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AIBU to request a same day appointment for DD?

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Kalemu · 11/12/2012 12:38

DD got an ear infection. Nothing new, she's very prone to having these. She usually gets a cold, which results in infection. I spoke with the doctor and there's much that can be done, except trying to keep her healthy and warm. But she gets ill quite often and I'm worried about what the school might say, even though she's just in reception. To be clear, she gets sick like every ten days. It's normal in a class full of kids who are also half-sick and with runny noses and coughs!

Anyway, do you think IABU to request a same day appointment at my GP to justify that she's ill? I keep thinking it's not an emergency, but at the same time, I want to leave clear to the school that she really has an infection, and that I'm not just keeping her home because I want to.

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MrsMiniversCharlady · 11/12/2012 12:39

No, I don't think it's reasonable to take up an emergency appointment to placate school. She's not compulsory school age anyway, school can't reasonably do/say a thing!

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Kalemu · 11/12/2012 12:40

School IS compulsory at reception (right?)

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BluelightsAndSirens · 11/12/2012 12:40

Have the school asked for proof if why your DD isn't in school?

If they haven't and you are happy to treat with home remedies then I wouldn't waste an emergency appointment, could you ask to speak to the surgery nurse and see what she/he thinks.

Doesn't an ear infection need anti biotics?

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MsElleTow · 11/12/2012 12:41

YABU emergency appointments are for emergencies!

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BluelightsAndSirens · 11/12/2012 12:41

Under the age of 5 isn't compulsory.

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Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 11/12/2012 12:42

Well if it requires anti biotics to avoid ear drum bursting and the intense pain then yanbu.

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RillaBlythe · 11/12/2012 12:42

Not compulsory school age till actually 5.

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FanjoTimeMammariesAndWine · 11/12/2012 12:43

She wont be unusual in her amount of absences in first term of Reception, trust me :)

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 11/12/2012 12:43

My DS suffers from regular ear infections. I always get him to the GP for the day he starts to get it as I want the anti b's to work straight away.

School is compulsory the term after their 5th birthday.

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GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 11/12/2012 12:47

You don't have to send your child to school until the term after they turn 5. BUT if choose to send them in reception then it is compulsory.

I'd say YANBU in two ways. Firstly I think a child getting ear infections this often should be check ASAP by a doctor. Secondly I would want school to know that my reasons for keeping my child off were genuine if it was more than a few days.

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Kalemu · 11/12/2012 12:48

She's 5 (one of the oldest in her class, she's from september).

Bluelights they haven't specifically requested it, but once she was ill, they asked if she had seen a doctor. It hadn't even occurred to me, and I felt as if they thought I was making it up! After then, that's what I usually do, I get the doctor to write me a note to proof to school that she's ill.

To the rest: that's how I felt... emergency appointments should be for emergencies... what do the rest of you do, has anyone felt the same from their school?

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Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 11/12/2012 12:49

Well
Once they r there they r subject to the same rules and regulations as those who r five already regarding absences. You can't have them off all the time and just say " it's ok she doesn't have to be there yet"

If she has an ear infection best to start antibiotics ASAP so if u can get her in then do. But if u already have that sorted and it's just a case of waiting it out til course is finished then don't. Schooll expect this in reception.

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Kalemu · 11/12/2012 12:49

We don't use antibiotics.

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Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 11/12/2012 12:51

How do u treat the ear infections then? :)

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Kalemu · 11/12/2012 12:51

We don't use antibiotics, and I know that some of you will think I'm mad, but I've read a lot about this, come from a family of doctors, and have decided that I don't want to use them in my child.

She's a very healthy girl when she's not surrounded by sick kids.

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 11/12/2012 12:52

How do you control her ear infections then if you dont use anti biotics?

My son is under the hospital now for damage caused to his ears by repeated ear infections.......god knows what his hearing would be like if he hadn't had anti b's...

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Kalemu · 11/12/2012 12:52

To treat ear infections, I just give her paracetamol (when she's got fever) and natural remedies to relief the pain. I let the infection clear naturally. It only needs time.

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Kalemu · 11/12/2012 12:52

Antiobiotics only make things worse, they make infections even more recurrent

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FridgeBenefits · 11/12/2012 12:53

Have i read this right?
If she's getting an ear infection every 10 days, maybe it's a recurring infection that does actually need to be treated with antibiotics.

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funkybuddah · 11/12/2012 12:54

What can the school do really? I mean really?

My friends son is off all the time, always sick, the slightest thing knocks him off his feet and his attendance is v low, but the school are yet to do anything about it and he is in year 4.

Rather than take her to doc (ig not needed as I know they dont give anti bs all the time at my surgery anymore for ear infections) make an appt to see the head to discus your worries for your dd and how she atches everything going, but as someone els esaid, its reception, she wont be unusual.

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weegiemum · 11/12/2012 12:54

Most ear infections are viral.

But see the doc if you're worried, remembering antibiotics don't work on viruses.

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Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 11/12/2012 12:54

In that case there's no need to go to dr and get a note straight away. Most teachers know that kids pick up all sorts when they first start school it's inevitable.

I wouldnt worry too much :)

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Kalemu · 11/12/2012 12:54

no, she gets a cold every 10 days. Sometimes it affects her ear, but not always.

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MrsMiniversCharlady · 11/12/2012 12:55

No, that's not correct. It's the term after 5 that it's compulsory and absences are not recorded in the same way. The government are planning to change this but they haven't done so yet.

The bottom line is that she's ill, she shouldn't be at school and you don't need a doctor to confirm this.

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 11/12/2012 12:55

Well to be fair, if she is getting sick every 10 days then you must be doing something wrong!! Maybe she is getting sick because the infection isn't totally clearing because she doesn't have anti biotics.

If my DS was ill every 10 days I would be doing something about it.

Bonkers!

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