We have had quite a bit of expense recently so DH and I agreed we would only buy small token gifts this Christmas. In the week leading up to Christmas, he repeatedly asked what I wanted and I repeatedly gave him a few ideas, but also said I would be fine with nothing from him as he was v v generous with my Birthday gift in November (we went shopping together, he paid). Anyhow....he evidently did a mad dash around the local m&s and a gift shop nearby as he produced a goody-bag containing the perfume I had hoped for, as well as several other gifts. Basically, I feel as though he has wasted his money on additional things for the sake of it as he has bought things I generally don't use (eg slippers, subscription to a magazine I don't like, a diary, a huge book on Downton Abbey that I have no interest in reading). I'm conscious that this makes me sound like a spoilt, ungrateful cow and I honestly don't mean to be..... I genuinely would have been ok with no presents, and I wasn't even expecting the perfume. What has upset me is the fact that I know he did a last minute 'panic shop' and he didn't put any real thought or effort into it - just money, which we are trying to save! He works bloody hard so doesn't have much time, I know, but with every year that passes (we have been together for 14, married for 11) I feel as though I am slipping down his priority list and he is becoming less aware of what I like / dislike etc. Seriously, the gifts he bought me are the sort of thing that would be a 'safe bet' for an Auntie or someone you don't know very well! He used to be so romantic and thoughtful. I'm very tired and am possibly over-analyzing here, but either way it is making me feel sad and unsure as to whether to talk to him about it or whether I should just pull myself together and get over it!!! So, AIBU?????
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