Please help me guys, I'm stuck in my head and can't see whether iabu or if I am just expecting too much...
I'm considering ending my relationship with the father of my 3mo DD. I have been very unhappy since DD was born, my life has changed to something unrecognisable, I don't blame him for this and I do understand this is just what happens when u become a parent but I feel that he is unable or unwilling to make changes to his life to accommodate our new circumstances. On his days off he goes out with friends or he sits in front of the tv and says he doesn't want to do anything as he is "tired". He does sometimes work until late but he often goes out after work and my argument then is that he has made that choice. He also doesn't consider 8hrs enough sleep and will then nap for a few hrs in the afternoon.
He also seems to treat DD as an inconvenience and if I ask him to watch her he will put her on her playmat and then play games on his phone or watch tv. He did a few morning feeds recently but I have stopped asking him as I woke to find her on the floor crying and he had gone back to sleep on the sofa.
He occasionally offers to do housework but applies the same half arsed effort to this and I have to do it again anyway so have stopped asking for help here too.
BUT... He is a good man. He constantly surprises me with how intelligent he is and he obviously cares very much for DD. he's not abusive or unkind in any way.
AIBU? My family keep telling me "he does more than a lot of men" or say I'm a nag and am unfair to him. I think sometimes I do expect him to 'entertain' me as since having DD I have lost all my friends (none of whom have children) and I am painfully lonely.
Please let me know what u think. I won't be offended if told I sound like a nagging nightmare.
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Jen547 · 13/12/2012 19:40
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