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Punkatheart Thu 10-Jan-13 13:44:53

...I have no idea if this boy had parents...or what he situation was..but he was standing at a bus stop, with lots of other folk. He had the saddest face I have ever seen. It wasn't a 'today is a bad day' sort of a face.....but a face that despite his obvious youth (he was in uniform) was old before its time. He looked completely and utterly lost - just staring up at the sky. Very tragic eyes.

Of course I wouldn't hug him - that would be blatantly very weird. But the urge I had - the mothering urge - was so very strong. I wanted to give him a cup of tea and a meal. He was so very thin too, pulling down his sleeves the way young girls usually do.

All the lost people. Sometimes I wish I could gather them up and hug them all until they stopped looking so lost.

I am mad as a dizzy whippet, am I not?

Pigsmummy Thu 10-Jan-13 20:26:48

You are lovely

Punkatheart Thu 10-Jan-13 19:29:00

Lovely lyrics indeed.

Subjecttosurvey Thu 10-Jan-13 18:03:21

What a lovely post. Makes me think of the song Perfect Place by Voice of the Beehive:

We are all together alone
And these are just wishes
And I am just dreaming

If I ever grow up I will take care of the old
And all the babies that have no one
You might think I give myself
Too much credit but I am just dreaming

'Cause not much is sacred
There's not really much to do here any more
I don't feel like you said
I walk the earth my darling but I never feel at home

And we all say
I will change tomorrow
(This could be a perfect place)
I will change
(This could be a perfect place)
I will change tomorrow
(This could be a perfect place)
I will change it all tomorrow

I will assure all of the husbands
Who are guilty and the wives who feel useless
I will nurse all of the black and blue babies
With their unhappy parents
Who had unhappy parents

And I will assure all of the boys who feel awkward
And the girls who feel clumsy
And I will walk alongside the old man
Who feels so alone as everyone rushes by him
Now baby

'Cause not much is sacred
There's not really much to do here any more
I don't feel like you said
I walk the earth my darling but I never feel at home

I will change tomorrow
(This could be a perfect place)
I will change
(This could be a perfect place)
I will change tomorrow
(This could be a perfect place)

We are all together alone
And these are just wishes
And I am just dreaming

Lovely post. Lovely song.

Punkatheart Thu 10-Jan-13 17:32:41

A million reasons for his story, peanut....but I know what you mean. It's such a hard balance in life....

Peanutbutterfingers Thu 10-Jan-13 16:28:13

The saddest thing I ever saw was a boy about 9, on his own in a supermarket buying lots of packets of 9p noodles, the cheapest beans and bread. No sweets or treats or chocolates. I cannot bear to think about what was going on that he was doing that kind of shop himself. He again looked just sad and lost and LITTLE.

It was before I had a child and I think of him often. If it happened now I'd be marching him round the supermarket filling a basket with goodies to take home. I someone else had the sense to help him. I still feel I let him down.

I had a lady stop me once in the supermarket, open her purse to me, give me her card and ask me how she could get some money........can you imagine if she had asked the wrong person?? Bless her, she had a big yellow stain on her skirt and just looked like she shoudn't be out on her own. I just wanted to take her home! She seemed happy enough though.

God, just the thought of my mum being like this......(well, she has passed away so she can't) but you know what I mean....heartbreaking.

AreYouADurtBirdOrALadyBird Thu 10-Jan-13 15:39:37

Dd has a very melancholy face. But she's not sad,she just always looks it.

Punkatheart Thu 10-Jan-13 15:37:57

What lovely hearts you all have.

But also thanks for the different perspective. Some people just look sad. Friends have said that I have an overconfident sometimes stroppy face - so no one ever asks me if I am OK. I have cried in a supermarket too - but people still didn't get the hint!

Oh dear that one pie in a is indeed very sad. I put all my eggs in one bastard - that's the issue in my life!

It make sound trite but sometimes I smile at people who look sad, or just make a weather/jolly comment.

valiumredhead Thu 10-Jan-13 15:25:56

Oh no sad it's the lonely basket with one Fray Bentos pie in it that makes me want to weep <getting a bit teary just thinking about it, flipping menopause!>

Sparklingbrook Thu 10-Jan-13 14:59:43

It's when I see little old men doing their shopping in Morrisons. One old man stopped me and asked which tissues to get his wife, as she was in hospital, so we perused the tissue aisle. sad

Nothing tugs at my heartstrings more than an old person who looks lonely......makes me sad

MrsDeVere Thu 10-Jan-13 14:03:45

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

valiumredhead Thu 10-Jan-13 13:57:06

I have suddenly become over concerned with the elderly too sparkling

Apparently I have a sad face too.....I have lost count of the number of times people have said "cheer up love" - it really pisses me off!

Sugarice Thu 10-Jan-13 13:56:08

Oh I feel a little concerned now wondering about this boy, hope he's alright. sad

Alibabaandthe40nappies Thu 10-Jan-13 13:55:35

Oh I often think this about random children that I see. I hope that little chap was looking forlorn unnecessarily.

Sparklingbrook Thu 10-Jan-13 13:55:13

Yes, I get this. More with old people though.

HecatePropolos Thu 10-Jan-13 13:53:58

Oh, I get this all the time. Just want to 'save' people. Sometimes people look like they just need someone, anyone to give a damn.

OTOH. He could have just been lost in thought and have one of those faces grin I, apparently, always look cross hmm I've lost count of the number of times I've been asked what's the matter.

valiumredhead Thu 10-Jan-13 13:53:44

betty my ds would ring Childline and I am only half joking!

Valium - god, if I banned DS from Minecraft he would definately look traumatised and sad smile

KenLeeeeeee Thu 10-Jan-13 13:51:01

Not mad. I feel the same whenever I see anyone, young or old, looking sad.

BumpingFuglies Thu 10-Jan-13 13:50:50

You are not mad, I feel this way too sometimes. I saw an old man whose expression made me run back to my car and sob for ages. Sometimes people's faces tell a whole story.

valiumredhead Thu 10-Jan-13 13:50:49

I agree with betty though, I caught ds looking so folorn the other day and my heart nearly broke for him, I asked him what was up and he said "I was just trying to work out in my head the next thing I am going to build on Minecraft."


realcoalfire Thu 10-Jan-13 13:50:22

I think you should write a novel, you have a wonderful turn of phrase.But he was just probably thinking about a test he hadn't revised for or something.

FunnysInLaJardin Thu 10-Jan-13 13:49:41

I feel the same way and do have a strong mothering instinct even for children who are not nec 'lost'. I would never act on it though as it would as you say be very odd grin

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