I invited everyone to mine for Christmas dinner. dh family and mine. dh would rather have gone to his families about 3 hours drive away and they would probably prefer it too but I refused because I wanted to be with my family and it wouldn't really work bringing them all with me to in laws. we have done this last 4 years and worked fine. Everyone accepted invitation and we ordered food in for 14 people. 2 weeks before Christmas I get told that they are not now coming because they are going to my sisters instead, she didn't tell me it just came up in conversation with my gp. then loads of awkwardness with some people now agreed to go to both and not sure what te do. some going mine and some going hers. elderly relatives getting really upset. sisters argument was she wanted to be with her dh family and too many of them to bring to mine. said I understand that but why then invite everyone else especially without telling me she was going to. she said no one is forcing them to go. That's true but she didn't give anyone full story just told people having dinner at hers so they assumed we had organised it between us. when rest of family realised I had now been left with none of my family for Christmas and way too much food they all felt terrible. to resolve it I arranged to have Christmas eve at mine which we did and it was fine. Sister didn't turn up, didn't even bother to say she wasn't coming. I have presents here for her and all her family. rest of my family think I should call her and clear the air. they think it all worked out in the end and as I'm older I should fix it.
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calmlychaotic · 28/12/2012 00:48
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