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aibu to be annoyed my friends invited this woman?

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RussianSnowflake Wed 02-Jan-13 14:16:44

In my group of friend there is one girl who we all know. Some obviously know her better. I have known her for many years and the only way I can describe her is odd (she doesn't have SN)

We had a girls holiday in 2010. The girl decided to eat things like fruit and swordfish etc, so you can guess what happened. At one point she was even being sick, and was just stood in the middle of the room, one of the girl had to actually tell her to use the toilet. We then had to tell her to have a shower because she was literally about to get into bed with sick in her hair.

We took a road trip to visit a friend who had moved away, the girl borrowed one of my friends jumpers as she was cold when we got there. We ordered food and she ordered the hottest curry on the menu. We start eating and about 10 minutes later we realise she's gone very quiet, we looked over and saw she was bright red, pouring with sweat and even had tears in here eyes. She pulled the jumper off and swiped the sweat off her face with it and then handed it back to my friend.

This kind of behaviour I could tolerate. However we were having a chat and she was talking about her problems and I mine. She then turned to me and said "yes well my problems are much bigger than yours."

Her mum got ill around the time we were on holiday (one of the reasons we invited her). Two of my friends bent over backwards helping her, constantly inviting her out, ringing her and texting her to see how she was. Her mum got much better and yet she would still ignore the concern my friends were showing.

The help they gave her was never appreciated. She does like these women, she is just a very anti-social person. She would rather ignore these text than be polite and say no thank you, in fact I don't think she has ever once said thank you to them.

I have not seen this woman myself for a good two years.

I returned home after working away for the last 6 months. and after seeing my family, my friends organised a meal. I turned up a little late (10 minutes) and so everyone else was there and to my surprise so was this woman.

I know it sounds selfish but we spent all of 5 minutes talking about me and what I'd done and then the rest of the evening was talking about this woman. My friends know I dislike this woman and yet she was invited to the reunion/catch up meal.

aibu to be slightly pissed off about this?

I kind of feel like I am.

NickNacks Wed 02-Jan-13 14:18:36

How old are you all?

ResolutelyCheeky Wed 02-Jan-13 14:20:20

Think I will get the kettle on....

PessaryPam Wed 02-Jan-13 14:20:41


Pancakeflipper Wed 02-Jan-13 14:21:34

You've been away. They are all still hanging out together. This meal was an important gathering to you. To them perhaps just another night out? A great night out but not got the status you have it as.

Perhaps she was the one who had the idea of the meal?

I am not saying you are wrong, just they see it differently?

Lindsay321 Wed 02-Jan-13 14:22:33

Is this Muriel's Wedding from the bitches point of view?

LauriesFairyonthetreeeatsCake Wed 02-Jan-13 14:22:44

For the rest of my life I am going to wonder what the actual fuck is wrong with eating fruit and swordfish

You all sound very odd


BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack Wed 02-Jan-13 14:22:46

Deary me!!

I esp love this bit.....*The girl decided to eat things like fruit and swordfish etc, so you can guess what happened*......if she eats fish and fruit she is definately a wierdo hmm

Rooobs Wed 02-Jan-13 14:23:59

<passes OP A Grip>

Pancakeflipper Wed 02-Jan-13 14:24:46

I have just had a apple. And it's salmon for dinner.

Oh no....

crunchbag Wed 02-Jan-13 14:25:05

Please enlight me, what happens when you eat swordfish and fruit?

Sugarice Wed 02-Jan-13 14:25:44

in my group of friends there is one girl we all know , she is part of the group isn't she? she went on holiday with you all. hmm

RussianSnowflake Wed 02-Jan-13 14:25:56

With the fruit and swordfish theres nothing wrong with it but you know chances are with it being abroad that it could make you have an upset stomach.

RussianSnowflake Wed 02-Jan-13 14:26:56

No she's definitely not part of the group. She didn't have contact with anyone for two years.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack Wed 02-Jan-13 14:27:07

Oh I people who live anywhere the UK can't eat fruit and fish!!! It's so much clearer now smile

MalibuStac Wed 02-Jan-13 14:27:49

[Hmm]?? Grown women.

ILoveSaladReallyIDo Wed 02-Jan-13 14:27:56

I eat swordfish and fruit hmm
and sometimes curry! shock

crunchbag Wed 02-Jan-13 14:28:36

Ah she dared to eat foreign food whilst abroad, right

digerd Wed 02-Jan-13 14:28:46

What does the rest of the group say about her? They know you don't like her, but what did they say?

ILoveSaladReallyIDo Wed 02-Jan-13 14:29:07

how is swordfish and fruit more likely to make you ill on holiday?
surely things like buffet salads are the worst culprets?

or do you stick to fried full englishes?

PessaryPam Wed 02-Jan-13 14:29:19

Russina, nope I really don't agree. It's better to eat the local food than stick with boring British fry ups, like Brits in Spain and their awful pubs and restaurants when they could be enjoying tapas and rioja.

Pancakeflipper Wed 02-Jan-13 14:30:38

It sounds like they have been in contact with her more than you are aware of.
Or perhaps they don't know how much you dislike her.

But anyway, whatc I want to know is what did she eat at the meal? Fish? Fruit? Curry? Any jumpers harangued?

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack Wed 02-Jan-13 14:30:41

I know it sounds selfish but we spent all of 5 minutes talking about me and what I'd done and then the rest of the evening was talking about this woman. My friends know I dislike this woman and yet she was invited to the reunion/catch up meal

So the night was supposed to be all about you then.

OkayHazel Wed 02-Jan-13 14:31:06


You don't like her. Fine.
You're friends do. Deal with it.

Make your peace, accept it or risk being pushed out.

OkayHazel Wed 02-Jan-13 14:31:22

YABU Rather!!!!!

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