'My kids never screamed like that' - old bag says loudly at the supermarket checkout...

[TeenTwinsToddlerandTiaras]

about my DS (2). He is a screamer and it drives me nuts. Not when it's just me and him but when my older DSs are anywhere near him - he wants what they've got, wants to do what they're doing. He's trying to dominate, it's the pack mentality!

He screamed around Tescos as he was in the trolley and he wanted to put the food in the trolley. He screamed at the checkout as he wanted OUT! Cue santimonious, smug middle aged woman making the above comment very loudly. I don't want him to scream either but short of putting a sock in it, what can I do? I should have asked her what her secret was but I just glared.

Really unnecessary comment that only made me feel more shit and stressed and angry.

BREATHE!!!!

[FuckityFuckFuck]

'Well good for you' would have been my answer

[LadyKinbote]

"That's interesting. My Grandmother never made outrageously rude comments like that either."

[BluelightsAndSirens]

A whispered fuck off normally does the trick.

[TeenTwinsToddlerandTiaras]

I wanted to say 'you must have a short memory then', just heightens my frustration that I did'nt!

[CaptChaos]

I'm sure supermarkets employ these women to make those of us with less than 'perfect' children feel like shit.

'Well! A round of applause for Mrs Helpy!' could be a useful phrase?

[BadDog]

im on team old bag

[ILoveTIFFANY]

Old bag??

[fedupofnamechanging]

"Old age does terrible things to one's memory" is a good response.

I doubt very much if her kids never had a tantrum.

[PartTimeModel]

I'd like to think I'd smile and her and simPly HISS! But I'd probably say something inane instead.

[LadyBeagleEyes]

Old Bag?
Middle aged?
You lost me there Op [angry}

[LadyBeagleEyes]

Or even].

[NippyDrips]

Oohh I like karmas response!

[ILoveTIFFANY]

Well you are both as rude as each other I think!

[Binkyridesagain]

I've had similar, old man telling me how to parent. I asked 'if he was so good at it, would he like to take DS?'
He refused, so I told him to keep his opinions to himself and flounced off with screaming child in tow!
People like this get right on my tits!

[We3NipplesOfVoldiesWeAre]

My answer used to be "He wants his own way, he'd really like to run round the shop and help himself to sweets and toys, obviously he's not allowed so he's having a tantrum." People would soon remember the difficulties that toddlers present.

[mrscumberbatch]

I would have started throwing packets of food at her to be honest. Foul old fucker

[ilovesooty]

Agree with Lady BeagleEyes

Yes: she was judgmental. She may be middle aged (though I don't see why that's relevant to whether she was rude)

But "Old bag"? Did you mean to be so rude - and ageist?

[oldpeculiar]

I was on your side until you refered to middle age as 'old'

[Narked]

'Old bag'?

[ilovesooty]

Foul old fucker

And there's another one.

[TeenTwinsToddlerandTiaras]

Oh the 'professionally offended' are out in force I see. She was middle aged as in at at age where her DCs were older or had left home (so relevant to potential short memory) and she WAS an old bag. Sorry!

[CaptChaos]

Oh dear! I've suddenly realised that I might be classed as an old bag as I am middle aged.... when does one become middle aged anyway now? Is it still 35? Or later. When can I tut at people in supermarkets? When's my turn!

[ilovesooty]

Don't bother to say "sorry" - you aren't. And what's with the "professionally offended" jibe?

I just think you sound every bit as rude as you think she was.