I was in London today for work, and I arranged to meet up with my lovely 22 year old niece for lunch. She is a student.
We were in the restaurant, and my niece was umm-ing and ahh-ing over the menu making lots of noise about 'things being tight' and 'Christmas budget', I offered to pay for her but she wouldn't hear of it.
She then whipped out her iphone and calls her boyfriend. From what I can gather, he transferred some money into her bank account yesterday (he has a full time job). She then proceeded to ask him for permission to order food. Direct quote "Well, I just wanted to check it was OK and you didn't want me to use the money for anything else. It is your money."
My face was basically this --> . Anyway, they ended the conversation-permission granted, we had a nice meal and then we had to go our separate ways.
AIBU to be completely and utterly shocked that a grown woman thinks she has to ask permission from her significant other to spend money? I obviously love my niece very much, and I feel really sad that she thinks it's totally normal to ask her boyfriend before she does anything.
(FWIW, her boyfriend is a lovely young man and I don't think there is any kind of abuse in their relationship-although I could be wrong)
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matchpoint · 12/12/2012 15:03
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