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AIBU?

to feel teacher was unfair to call dd dramatic

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PrincessScrumpy · 21/12/2012 22:37

DH picked up dd1 from school and her teacher told him dd fell over and was very dramatic but there wasn't even a mark so perhaps she needs an earlier night.

Now, dd is 4 and goes to bed between 7pm and 7.30pm and is fine but it's the end of her first term so i'm fine with the fact she's tired and think ok, we'll keep an eye on it.

At bed time dd pulls down rights to reveal a very site looking bruise and grazeon her knee and I completely understand why she cried. Turns out teacher didn't look but took word of dinner lady. I'm sure it's not malicious but I feel sad dd was labled dramatic and had us telling her that even if she is tired she needs to basically toughen up. I probably would have cried if I'd fallen that hard.

Probably bu but teachers story doesn't match reality.

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PrincessScrumpy · 21/12/2012 22:38

Tights and sore...

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pictish · 21/12/2012 22:41

Oh well. She'll live.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 21/12/2012 22:42

I'd have thought the dinner lady looked after your dd properly at the time it halo ended and there was probably no need of rathe teacher to look. She may have meant that your dd was being dramatic in the same way lots of five year olds are. I work in a class full of five year olds and they fall over at lunchtime and spend the whole afternoon talking about it. I expect that's all the teacher was referring to. That and the fact that classes all over the country have probably been crazy today, and I expect most 5yos condo ave done with an early night.

Tbh, I think you are being a bit dramatic to think your dd has been labelled because of one little comment from a teacher who cared enough to tell you about a normal playground fall.

oldpeculiar · 21/12/2012 22:44

well you and her had better get used to the playground bruises and scrapes, there will be plenty plenty more

InNeedOfBrandyButter · 21/12/2012 22:44

Noo you can't start threads moaning/complaining about teachers on here....it won't end well from personal experience.

Floralnomad · 21/12/2012 22:45

If she didn't rip the tights it can't have been that hard a fall . I think you are overreacting and the teacher prob thinks they're all dramatic as most children who fall over at that age are.

MsHighwater · 21/12/2012 22:45

I'd be making sure teacher got an update on the bruise and the graze in the hope she'll learn to look a little closer next time a child cries "dramatically". Any graze is worth a 4 year old's tears, imo.

WorraLorraTurkey · 21/12/2012 22:45

I think all little kids are drama Queens at times aren't they? It goes with the territory

Sorry about her knee though.

On the other hand, if it was that painful surely she would have complained about it and drawn your attention to it long before bedtime?

Perhaps it looks worse than it is, particularly if it's been covered by tights all day and evening?

fortyplus · 21/12/2012 22:46

You sound rather dramatic...

Greensleeves · 21/12/2012 22:50

I can see why you feel a bit put out by the description, but she said it to your dh, not your dd, and teachers usually have a bit of black humour about children's bumps and grazes and playground woes, because they see hundreds of them. It's the end of the world for somebody at least fifty times per playtime i an average infant school, sometimes a bit of lofty jollying-along is kinder and more calming than encouraging children to fall apart

it doesn't mean she was unkind to your dd at the time.

PrincessScrumpy · 21/12/2012 22:52

okay I accept i'm dramatic. I was just rather shocked when I saw her knee. Dd can be dramatic so not worried she was called it but felt unfair on this occasion.

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bradywasmyfavouritewiseman · 21/12/2012 22:52

She obviously didn't scrap it that bad as her tights would have ripped and she would have shown you earlier.

Chances are she was dramatic. Kids usually are, even if its just a phase. she said it to dh, not in a derogatory way to your dd.

bradywasmyfavouritewiseman · 21/12/2012 22:53

So you know she is dramatic?

What's the issue then? As you didn't wit was her behaviour how can you say if she was or not.

She could have been rolling round like premiership footballer all afternoon.

PrincessScrumpy · 21/12/2012 22:58

My slight issue was really the statement that there was no mark when the bruise is bright blue but guess that probably came up since.
Teacher said it to dh but dd was standing beside him at the time

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daytoday · 21/12/2012 23:00

I hate the word dramatic and have never felt the need to use it. I also find that it is mostly applied to young girls. Dramatic, hysterical - urgh!

It is an outdated unprofessional and rather lazy term.

I'd probably log it for now and watch. I wouldn't be happy about it being used.

PrincessScrumpy · 21/12/2012 23:01

My slight issue was really the statement that there was no mark when the bruise is bright blue but guess that probably came up since.
Teacher said it to dh but dd was standing beside him at the time

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apostrophethesnowman · 21/12/2012 23:05

Bruises can come up even after a little bump though. I have two large bruises on my wrist tonight, from carrying a carrier bag (with a fairly light box in it) earlier today. It took me ages to realise where the marks had come from.

Anyway, children can be very dramatic. I'm sure the teacher didn't mean any harm by her comment and will probably have forgotten all about it already.

helpineedajob · 21/12/2012 23:08

So you think the teacher shouldn't have taken the dinner ladies word for it and checked the knee before calling her dramatic.

But you didn't think to check her knee before "telling her that even if she is tired she needs to basically toughen up"

pot calling kettle?

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 21/12/2012 23:09

There probably wasn't a mark when it first happened. I often tell children who have just fallen over that they might have a bruise by bedtime as part of the cheering up chat.

Really, you are over thinking this.

Festivelyfedup · 21/12/2012 23:10

What did she mean by dramatic? Maybe she was complementing her on her acting skills when she gave a reenactment of her fall?

Remember teachers get tired at the end of term too!

FestiveDigestive · 21/12/2012 23:16

I wouldn't be happy about that comment either. Your DD is 4 and has only started school recently - you want to know that she will protected and reassured if she is hurt or scared. Saying she was 'dramatic' when she was hurt sounds rather bitchy and not very nurturing.

AgentZigzag · 21/12/2012 23:25

Aww she's only 4, sometimes it's the shock as much as the pain, and at 4 they expect there to be pain if they fall and cry regardless.

I wouldn't have thought the teacher meant she was labelled a drama queen now and forever more because she cried when she fell over.

Just sounds like a lighthearted remark, I'm sure they'd have more to say if there was an actual problem.

BaresarkBunny · 22/12/2012 01:03

Ds teacher said the same to me this week after he had a fall in the playground but in his case she's spot on. It's even worse if he thinks there may be blood because he is terribly squeamish.

She is very nurturing though and knows when he needs comforting.

Grazes are so sore, I fell over
last month, grazed my knee and I wanted to cry. I'm normally good with pain but that really hurt.

TheNebulousBoojum · 22/12/2012 01:38

You didn't check the damage yourself straight away when you knew that she'd been hurt enough to cry?

Borntobeamum · 22/12/2012 07:19

With regards to the poster who stated if she didn't rip her tights she couldn't have hurt herself. .. rubbish!
I fell over and landed on my knees, my 10 denier tights were intact, but I dislocated one kneecap and cut both knees badly.
So Nerr!

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