to ask you to tell me that 3dc (including toddler and newborn) is a walk in the park?(33 Posts)
I am BU but dc3 due end of this week and I keep hearing how nightmarish a toddler (mine's 18mo) and a newborn is. Also have 7yo... Please lie to me?! I found going from 1 to 2 relatively easy but dc2 is very laid-back and there is a fairly big age gap!
I don't find it easy at all - must be pretty useless at all this! 1-2 was waaaay easier in my house. DC2 was easiest baby of the bunch though, who has blossomed in to unexpectedly tricksy fiddly toddler just in time to coincide with DC3 at nearly 10m entering full upright mobility stage
Same old same old though, it will be fine and you'll cope because there is no choice. I'm sticking my hand up here on this thread of people who find it easy and saying I find 3 much harder than 2. Someone please tell me it gets easier at some point, at least in a practical sense?!
I can't tell you it will all be fine, but you'll find your way of getting through it. I have very similar age gaps to you, and Dc3 very quickly learned to fit in around us all. No choice, really. The biggest shock to the system is your first I think, and you get more familiar with each Dc.
I remember in the early days when Dc3 was newborn, putting on Dvd's for my then 20 month old toddler son - and serving up Weetabix and banana for his tea one night, as I was struggling with post CS surgery and general exhaustion. I felt horribly guilty about that at the time but, looking back, I wish I'd been kinder to myself - I was doing my best to get through a difficult time, with no support network around me at all.
Be kind to yourself, cut some corners when you have to, and try not to feel guilty - and remember, there are plenty of wonderful times in amongst the toil too!
I found going from 2 to 3 far easier than going from 1 to 2. Mine are 10, 5, and 3 now. Hope you like watching Cbeebies and cbbc though
I don't personally think a toddler plus baby is necessarily a nightmare. I also had 3 under 3 (gosh there are lots of us on this thread! <waves hello> ) and I thought it was time consuming but not difficult.
Two toddlers was a bit hellish but your age gap is big enough to avoid that!
You'll be fine. It might be a bit of a shock at first and take some getting used to but you'll soon be in a routine and wonder what you were worried about.
My youngest is 5 weeks now, DS2 is 20 months, DD1 is 3 and DS1 is 5. I actually found it easier once DD was here than when I was pregnant.
I had twins when the others were two and four. It wasn't that bad. A bit time-consuming in terms of feeding and changing the newborns, but that stage doesn't last for ever. Try to be kind to yourself and don't set unrealistically high standards for yourself. Let the oldest one help with fetching nappies etc.
I found DD3 was a much more relaxed baby as she had so much going on around her to keep her entertained.
DD2 loved being my helper and was put in charge of the nappy box, restocking it and she even made the very good suggestion of having one box up stairs and one downstairs, she was 4 at the time.
Mine are argumentative, noisy, competitive, loud laughers and I love them all!!
Low expectations in the first year is great advice.
I had a 5 yo, then 3 more DCs in 2.5 years. Going from 1-2 was easy, going from 2-3 was easy, but hand on heart having that 4th baby with 3 under 3's to get out on the school run was the hardest. A double buggy is fine but when you have that 3rd child who either has to walk (very, very slowly), or go in a sling or balance on the handle bars it wasn't easy (before buggy boards were invented ). You'll be fine, just make sure you dig out whatever contraception you use, !
I think once you've gone from 0 to 1 you can handle anything!
Mine are 8,6 and 4
I have no idea what happened to 2005 onwards
I can however tell most of the major incidents in Mickey Mouse clubhouse...
i had 3 in 3 yrs and then another 8 weeks ago,so i have 4 under 5.It is fine really,it depends a lot on you though and your kids personalities,i seem to create very chilled relaxed babies and children!dont know how!I guess i am not ocd about housework which helps.Just enjoy them!
I had a3 and a bit yr old,18 month old and a newborn.My saviour was to get out everyday,didnt matter where.My 3 yr old started playschool and i put the 18 month old in to a creche 2 days a week it was really to give me some breathing space but it worked out fine.
I should mention i have a 16 and 17 yr old and they by and large are far worse.
You will be fine just get dp to get the other kids to bed thats what i did it gave me that bit of peace i needed.
