Aaaarrgghhh! I DON'T LIKE PINK!(128 Posts)
Aibu? Mil keeps buying stuff for dd, and it's all pink. I don't want to be ungrateful, and some of the clothes have been lovely, but she is an intelligent, liberal minded woman so what's with the pink obsession? I feel it's now a bit late to say, please stop buying pink stuff (this includes bedroom accessories). But the prospect of 10 more years of pink is depressing.
MsElle so if your DS had been given all clothes that were pink, you would have been equally happy and dressed him in those?
If so then your comments stand. If not I refer you to the new legislation....
My boys wear a bit of pink, ds4 looks quite good in pink actually. Ds3 likes purple, especially his purple fairy dress. But i am not a huge fan of pink and it doesnt suit dd tbh.
But ice and lnd make a good point and the let toys be toys campaign is worth looking at in this tespect.
There is nothing wrong with the colour pink, what is wrong is that it can be fousted upon girls and all.their clothes eyc are pink and thdn all.their toys etc as they get a bit older. It can become self fulfilling and actually it can become limiting.
Girls dont inheritently like pink, its a social construct of the last 100yrs ish and it has gone crazy to the point it can end up.overwhelming. oddly enough if a baby is consistently dresssed in pink and told how sweet, pretty,cute etc she looks in pink (and am guessing mil.makes a fuss when dgd wears clothes she has bought) then it reinforces the idea rhat she should like/wear/play with pink things. The socialisation and reinforcing of gender steretypes starts from the moment babies are born and it does have an influence on children.
Gender neutral stuff is hard to find. My DDs have pink stuff, it's unavoidable. I used to really hate it but I kind of resigned to it now.
I politely accept and am grateful for gifts of clothes for the DDs (although thanks to the local NCT sales they are never short) but I will admit to steering MiL away from a pink leopard-print Hello Kitty dress with tulle frills on it. I'm not that polite
And no, it's not the colour pink- it's the gender segregation at an age when it's unnecessary and the fact that so many girls' clothes are unsuitable for active play. It's a marketing ploy to prevent hand-me-downs; if you have a child of each gender, you now have to buy two lots of clothes and toys.
And actually i am not so sure pink.is just a colour it vomes hand in hand with a whole connotarion if ideas/themes esp the princess one, gentle, defensless princess who needs her knight to.come and rescue her. Its part of a whole package of 'girlyness' that when taken to extremes isnt particularly healthy and can be limiting.
"I can supply you with pictures of my DD in everything from pink, purple with butterflies, red, blue with spiders on, green with monsters on, brown with a tractor on etc etc"
So what precisely is the problem with OP's MIL adding some pink items to her DGD's wardrobe? I do "get it"- I'm an intelligent, liberal minded woman after all. It sounds like OP's aversion to pink should mean there are some pretty varied clothing choices regardless of one individual's present buying.
But its not some pink, its all pink and its not just clothes. If op's mil is anything like mine she can end uo buying so.much dtuff that op cant justify buying her dd anything.
And icb yes my children wear all colours.
If 50% of the clothes are pink then that is not balanced though is it?
One of each would put pink down at around 10%...
if you "get it" then why did you suggest that the alternative to wearing solely blue or pink is "gender neutral colours"? Obviously the other (better) alternative is to wear colours indiscriminately until the child is old enough to express a preference?
He was given blue clothes because he is a boy, like girls are given pink clothes! It didn't bother me, it wouldn't have bothered me if I had a girl and I had been given pink clothes! When are there ever threads from mothers of boys shouting about their DSes being given blue clothes?
And as for there being more choice of clothes for boys, are you serious? Have you ever stood in a store and seen rows and rows of girls clothes with a tiny corner of boys clothes?
If pink is just a colour and clothes for babies are just about keeping them warm and dry then why the hell do you hardly EVER see male babies wearing pink?
Perhaps it's because parents like the OP project their feelings about it?
That last was to craic. also I have a massive aversion to pink. My favourite colour is blue (and always has been). I have never bought my DD ANY pink clothing but at least half of her clothes have some element of pink / girlie themes such as butterflies/flowers. And that is after I told all my relatives from before she was born that no pink would be worn whether it was a boy or a girl.
So yeah the casual buying relatives can do a shed load to skew the colour distribution in the wardrobe...
I am completely serious about more choice for boys. I can go in a shop and like pretty much all the boys clothes, different colours. The girl section is almost all pink and generally I can only find 1 or 2 items that I like. If it is virtually all the same colour, how is that choice?
I found frugi good for a variety of colours, very hard wearing, generously sized, good sales.
In town if I spotted something non-pink I adored I 'd just buy it for the future, pink will always be available but a lovely spotty red top won't necessarily be there next year.
Actually you do.get threads on mnet moaning about the lack.if choice re boys clothes and how hard it can be to get colours other than.blue and brown etc. Biys tend to get blue, brown sludgey colours. Its as crap as all pink for girls.
Mrselle you didn't answer the question. Suppose you had a misreading of sex at the 20 week scan and all you kind relatives had bought pink clothes for your DS1...would you have said thanks thats great and dressed him in pink for the first 6 months?
worra the OP doesn't like pink so everyone in society decides that pink is only good enough for girls and not boys? REALLY not following your logic there...also where are you photos of boys in pink?
H&m and m&s and john.lewis are goid for boys clothes but there us mire choice for girls if you shop around, its very easy to be overwhelmed by pink.
I was being facetious, ICBINEG. You may have mentioned to your relatives that you don't like pink, but evidently OP has not done the same with her in-laws. And if OP's MIL buys her DGD an outfit and subsequently sees her in it surely she is justified in thinking that her DIL likes the item and is happy for her DD to wear it? She's not a mind reader.
If I had had a plain pink babygrow knocking around I would have dressed him in it. I would not have dressed him in a pink frilly dress! I would not have dressed him in,pink everyday for six months and quite frankly, think your argument Is ridiculous!
well indeed - glad we agree it was a stupid comment
yeah, the OP totally needs to say something - although I like the idea of "oh DD really like colours X, Y (not pink)" as a strategy...plus you can keep changing the colours indefinitely as everyone know babies/toddlers are fickle and unpredictable....
MsElle ahhhh so pink everyday wouldn't have good enough for your DS...but you expect the OP to put up and shut up because she only has a girl...
okay just nice to be clear.
But if pink is just a colour and clothes are just practical/warm why wouldnt you have dressed him.in pink mselle?
I wonder how many others on here who say you should just be grateful and shut up about this "non-issue" would actually have binned clothes of the opposite stereotype...
It clearly isn't a non-issue then is it?
Nobody blinks an eye if you dress a girl in blue though. Pink has a meaning far beyond being a colour and I blame Katie Price and co for it
I sympathise, OP. I don't like the obsession with pink for girls either, and I took a lot of baby gifts back to the shop and swapped them for other colours - otherwise we would have been swamped with pink. I don't mind it as a colour amongst others, but don't want to live in a sea of it.
Neither of my boys live in a monochrome world, so why should my daughter?
My DS wears pink. The problem with boys' clothes is that they all tend to be in quite dull blues and greens and either have trucks and cars on them rather than the girls' clothes which have nice animals on. OR they have 'cheeky rascal' or 'naughty raccoon' emblazoned on them. My son is neither cheeky nor naughty.
I hate seeing girls top to toe in pink every day though. I judge.
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