DH comes from another country and we are going over there for xmas for my dd to meet the in-laws. DH's younger brother is a serial monogomist who, at 37, is on his third wife (and has had numerous other failed live-in relationships.) He has been married and divorced twice in the past five years. Each of the wives has a child by him and the new wife (to whom he's been married for less than a month) is now PG. Every time I've been over there the brother has been very keen for me to get to know and spend time with each of his previous wives, to the point where it was bizarre and somewhat irritating (last time he took it upon himself to arrange for me to go for a pedicure with wife number 2 before I'd even arrived in the country or met her.) Wife number 2 then wanted to keep in touch via email etc even though I barely knew her which was fine but I now feel a bit uncomfortable as she emails me asking if I know what's going on with the new wife. Its a country where people are very warm and welcoming and family is a big deal so I accept up to a point that this is cultural and I have to suck a bit of this up. But the brother has just called me now and put wife number 3 on the phone and told me he's going to arrange for us to have a girl's night out. I can't face going through this rigmarole yet again with another woman who is almost certainly going to be unceremoniously dumped within two years, it makes me feel really uncomfortable: I'd rather take it at my own pace and see if I like her without all this forced couples jollity which I know will probably go wrong. Would IBU to tell DH not again, sorry, I'll meet her at xmas and take it at my own pace? Or do I have to go along with it?
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to tell my DH I'm not prepared to go through the same charade of having to be best mates with his brother's new wife (number three)
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quesadilla · 08/12/2012 14:32
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