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To be annoyed with my father

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MarriedToSonOfAPreacherMan Mon 31-Dec-12 22:09:04

Back in January when I told my father I was pregnant, he seemed to think it was wonderful. Since then ... not so much. Before DD arrived, the other grandparents all helped buy some of the stuff we needed - he didn't. (He and my mother are divorced.) When she arrived, they all gave her presents - he didn't. Fine, I thought, it hasn't occurred to him. The others were all really keen to visit and meet her - he wasn't. When we went to visit him, he didn't seem all that interested, so I thought maybe he's not that good with babies. Then we came to Christmas and he didn't get her a present. I didn't expect a lot, especially as DD obviously had no idea about Christmas, but a token would have been nice, and he could have asked us for ideas if he was stuck. I don't think it's money as he got an expensive food hamper for DH and me - but he surely can't think we'd be giving a 4mo baby duck rillettes or gooey cheeses! I am stupidly upset by it all but have no idea how to raise it with him.

HecatePropolos Mon 31-Dec-12 22:12:02

don't mention the lack of gifts, cos that's just going to sound grabby.

Tell him you are upset that he doesn't seem very interested in your baby.

Some people just aren't that into babies. But he's your dad. You should be able to tell him that you're hurt that he doesn't seem interested in your child.

peaceandlovebunny Mon 31-Dec-12 22:49:28

tell him, as hecate says, because that gives him a chance to put it right. and if he doesn't improve, forget him.

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