To Not Go To This Gathering Today

[PavlovtheCat]

DD is going to a christmas tea this afternoon and DH, DS and I are going to a pub to meet up with some very good friends to exchange christmas gifts for the children and have a glass of christmas cheer. We won't see them again before christmas day and have not seen them for a few weeks, when we normally see them around once a week/every 10 days either as a whole family, or one of each couple meets the other one of each couple with the children, you get what I mean.

My back went on Tuesday, badly so on wednesday and I have been struggling to keep the pain at bay since. I have managed to some extent with my pain meds, but the meds wipe me out. On Friday I missed some of my meds, to go christmas shopping, did not manage to much, then went to a christmas gathering with other very good friends who I won't see over christmas. Finished all the shopping yesterday, had more friends over last night, was ok in the day, but by night time, messed up again and today, I am on the sofa unable to move.

I have just done too much. I have not rested At All. Which is 1) what I usually do and 2) what I need to do.

But, it is christmas, I really want to see my friends and to celebrate. But, right now, I want to just take my maximum medication and go to bed while DH take DD to her party and meets our friends to exchange presents.

I know I will be a party pooper, it is not christmas spirited and my friends will be disappointed. But they will understand as they know about my bad back.

I mean, I can do it, I can take my meds, and just go. DH won't be able to drink anything as I won't be able to drive on my meds. I will still struggle with pain I will probably not enjoy myself. And I have to look after the children on my own tomorrow as DH is working til the evening, so could really do with reserving energy for that. I might even be able to get over to see them tomorrow if I rest today, although they are busy I think as their family arrive, they might be up for a half hour visit.

AIBU to send my apologies?

[rubyslippers]

Why don't they come to your house?

[PavlovtheCat]

ruby yes they could, but it's not the first event that has been changed to our house because of my inability to walk anywhere, and part of it was about going ut, maybe having dinner there (they do a fab carvery) just you know, the whole being out celebrating. And, if they come here I willbe a bit spaced due to meds, unless I don't take my higher level stuff.

I am thinking, maybe I should just go, it's not Christmas every day is it? I can lay in bed all day on Boxing Day!

[maddening]

Get them to come to yours and see if any restaurants would prepare a meal for your dh to pick up?

[Cybbo]

Just don't go! Apologise and don't go. It's not like you're never going to see them again. Having them at yours even worse, you'd feel compelled to run around