Hi all. Long story short, a few years ago I cut all contact with my birth family (childhood issues) as i finally realised how toxic they were. over the past year my health has deteriorated and it started me thinking about my dad. My issues with him were mainly about things he DIDN'T do rather than things he did and so i started to consider reintroducing contact.
a few months ago i met him for coffee, somehting which we've done three or four times since. we met for coffee on tuesday and i took him a small christmas present. i know he has bought a small gift for my dd and money in a card for dh and i and was expecting him to bring them too. he said he hadn't got round to finishing stuff yet and would text me so we could have another coffee and he could give me the stuff.
i was assuming he meant wed thur or fri as he knows my dh isn;t too keen on him because of what happened in the past and dh would be at home after friday. also, tomorrow is dh's birthday (which dad knows about cos he gave me a bday card for him on tuesday). dad hasn't been to my house since we started contact again.
soooooo just had a text from him saying "meet tomorrow at 11?" AIBU to have sent the reply saying no, assumed he would have contacted me before this as tomorrow is dh bday and we have plans, will have to wait until after xmas now
if i'm honest i know i'm not BU, i'm just so disappointed that he couldn't be arsed to sort out putting a box of lego inside a storage box for dd and cash in a card for me and dh (i know this is what he was doing - didn't even have to wrap anything because he told me)
he's never going to change and put me first is he? or even third or fourth.....
(and in the interests of not drip feeding, he doesn;t have any real time committments, only his hobbies, his other children are older than me, i'm the youngest and dd is his youngest gc, so not like he's actually been properly busy, just keeping himself occupied iyswim)
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FeelingFestiveCheerMum · 23/12/2012 18:22
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