to say now the risk is less.

He does sleep really soundly though, I think maybe I would worry. I don't really want to make up the large cot, only to take it down if I don't like him in there!

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