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To think it's a bit odd that colleague isn't buying his DD Christmas presents?

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PurpleTinsel Tue 11-Dec-12 11:58:31

I have a colleague who's first baby (a DD) was born about 6 months ago.

This will be her first Christmas. We were talking about Christmas yesterday, and colleague said that he and his DP are not buying their DD any Christmas presents at all because she's too young to appreciate Christmas.

I can understand not making a big deal about Christmas for a baby - but the idea that they're buying no Christmas presents for her at all, not even one small inexpensive present, surprised me.

Colleague is well paid and his family celebrate Christmas.

AIBU to think that this is odd behaviour?

WinklyVersusTheZombies Tue 11-Dec-12 12:00:52

I don't see the point in the parents buying for a tiny baby. People who buy baby gifts are really buying for the parents IMO

chrismissymoomoomee Tue 11-Dec-12 12:01:13

YABU she is 6 months old she won't know any different.

SavoyCabbage Tue 11-Dec-12 12:01:13

No not really. I got my dd one book for her first Christmas but she didn't open it or anything. I don't think we bothered at all for dd2 but I can't remember!

FunnysFuckingFreezing Tue 11-Dec-12 12:01:16

YANBU. DS1 was born 3 weeks before Christmas and he got some gifts. I know they don't need them but it seems mean spirited not to but something

laptopdancer Tue 11-Dec-12 12:01:34

No, she is only 6 months old! Seems normal to me confused

WillSingForCake Tue 11-Dec-12 12:02:06

We didn't buy anything for our baby's first Christmas either. We knew relatives would give her stuff, and she already had plenty of toys, clothes etc.

They sound sensible to me. Far better uses for their money.

Nixea Tue 11-Dec-12 12:02:17

Another who can't see the point for such a small baby. I didn't bother as we didn't have much spare money at the time and as she wouldn't have remember a thing anyway. YABU

redskyatnight Tue 11-Dec-12 12:03:53

Flip it round to say "why would you buy a present for a baby that doesn't know it's Christmas, won't understand what the present is, and won't remember it?"
Presumably your colleague buys the baby clothes/toys/other essentials when she needs them? Baby will treat them in the same way as a Christmas present.

Caitycat Tue 11-Dec-12 12:03:53

We have bought our daughter ( 4 months)a very small present but I really don't think it would matter if we hadn't. We love her to bits and will always make an effort for her but this Christmas she will know nothing about and probably be inundated with presents from everyone she has ever encountered. Time enough from next year on to start getting into the commercial side of Christmas!

StellaNova Tue 11-Dec-12 12:04:08

DS1 was two months old for his first Christmas. Didn't get him anything as far as I can remember. He got plenty from others. It's fine to buy babies presents if you want to, but it is for you, not them, really.


StripyMagicDragon Tue 11-Dec-12 12:04:12

YABU, my dd was born eleven days before xmas and we got her nothing. I thought the pram, clothes and everything else was enough money and I preferred to wait till she understood more. babies don't care as long as they are fed and warm, at that age the decorations are probably good enough to have a look at :-)

mamij Tue 11-Dec-12 12:04:31

We didn't buy anything for either DDs (both born about two months before Christmas) first Christmas either. They got loads of toys when they were born and we didn't see the point of getting another for the sake of it.

samandi Tue 11-Dec-12 12:05:17

I can see his point. Babies don't know whether it's Christmas or not. Presumably she'll get lots of things from family members anyway, and presumably the parents buy her stuff at other times.

seekingpeaceandquiet Tue 11-Dec-12 12:05:19

YABU seems smart to me.
We did buy dd a few bits and bobs to try and unwrap not that she was very successful..

LoopsInHoops Tue 11-Dec-12 12:05:56

I think it's fine. I've bought presents for quite a lot of babies this year, but things they will keep and know they have had since their first xmas.

MissCellania Tue 11-Dec-12 12:06:14

YABU, don't be so judgey. It's just throwing money around.

LtXmasEve Tue 11-Dec-12 12:08:11

We didn't buy anything for DD either, nor on her 1st birthday - she had more than enough from friends and family.

<<nasty evil mum emoticon>> grin

merlottits Tue 11-Dec-12 12:09:13

YABU I find it weird that a person WOULD buy their 6 month old Christmas presents.

The child is none the wiser so it would only be for their benefit anyway.

Sensible behaviour.

SamSmalaidh Tue 11-Dec-12 12:10:02


I don't think we bought DS anything for his first Christmas, he was 4 months. Lots of family bought him toys and clothes. He neither needed anything from us or cared.

TravelinColour Tue 11-Dec-12 12:11:15

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OlivetheotherReindeer Tue 11-Dec-12 12:11:18

YANBU, our DS is nearly 6 months. I've gone nuts for his 1st Xmas. Yes, it's not really or him but for me, however, unless money was incredibly tight I can't understand not buying a gift. I've still got the teddy that came for my irst Xmas.

specialsubject Tue 11-Dec-12 12:13:21

good on them for not wasting money on a life-form that cares only about food, warmth and love. And will probably get an avalanche of tat presents from everyone else anyway.

Ephiny Tue 11-Dec-12 12:15:08

YABU. Personally I think it's odd when people do buy presents for little babies (and really really odd when they send them cards!), though it's harmless enough either way and none of my business.

lynniep Tue 11-Dec-12 12:16:02

YABU. Its not odd in the slightest. It makes perfect sense especially if you're the type of person who doesnt understand/appreciate gift buying (like my DH) We never bought DS2 anything for his first christmas. Other people did which was lovely but he didnt need anything.

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