You will be fine. I had 5 in 8 years, and truthfully, I think going from 1-2 was the hardest. Take the first few weeks easy, but try to get your older ones into a routine as early as possible. Plus it's lovely having a 7 year age gap. My DS1 and DD2 are 8 apart and they just love one another to bits.
I nanny for a 4, 3 and 1yr old (been with them almost a year). Not the same as being their mother, but from a practicalities point of view it's still a lot of laundry, feeding, toys, crying, giggles, craziness. I have to be fairly organized to get stuff done, or get out of the house on time. But in all honesty it's so much fun! The older 2 play well together. The baby is easy going. Some days I'm put off kids for life and others I just want to scoop these 3 up and bring them home (the parents are still waiting for me to actually follow through with that one lol).
Get lots of help the first few weeks. Prioritize. Don't expect a pristine house or lots of home cooked meals. Enjoy the dynamics of the 3 of them. It's wonderful watching these 3 grow up together, they're so close in age.
DC4 is 15 months, DC5 is 4months so I can quite vividly recall the sense of panic It is hard work, although not as hard as I imagined it to be (the scenarios that ran through my mind!). I find I need to be more organised than I did with my elder DC, as the elder DC had bigger age gaps, but other than that it's a piece of cake......alright, that last line was a lie
I had two eighteen months apart and it was essentially pretty darn easy. DD was pretty happy to watch CBeebies while DS lived on the bb. I think it's a nice age gap if the older one is independent/laid back. I would NOT have had a second child eighteen months after my first if DS had been my first baby though...
I had 3 under 4 for a while. I found that having a baby and 2 toddlers was MUCH easier than having 2 toddlers and being hugely pregnant. I am not just trying to make you feel better. At your stage I was panicking as well but you are actually nearly through the hardest bit. It was not easy but easier than I had thought. My others were just delighted to have me stuck to the sofa feeding while we read books and they played around me.
Of course the house was a pig sty and they watched too much telly but we are through it now and they are all very happy. The hardest bit was cooking dinner, the baby wouldnt let me put her down as I think she sensed there was competition in the house. Get some carrots and oven chips in and you'll be fine.
You will be fine - I had three under three for a while - it's a bit blurry and the first couple of weeks were tricky as all of mine had horrendous reflux/colic, but going from 1 to 2 was far harder than 2 to 3 (or 3 to 4!).
Congratulations, and good luck!
I think you will be fine, your older dd is quite a bit older and in school so should make it easier atleast she can dress herself take self to toilet etc so not like having 3 that you have to do everything for.
As other people said, you will cope cos what other choice have you got! but i honestly don't think it will be that hard - hopefully.
I had that baby-toddler age gap, but twice - so all 3 are within 3 years, and its doable. handful at times but fine, so sure you will be fine
You will be fine. The first few weeks will be tricky, but once the novelty of the baby wears off for the toddler, and you have a routine going, you will manage beautifully, honestly.
I have 5 DCs with the largest gap between 2 and 3, and if I can cope, anyone can
Yeah it's a breeze
said through gritted teeth while dd is at school, Ds & dtd nap and dts explores the house with his newfound crawling skills
Actually, once you get into a routine it's not that bad. Agree you need low expectations in the early days
weeks and make special time for all of the children. Especially for the middle one. Ds is a horror currently because he doesn't have enough time with me without the twins being present. Nap times are good, if baby naps!
You'll be fine. And they'll soon have lots of new toys to play with which helps
(I love them all really! It's less the park and more the fucking cleaning actually. But they make such a great armful of a family, thy I'm now on dc4 - so I must have loved it really, right?
A walk in the park.
Every fucking day the same fucking park.
Even in winter.
When there is proportionately less park and much, much more dressing and undressing little bodies.
It will be fine! .
I had 3 ds's under 4.5 years and I still vividly remember taking ds1 to school on his first day pushing the double buggy wondering how I would manage this everyday?
All went well and ds3 just fitted in as number 3 baby does.
It'll be fab!
I had 3 under 3, school has been bit of a saviour! My older two were very good and independent playing together so I actually had a lot of time to spend with dc3
which has turned him into a very clingy baby.
Just plan to spend a few minutes each day with each of your older children - just you and one of them being totally focused on talking to them and being with them makes a huge difference to their behaviour.
Dc3 was in a strict routine from the very beginning which also helped a huge amount - none of the sleep drama i had with the older 2.
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