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to give this to dd for Christmas?

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We3bunniesOfOrientAre Sun 09-Dec-12 11:33:02

I had bought something for the kitchen, the company sent the wrong item, I was going to send it back (all agreed with company). Now I have discovered that someone has taken it out of it's packet, I don't think I can return it now. The place that I put it is one where I think it unlikely that anyone other than dd1 did it - she is nearly 8 but prone to fiddling with things which aren't hers. Ds couldn't get it and dd2 wouldn't be likely to do it, it is also right by where she sits. It costs about 5 pounds. It will not be her only present, but is it unreasonable to tell her that as it is because she opened it, it will now become hers and she might have less other things as a result?

SaintNiChaolas Sun 09-Dec-12 11:35:54


MissCellania Sun 09-Dec-12 11:36:56

Seems a bit OTT to me. She's just a curious kid. Is it of any use to her?

TanteRose Sun 09-Dec-12 11:38:10

Bit harsh.
I bet you can still return it

Yes, need to know what it is

GhostShip Sun 09-Dec-12 11:39:52


BoyMeetsWorld Sun 09-Dec-12 11:40:24

Lol visions of poor child getting an egg timer or something for Christmas!

Floggingmolly Sun 09-Dec-12 11:43:08

It cost a fiver?? shock. What would you do if she dropped a cup or plate, sell her presents to replace it? What a complete over reaction.

BeaWheesht Sun 09-Dec-12 11:43:45

Lighten up yabu

nellyjelly Sun 09-Dec-12 11:44:00

Agree. Harsh.

ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets Sun 09-Dec-12 11:45:48

Good Lord.
Lighten up, she's a child. And if she's naturally curious maybe you should have put it somewhere she couldn't get to it.

GhostShip Sun 09-Dec-12 11:46:09

It costs a fiver, and you don't even know if it was her.

BigShinyBaubles Sun 09-Dec-12 11:46:13

Seems completely OTT to me.
What is it?!
I think we all want to know now.

MerylStrop Sun 09-Dec-12 11:46:53

Bit cruel

I'd tell her she needs to do £5 of jobs round the house to pay for it

BonVoyageCharlieBrown Sun 09-Dec-12 11:53:24

You think it was her but don't actually know for certain.

Even if it was her, I agree with others, you are being OTT! It was a five pound item confused

Why not just try selling it on ebay or something? Yes,it is a bit annoying but you really are making a mountain out of a molehill!

wonderingsoul Sun 09-Dec-12 11:55:56

what is it? cant you just wrap it back up. long as it hasnt been used it should be fine.

i think you are being a bit ott really. you should have put it some where out of her reach, but i still think its just a kid thing. i woudlnt give it to her for her pressie.
just send it back

also what is it?

SantaFrontPaws Sun 09-Dec-12 11:57:49

Ahhh she is only 8! My friend dismantled her mums phone at that age to see how it worked - I suppose it's an age thing.

Is it something remotely useful? Did she say she did it? I would probably keep and use it anyway but give her a telling off for touching things that don't belong to her or things she doesn't know what they are (could be dangerous in the kitchen!).

Dinosaurhunter Sun 09-Dec-12 11:58:47

Words fail me ...

We3bunniesOfOrientAre Sun 09-Dec-12 11:58:49

It is a purple 'mini scraper' I would use it in baking, so yes she could use it when she does baking with me. I already have sufficient scrapers or equivalent, and don't need one which cost 5 pounds. It was the company's original mistake, but it is not the first time she has fiddled with things which aren't hers. There was no need for her to open it as it was in see though plastic bag so she could clearly see it without opening the packaging. The packet is nowhere to be seen. She is out at the moment. I would talk to her about it first before wrapping it up for her, and it would be from us, not FC. Maybe it is a bit much to wrap it up for her and remind her on Christmas day, but I need some way of stopping her messing with other people's things. She has no SN to excuse it, she just seems to find it impossible not to fiddle with things she finds.

She is the same with food - if dd2 hasn't eaten something dd1 likes the look of, dd1 will try to munch it - Easter drives her crazy as dd2 will have a small amount of chocolate each day, whereas dd1 eats hers straight away and spends the next 2 weeks pestering dd2.

I guess also I am a bit annoyed as I thought I would like the original item as part of my Christmas present, now I'm not sure I can justify going and getting another one (have seen the correct item in a nearby shop - original company not sure that they still have it in stock).

Floralnomad Sun 09-Dec-12 12:00:13

TBH i think you need to reread your post because you sound really nasty , why don't you just ask her if she took it out of its packet?

BendyBobsBrusselsSprouts Sun 09-Dec-12 12:00:41

Sounds like something that would happen here, pesky meddling kidswink. For the sake of a fiver I'd let it go tbh.

wonderingsoul Sun 09-Dec-12 12:01:25

find a different bag to put it in honestly.
i would give it to her just to teach her alesson on christmas day. unless your going to make a big deal of it it wont make any effect. and it would be cruel to make a standing point on christmas day over a five pound cutter.

Floggingmolly Sun 09-Dec-12 12:01:28

Oh, it's a mini scraper!!!! Why didn't you say, just what every kid wants to find in their stocking. hmm

GhostShip Sun 09-Dec-12 12:01:49

Oh FFS all this over a sodding baking scraper?

Look I'm sorry to be blunt, but I'd just get over it. Have a quick word with her about it, then drop it. Keep the scraper if you like. Go buy the other item if you still want to.

Seriously overthinking this OP I'm afraid.

and this: I would talk to her about it first before wrapping it up for her, and it would be from us, not FC is just daft.

toomuch2young Sun 09-Dec-12 12:03:08

My very first biscuit
Very unseasonable op, children fiddle it's not like she's causing mayhem and being out of control.

quirrelquarrel Sun 09-Dec-12 12:03:40

You don't have to do it but it's not that harsh. So she gets one present less. In the scheme of things is it a huge deal? No. Presumably she'll have lots of other presents. £5 is a lot to some people, and it should seem like a lot to everyone IMHO.

OP doesn't sound "really nasty" in the slightest. Jesus christ.

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