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LalyRawr Wed 09-Jan-13 19:26:38

I don't want to start an argument or be judges/seen as judging others, but I could really do with some advice.

My brother was Autistic. He had Fragile X syndrome and after being tested I also tested positive for it, but my 'symptoms' are much milder than his were due to the fact that I have a healthy X chromosome to balance out the 'bad' one.

Now my question is on the MMR. I know the study linking MMR to Autism has been discredited, but OH's Aunt is a Caffcas worker and has seen parents who swear blind their child was healthy and happy and literally changed over night after having the MMR.

I, like any parent, only want the best for my daughter. She is 10 months old so will need to have it in a couple of months and I am still unsure what would be best.

All NHS guidelines recommend the combined injection, but obviously they would do. But, once given, this isn't something that can be taken back if there is a problem.

But with the single vaccines, the NHS website states there is an ncteased risk of my daughter catching one of the diseases before she is immunised and they mentioned that all the clinics which offer the single vaccines are unlicensed, so obviously that has scared me!

I know this is long and I sound like a PFB mother (which I am!) but I just don't know what to do.

Help me please?

Footface Fri 11-Jan-13 18:18:18

I was so worried about my ds having the mmr, although it has been disproven that there is a link to autism I don't believe a word the government say, and it really pisses me off that I'm unable to chose to singularly vaccinate my child.

I ummed and erred until I saw a video link on you tube by Penn and teller, and made me feel more comfortable getting the mmr. Ds 2 is due his soon and he will get the mmr but at 13 months rather than 12onths as five injections in one go us too much

Please watch this vid it might help . Sorry phone won't link

But go on YouTube search penn and teller vaccinations, it's the 1min 31s

Footface Fri 11-Jan-13 18:20:29

Unfortunatly the company no linger supply the mumps vaccination to the uk and have no intention to in the near future, so mumps singles are not an option anymore

pointythings Fri 11-Jan-13 18:57:46

To all those who are saying you can't take decisions about vaccination while thinking about other people besides yourself and your DC - whyever not? It's part of being a responsible member of the whole of society. I'm really shock by this attitude.

StarlightMcKenzie Fri 11-Jan-13 19:24:45

'It's part of being a responsible member of the whole of society.


Well I happen to think that a responsible society would take care of their individual members who DO suffer from vaccine damage, rather than make them battle YEARS of denial whilst every aspect of their family life is critically examined, and their home sold to pay for legal fees before accessing the paltry compensation.

pointythings Fri 11-Jan-13 20:38:48

This isn't a zero sum game, starlight. If vaccine damage can be proved then of course generous compensation should be paid. We need more research into vaccine damage so that we can find out and hopefully anticipate which children might be vulnerable, as well as finding methods of proving vaccine damage. Then we need a statutory compensation scheme which takes into account the cost of raising a child with disabilities.

However, that does not excuse us from thinking about people other than ourselves and our DCs as well when we are trying to make a decision about vaccinating or not. The decisions we take nearly always involve other people, and I'm not just talking about vaccination here - and I stand by my point that thinking only about yourself when making major life decisions is morally dubious. The 'I'm all right Jack' attitudes that have led to an increase in disability hatred are part of that mindset - if you can't be bothered to think about the potential impact of what you decide on the world around you then yes, I have a real problem with that. Hard thought needs to go into hard decisions, whichever way they turn out.

Personally I have vaccinated my children - I actually respect the right of other people not to do so, even though I vehemently disagree with them. But I would expect them to have arrived at their decision by thinking not just about themselves and their families, but about the wider ramifications as well. I'd expect the same of anyone who did decide to vaccinate. We are thinking beings, we have an obligation to use our intelligence.

Booboostoo Fri 11-Jan-13 21:30:53

Starlight I don't know your story but I assume you or a member of your family were unlucky enough to suffer from the rare vaccine side-effects - you have my sympathy. I also think it's tragic that you had to fight for support and compensation, that is not right.

However, this does not justify you passing on the same harm to another, innocent third party. Inflicting a further injustice cannot be the way forward. Just because you have suffered a grave injustice does not absolve you of any moral responsibility towards anyone else.

StarlightMcKenzie Sat 12-Jan-13 10:43:35

'If vaccine damage can be proved then of course generous compensation should be paid.'

Yes. But it isn't. Instead families are vilified and tortured for years and barely get enough compensation to cover the costs of expert opinion and legal fees.

You don't just get a disabled or dead child, your whole family plummets into poverty and your other children get neglected and often abused.

If this were not the case, I woukd be more supportive of the vaccination programme.

StarlightMcKenzie Sat 12-Jan-13 10:46:16

Boob. Would YOU pay more tax to fund the research and compensation programme?

Booboostoo Sat 12-Jan-13 13:47:16

Starlight I am sorry but I don't understand your argument. I will accept that the compensation system is not working (I don't know much about it to be honest, but happy to take your word for it), but how will spreading lethal/dangeorous diseases through non-vaccination ever help with that? The problems with compensation are not a fault of the vaccine, vaccines have known side-effects, it's the price we pay for protection from the disease. It's terrible that only some, random people pay this price, which is why compenstion exists, but I don't see why penalising a different but much greater set of other random people through non-vaccination would right the wrongs of delayed/inadequate compensation.

I don't get your point about tax either. Would YOU pay more tax for more research on the rare genetic condition my DD may have? There are many deserving causes that will not be adequately funded because no one gives up 100% of their income for tax/charities.

Booboostoo Sat 12-Jan-13 13:48:19

I just re-read your message, who abuses the siblings of children affected by side-effects of vaccination?

StarlightMcKenzie Sat 12-Jan-13 18:33:44

Often the vaccine-damaged child abuses their siblings. Unreported because parents know that the unaffected children will be removed for their safety as it is cheaper than properly supporting the family or placing the child with damage.

Would YOU pay more tax to a)ensure decent compensation to the family, b)appropriate services for the family, c)enable the parents to continue to work, d)provide counselling d)ensure the damaged child has access to appropriate equipment for free.

Because if you wouldn't, then you are no better than anyone else with an 'I'm alright Jack' attitude as none of the above happens, and even a legal battle of a life time gets little more than a note saying 'sorry' once legal fees have been paid off.

Booboostoo Sat 12-Jan-13 18:57:26

I think I might bow out of this discussion as I don't really think you are addressing the issue. I am not saying "I am alright, your damaged child is your problem", I am saying "Your damaged child is neither a reason not an excuse to damage other children".

I still don't get your point about tax. Would you may more tax for research into my DD's very rare genetic condition? And to reduce extremely lengthy waiting times for seeing specialists (there are so few of them)? And for the many home adjustments she may need if she has the condition? And for the inovative orthopaedics that may improve her quality of life?

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