Advanced search get really annoyed with OP's who don't come back to/update their threads?!

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gimmecakeandcandy Wed 12-Dec-12 19:29:54

...just that really. Here we are giving our time and effort and so many op's never bother to update their situation! So annoying. Why should we bother if they can't be bothered?!

squeakytoy Wed 12-Dec-12 19:31:37

yanbu.. but maybe they went to netmums and got the advice they wanted to hear... grin

bradyismyfavouritewiseman Wed 12-Dec-12 19:32:33

God I know. It makes me feel like a nosey bitch. But yes I want the ending.

Like what happened with the OP who thought her MIL may have been racisit when they first met (10 years ago).

And the ones where the parent is so angry at their childs school based on a story the child told them. I want to know the schools side and what happened.

SamSmalaidh Wed 12-Dec-12 19:33:48

You have slightly undermined your point though by complaining about this on a thread the OP has updated, several times, including this afternoon grin

bradyismyfavouritewiseman Wed 12-Dec-12 19:34:06

Actually squeaky is right. the ones I am thinking of usually follow the
OP - 'aibu'
everyone else - 'yabu'
OP - 'no i am not'
everyone else - 'yes yabu'
OP - 'no i am not, you are all bitches'

OHforDUCKSchristmasCake Wed 12-Dec-12 19:34:07

I hate it when they ask for help you (plural) give them loads of suggestions and advice and all you get back is 'It just sucks so much!'

Well sure it does. We know, which is why you have 40 replies with suggestions that you apparently are doing nothing with.

Apart from moaning.

gimmecakeandcandy Wed 12-Dec-12 19:35:16

The woman whose colleague asked to borrow her wedding dress for her daughter...
Woman with a five week old baby whose mil wants overnight...

Why oh why are these op's not updating - soooo ungrateful...

ChristmasPickles Wed 12-Dec-12 19:35:54

The most annoying one was the girl who fancied the cashier in the bank who served her and had his business card. After lots of encouragement she plucked up the courage to ask him out via email. She sent the email but never updated on the answer!! Arrrghhhhhh.

squeakytoy Wed 12-Dec-12 19:36:12

I cant be doing with the ones who name change and come back week in week out posting a new thread about exactly the same subject and think we are too dim to recognise them.. and still dont do anything despite being given tons of helpful advice and support.

Yes CheekyPickle, I am talking to you!!!!

SamSmalaidh Wed 12-Dec-12 19:36:30

The woman with the five week old has posted loads on her thread!

bradyismyfavouritewiseman Wed 12-Dec-12 19:37:47

Oh and the woman that kept getting upset because her boyfriend of 8 weeks would let her tag him on facebook.
She posted about it in slightly different circumstances every couple of days for months and was constantly told 'he is not that into you' (not just because of fb).

Did she finally dump him? or just carry on posting and ignoring the replies?

Or did she just disappear back under the bridge. confused

bradyismyfavouritewiseman Wed 12-Dec-12 19:40:14

There was one in realtionships ages ago. the Girl had fond letters at her Boyfriends house that stated he was receiving Higher rate DLA.

Despite the fact that as far as she was aware there was nothing wrong with him. Never came back to tell us how that conversation went.

suburbophobe Wed 12-Dec-12 19:44:30


Just because someone posts a situation (and the help they get is always great) does not mean she (or he) is obliged to keep MN up on their future life.

It's not a soap opera...

OHforDUCKSchristmasCake Wed 12-Dec-12 19:48:30

squeakytoy I reeeeally need to know more. <nosey>

bradyismyfavouritewiseman Wed 12-Dec-12 19:50:20

No one said they were obliged. But Yes I would like to know.

Different than say, yes you must come back and give us full updates.

Pandemoniaa Wed 12-Dec-12 19:54:41

YANBU. Provided subsequent circumstances aren't genuinely tragic then a brief update is a perfectly reasonable expectation. Otherwise, why share the issue in the first place? Nobody wants chapter and verse or at least we won't admit to it but don't just post and piss off either.

havingastress Wed 12-Dec-12 19:56:37

YABU!!! You're clearly talking about me on my thread and fgs, I have a FIVE WEEK OLD BABY who needs attending to!!!

I don't put my computer habits before the needs of my baby.

havingastress Wed 12-Dec-12 19:58:02

..and FYI I am not ungrateful and actually I have posted LOADS on my thread in reply to lovely helpful mumsnetters.

I just can't be on here 24/7 - sorry it you think that means I'm ungrateful!

bradyismyfavouritewiseman Wed 12-Dec-12 19:59:04

YABU!!! You're clearly talking about me on my thread and fgs, I have a FIVE WEEK OLD BABY who needs attending to!!!

I wasn't talking about you, if that helps. I haven't even looked at your thread.

havingastress Wed 12-Dec-12 19:59:19

oh and thank you sam for backing me up! thanks smile

HoHoHokeyCokeyPigInAPokey Wed 12-Dec-12 19:59:39

YANBU but it is really life as so i supposed people the poster who was convinced her teenage daughter was pregnant despite her daughter denying it.

Op then after much talking said she admitted she was and they were going to work out what to do, she sounded like such a lovely mum, i hope it all worked out for the best.

havingastress Wed 12-Dec-12 19:59:55

brady my comment was directed at the OP!

BridgetBidet Wed 12-Dec-12 20:00:29

That thread about the exes mad new girlfriend who is trying to steal the kids I'm sitting and pressing F5 every five minutes.

Pandemoniaa Wed 12-Dec-12 20:01:37

I wasn't including you either havingastress .

bradyismyfavouritewiseman Wed 12-Dec-12 20:03:50

brady my comment was directed at the OP!

i know, I am just making it clear we weren't all talking about you. You seemed upset and wanted to reassure you that that is not what I was talking about.

I don't know how long it is between your posting.

The ones I am talking about are when weeks/months pass with no word, not a day.

bridget for the CPU illiterate, whats f5 do? grin

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