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To feel a bit sad for my DH after comments made about my giving birth to DD4?

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RubyGrace17 Mon 31-Dec-12 13:02:51

Hi all,

I gave birth to DD4 on Christmas Eve. We, and both families, are thrilled. We didn't find out the sex in advance and would have homestly been happy either way. Our girls are delighted to have a new baby sister and we've been enjoying adjusting to being a family of 6 over Christmas.

However, today DH went into his office to pick up some files and took the girls to get a bit of breakfast, leaving DD4 with me to get some rest. Everyone was full of congratulations, apart from the senior partner, who has just become a dad for the first time to twin boys, in November. One of DH's female colleagues asked if we were "finished" having babies, now we're at 4, to which DH said that we were most likely finished as I'm planning on going back to work in August. The partner piped up "What a shame, you'll never experience being a "true father"" My DH asked what he meant and he claimed that a man only experiences true fatherhood when you are a father to a son.

DH happened to mention this to me in the passing, in a "how ridiculous is this" sort of a way but I feel a bit sad for DH, in my hormonal state! I am I being unreasonable to think this is a shitty thing to say? The partner by the way is 62 and holds rather chauvinistic views about life in general.

Thank you for any replies!

Itsafreefuckingcuntry Mon 31-Dec-12 16:12:57


homeaway Mon 31-Dec-12 16:17:23

Congratulations to you all ! I am outraged on your behalf , what a load of ......

Itsafreefuckingcuntry Mon 31-Dec-12 16:26:26

I bet he has a flash car to compensate for his withering, tiny cock.

mrsjay Mon 31-Dec-12 16:36:27

Yeah, because you can never play footy with a daughter or soldiers or run around with her in any way.

or take her fishing or build lego or have a grown up 1 who is training to be an engineer nope girls cant do anything grin

mrsjay Mon 31-Dec-12 16:36:43

like that*

FriendlyLadybird Mon 31-Dec-12 20:11:58

What a stupid thing to say. I wouldn't waste your hormones on feeling sad for your DH, though -- he obviously wasn't bothered, and why should he be? Congratulations to you both.

3monkeys3 Mon 31-Dec-12 20:19:28

He is a dickhead - your poor dh! I do think that sadly quite a lot of men feel a bit like this - we have 2 boys and a girl and dh was slapped on the back quite a lot when we had our boys (first and third). I also think that the majority of men who have only daughters don't feel they are missing out - it is the men who don't have children/have mixed gender families who seem to think it's a problem.

Loislane78 Mon 31-Dec-12 20:36:58

I'm the youngest of 4 girls and whilst dad jokes about never getting in the bathroom etc. when we were younger, I don't think he'd have it any other way - best dressed dad in town smile


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