Before becoming a sahm I always paid for my own things. Since being a sahm I have swapped cars with dh as he had the big car. He used my little run around to commute to work, and then decided to trade it up and buy himself a brand new car. That was fair enough, his car that I swapped for is a lovely big comfortable car.
However it is now getting on a bit and things are starting to go and I feel it is time to swap it for something else. Now if I still earnt my own money it wouldn't be a problem. I would simply find something I liked and buy it. I would discuss it with him but it would be my decision because its my money and my car.
The trouble is I don't earn anymore and don't have any money. So it wouldn't be my money that paid for it, it would be his. I would have to ask him to buy me a car. Now I don't see a massive problem with this. I gave up my earning potential to look after the kids. This was a joint decision, he is happy for me to be at home and he has no problem in being responsible for everything and he is very generous. Except when it comes to a purchase as big as this. Apparently we can't afford to buy another car. Well we could when he wanted one. A brand new one. I'm not asking for a brand new one, just a newer one in better condition.
AIBU to ask him to pay? I feel a bit confused. I know any money that comes into the house should be shared and not seen as just 'his' money. But I still feel as though I have to ask. I guess it's a big purchase but it just doesn't seem to carry as much importance as when he wanted a car. His suits his job and his hobbies so was an important purchase, apparently. Mine just carries the kids in, nothing important.
Reading this back I know I sound a bit whiny and entitled and first world problem, but I can't work out whether I just feel entitled to one because he had one, or whether I'm right to expect him to pay for it. It's going to need replacing at some point and probably before I ever go back to work. There's no way I can afford to pay for a car. I have a bit of an allowance from him and it goes on my personal bills, pension, etc store cards every month.
Apologies for the long rant. Feels better for writing it down!
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IloveChristmasandsodoesmydog · 02/01/2013 22:21
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