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AIBU?

Aaaarrgghhh! I DON'T LIKE PINK!

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Yamyoid · 10/12/2012 11:03

Aibu? Mil keeps buying stuff for dd, and it's all pink. I don't want to be ungrateful, and some of the clothes have been lovely, but she is an intelligent, liberal minded woman so what's with the pink obsession? I feel it's now a bit late to say, please stop buying pink stuff (this includes bedroom accessories). But the prospect of 10 more years of pink is depressing.

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WinklyVersusTheZombies · 10/12/2012 11:07

Maybe she likes the colour? Do you think a pink t-shirt will turn your daughter into one of these? Try not to worry about it, just buy blue/grey/purple/whatever when it's your turn to go shopping.

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bradyismyfavouritewiseman · 10/12/2012 11:07

what does your dd think?

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Flisspaps · 10/12/2012 11:07

Tell her you prefer other colours.

It's quite easy.

She might not listen, in which case you don't put the clothes on DD.

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Latara · 10/12/2012 11:08

Pink is lovely . YABU. But blue is also nice (duck egg for example).

Just wait til your dd wants a Barbie or discovers Hello Kitty. Hehe Xmas Grin

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PurplePidjChickIsNotTheMessiah · 10/12/2012 11:10

Thank her then a) mix and match with not pink clothes or b) save them for when dd has d+v/messy play at nursery/rainy puddle-splashing days

She'll be old enough to tell Granny what she thinks of pink for herself soon enough Xmas Wink

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Jins · 10/12/2012 11:10

I really hate pink as a colour but it's bloody hard finding stuff that isn't pink nowadays if you are an occasional shopper for young girls Grin

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WorraLorraTurkey · 10/12/2012 11:12

YABU

I don't like yellow but I don't freak out if someone buys something yellow for my kids.

If it's really affecting your life then tell her.

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LondonElfInFestiveCheerBoots · 10/12/2012 11:13

Why is it too late to say 'Please stop buying pink'? Just say that DD has enough pink stuff and it doesn't seem to be her favourite colour, maybe branch out a bit? It could just be MIL's favourite colour? Is DD her first DGD?

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Yamyoid · 10/12/2012 11:14

Dd is only 7 months.

Haha, Winkly. I just have never liked the colour pink and the pink for girls thing grates on me.

I could cope with the clothes as there was some nice stuff, and as you say, she doesn't have to wear them. The problem is now it's spreading to bedroom stuff, which I do have to look at every day. I like pretty things and there are lots of pretty things in other colours.

I'm a bit embarrassed to tell her now I prefer other colours. Dh didn't look too keen either.

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Yamyoid · 10/12/2012 11:16

Worra, it's not affecting my life. I'm just having a rant Smile

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valiumredhead · 10/12/2012 11:17

What worra said.

Just because you don't like it doesn't mean your dd won't either.

Very rude to say anything.

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Jins · 10/12/2012 11:19

I'd tell her that pink doesn't go with the colour scheme you are going to use for the bedroom. My MIL bought a lot of pink because curtains were left in the house we bought and I left them up for a week. They had small pink flowers. She kept bringing heaps of junk to clutter my room up pink ornaments for years afterwards until we fixed her by taking the most distinctive shaped one and spraying it cream Grin

I never get embarrassed telling people that I don't like pink. It's not even a colour FFS!

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bradyismyfavouritewiseman · 10/12/2012 11:19

Dd is only 7 months.

Ah. Why do you only have to put up withbot for 10 years then.

Honestly I don't get the issue. She has bought some stuff you don't like. Happens to everyone.

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skandi1 · 10/12/2012 11:22

Purple?? If you like purple then ask your mil to get purple stuff for you DD. I am not a lover of pink either so I asked for purple for my DD and she looks lovely in it.

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TheCraicDealer · 10/12/2012 11:22

I'm an intelligent, liberal minded woman and pink just happens to be my favourite colour. It wouldn't occur to me that people would be that bothered about the colour of the gift I just gave their child.

If you're that bothered just save those bits for when DD's got explosive diarrhoea or is projectile vomiting. They won't be pink for long then!

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WorraLorraTurkey · 10/12/2012 11:22

I just have never liked the colour pink and the pink for girls thing grates on me

And that's what it boils down to I think...you're expecting other people to follow your 'no pink for girls/blue for boys' agenda.

Well not everyone particularly cares about that sort of stuff and to say, but she is an intelligent, liberal minded woman so what's with the pink obsession? ...makes you sound quite patronising to be honest.

Either ask her to choose a colour that's acceptable to you or just be grateful she bothers to buy her anything at all...but stop projecting.

They're only clothes.

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valiumredhead · 10/12/2012 11:23

What has she actually bought? Just hide the things you don't like or give them to a charity shop.

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chrismissymoomoomee · 10/12/2012 11:26

Are intelligent, liberal minded women not allowed to like pink then?

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autumnmum · 10/12/2012 11:26

You are not alone! Check out the work of these marvellous women

www.pinkstinks.co.uk/

I have had the same problem as my DD is the only girl on my DHs side. My DD doesn't fit the pink princess mould they wanted her to. But after me trying to gently hint that she please stop with the pink with no success, it was finally resolved when DD (then aged 4) said "Nana why can't you remember I don't like pink?". My lovely MIL and SILs now pride themselves on tracking down non-pink stuff. If you want to dress in pink from head to toe fine, but not everybody does and that is just as valid a choice.

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WorraLorraTurkey · 10/12/2012 11:30

A 4yr old deciding for themself (if indeed they did) that they don't like pink is quite different to an adult getting annoyed that their 7 month old baby has been given a gift of pink clothing.

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MrsWolowitz · 10/12/2012 11:33

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elvislives2012 · 10/12/2012 11:33

I've got a 7 week old and since I've had her I've been astounded by the amount if pink!!! The truly terrible stuff I go back to the shop and exchange it for something else for her. Your MIL would probably prefer you do that and use the stuff. It's hard to tell her without hurting her feelings. Keep some stuff and exchange other stuff that's what I'd do.

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TheCraicDealer · 10/12/2012 11:34

"I also have a pink car"

Envy Envy Envy

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Yamyoid · 10/12/2012 11:35

Thank you Autumn.

Yes, dd is the first and possibly only Dgd on that side.

I have no issue with dd choosing pink everything when she's old enough (well, I'll grin and bear it) but right now, I'd just prefer other colours.

Yes, the bedroom stuff will go in a cupboard.

I do dress her in the pink clothes, can't afford not to.

Didn't mean to patronise, just think the pink stereotype is ott. The lack of choice pisses me off.

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lljkk · 10/12/2012 11:36

One day your precious little girl will refuse to wear anything but BLACK. Including lots of it painted on her face. You'll then look back on the pink days with nostalgia, mark my words.

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