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9pm bedtime for nine year old dd, aibu?

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48Hours Tue 11-Dec-12 21:16:30

Apparently everyone in school gets to stay up way later than this and I should let dd too. I actually think even 9pm is a bit late for her but then what do I know!
So aib an u horrid mother?

foxy6 Tue 11-Dec-12 21:34:08

i started letting my eldest stay up until 9 when he was 9, he is now 18 and but once i started with 1 the others played up about this and now my 8yr old goes to bed at 9 and is very rarely asleep before 10.30 shock.

Chandon Tue 11-Dec-12 21:34:23

My 9 yr old , now 10, has a 9pm bedtime, which works for him. I used to send him to bed at 8, but he would often still be awake, staring at the celing at 9, so figured he could stay up a bit later.

My 8 yr old is out of sorts if his bedtime slips past 8pm, all kids are different!

LemonBreeland Tue 11-Dec-12 21:35:02

DS1 is 9 and goes to bed at 8. He does go to bed at 9 on a couple of nights when he does sports, but is tired the next day going to bed that late.

VerySmallSqueak Tue 11-Dec-12 21:35:30

My 8 year old needs more sleep than my 6 year old (and I think I need more sleep than both of them.)

I judge it by when they naturally wake at the weekend.If they naturally wake at the time they need to be up for school,having gone to bed at the usual time,I reckon they get enough sleep. (if that makes sense confused )

YANB an U horrid mother.

Hobbitation Tue 11-Dec-12 21:40:25

Sounds fine to me. I try and get my 7 year old to be asleep by 9 and she has to get up between 7.30 and 8, so 10.5 hours sleep is fine for her I think.

TheOriginalNutcracker Tue 11-Dec-12 21:41:32

Ds is 10 and goes at 8pm on weekdays and 9:30 at weekends.

foslady Tue 11-Dec-12 21:42:58

Thankyou thankyou thankyou!!!!

I thought this was just me too! dd is 9, almost 10 and is in bed by 8, lights out half past

insanityscratching Tue 11-Dec-12 21:43:37

Dd9 goes to bed between 9.30 and 10 but she definitely goes to bed later than all of her friends whose bedtimes range from 7.30 to 9. Dd doesn't need a lot of sleep though.

Yama Tue 11-Dec-12 21:46:28

This morning dd (7) woke up bright eyed and bushy-tailed. She was in bed by 7.30 last night.

Yesterday morning we had tears and much begging to stay in bed. She had gone to bed at around 9pm on Sunday. Nuff said.

manicinsomniac Tue 11-Dec-12 21:49:15

It sounds fine to me.

My children don't really have a bedtime because we are often out until 10pm or later. So, if we're in, they go to bed as early as possible (sometimes even 7.30pm for the 10 year old!) but, often it's more like 10.30pm.

dorapeppageorgenoddy Tue 11-Dec-12 21:54:21

Just adding a story from when I was mother always had the 3 of us in bed so early as she had a strong belief adult time was needed...and she was done in terms of giving to us (sahm) anyway I went to boarding school at year 9 and the first night I was sooooo shocked how late we were allowed to go to bed...9.30pm and lights out at 10pm...

Now as a mother I agree with the early bedtime thing or at least bed and then reading for a time upstairs...16 month old bed at 6 and sleeps tool 7.30 (which I know is lucky) and 3 year old bed at 7...

In the future 12 and 14 year old - i hope i stick to an early bed...

NeverKnowinglySnoggedHugh Tue 11-Dec-12 21:55:43

my nearly 9 year old has lights off at 8.30, in his room at 8pm.
At the weekends he is allowed to stay up till 9pm.

We increased it this year from lights off at 8pm
He sleeps until 7am so I am still reasonably confident in our decisions.

His younger brother has lights off at 7.30 and sleeps till 7 so as above it seems he still needs that level of sleep.

Blu Tue 11-Dec-12 21:57:51

DS was in bed by 8 / 8.30 at 9.

NeverKnowinglySnoggedHugh Tue 11-Dec-12 21:57:54

manic just being nosey.. aren't your little ones knackered at school?

ginmakesitallok Tue 11-Dec-12 22:03:37

DD1 turned 9 in November - bedtime is usually before 8. She gets to read on bed, no idea what time she turns off her light blush She sleeps til 7

manicinsomniac Tue 11-Dec-12 22:30:53

They don't seem to be neverknowingly. At the ends of terms they are and I admit they could do with more sleep this week but I can't find another way around it. They've never had a routine, even as babies, so I think they cope much better than a child used to routine would if it was suddenly taken from them.

manicinsomniac Tue 11-Dec-12 22:31:49

I only need 5 hours sleep to function normally so maybe they take after me!

Rudolphstolemycarrots Tue 11-Dec-12 22:41:30

my 9 year old goes at 7.30 because he needs his sleep.

lisad123 Tue 11-Dec-12 22:44:00

My 9'year old is in bed by 7.30 on school night and 8.30-9pm on weekend

Rudolphstolemycarrots Tue 11-Dec-12 22:44:49

He went to bed at 6 the other night he was so exhausted!

FlojoHoHoHo Tue 11-Dec-12 22:45:28

DS is 7 and he goes to bed between 7-7.30.
When he goes to his dads at wkends, he keeps him up til 9pm and I pay for it the next day sad

Frikadellen Tue 11-Dec-12 22:46:28

My 9 year old goes to bed at 8 oclock lights out at 8 30 my 11 year old goes at 8 30 lights out at 9 (though in practice he is in bed by 8 and asleep by 8 30) oldest two almost 13 and 15 go to bed at 9 they all have school in the morning. If weekend then the older 2 can go when they wish the later two goes at 11 the latest

nappyaddict Tue 11-Dec-12 22:48:42


How old are your DC? What time do they get up in the morning? Do they have to be woken in the morning or do they wake up by themselves?

Pantofino Tue 11-Dec-12 22:50:56

I have a nearly 9 yo for whom bedtime is 8.30. She is NEVER asleep before 9pm. Wake up is 7am. She goes to bed later at the weekend - wants to watch Strictly etc,

valiumredhead Tue 11-Dec-12 23:04:07

Ds is 11 and his bedtime in the week is 8 - 9pm depending on how tired he is. It was strict 8pm when he was 9 as he needs his sleep!

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