What's the most rude thing anyone has ever said/done to you?(285 Posts)
OK, I know it's not really an AIBU, but it features people being definitely U! I was just putting on some eyeshadow (as you do) and I remembered this: a) years ago, I was in a noisy pub and drunk man said to his wife, "Look at this girl, isn't she lovely?" His wife looked right at me and said, "She would be if she'd learn to do her eye makeup right." Still no idea what was wrong with my eye makeup, so presumably am still making the same terrible mistake!
b) I once went on a very short taxi journey and the fare was £5. I gave the taxi driver £5.50, ie a 10% tip. He looked down at it and said, (I kid you not) "That's not much of a tip." I just went, "Thanks! Bye!"
c) My boyfriend gave me a pair of earrings for my birthday. I said to my friend, "Oh, I see you're looking at my earrings. DP gave me them for my birthday." "Is that ALL he gave you?" "Yes. They ARE real." (They were pearls.) She then said, "Oh. They don't LOOK real."
d) I was once flashed at. A proper, open-up-your-brown-raincoat flash. I was about 23, and it was right in the centre of the city, in broad daylight. The thing was, the flasher was a bit of an amateur and got the timing wrong. He let me get too close to him before opening up the raincoat. I didn't look down, so I didn't see anything. Still rude though. Or am I being over-sensitive?
The first year I was married my MIL bought me a diet magazine and said I see this and thought you would like it. Believe it or not I did get on with her, she passed away a few years back. Me and husband often laugh about now.
I have a few:
1) To scene set; my best mate's DM has many lovely qualities but is, in truth, a snob. She describes herself and family as nouveau pauvre and ever since I've known her has enjoyed smarming up to posh people with money, whom she can apparently freeload off in an attempt to recover her lost lifestyle. Once, after church she was
patronising talking to me at coffee; I was mid-anecdote and her Oxford-educated, Fulham residing son came in with his double-barrelled wife (proper posh and a really beautiful person, inside and out). Despite obviously not having finished what I was saying, she just smiled and 'Mmmm!'ed at me as she backed away with alacrity and went to join them. It takes a lot but I was genuinely at that.
2) My Dad; lovely man but with warped views on motivation of offspring, once said of my sister to a colleague but within my earshot, that she 'was the brains of the family'.
3) True fuckwit of an ex-BF who 'thought he was in love' with this other girl and fair-dos, dumped me before pursuing her. We were flatmates (helpful, whilst trying to nurse a very broken heart) and afterwards; I can't remember his words exactly, but I was trying to get back together with him and we were listening to some Counting Crows and he said 'this is a lovely moment but all I can think is, I wish you were Kate.'
He was/is a bit fucked up though from his upbringing; very tortured.
V.I.P. arrived unexpectedly at work one day and needed to be escorted round all depts to meet and greet.
I was called up to do the honours as no "senior" managers available.
V.I.P. says : "I don't know why they make such a fuss when I arrive. I don't mind being shown round by someone unimportant"!
All the ones I can think of are from my secondary school days - almost 20 years since I left, yet they still haunt me:
Boy: "No one would want a blow job off you until you have a nose job" (I was 11 at the time)
Girl in changing room to other girls in the class: "I lost my virginity when I was 12. How old were you?" - She asks each girl in turn, all of them admitting they're still virgins. Then she gets to me: "I won't even bother asking you, you're so square." (We were 13 at the time)
Same girl referring to my mum was working as a supply teacher at the school that day: "She's so cool, there's no way she could be your real mum cos you're dead sad."
Boy at school: "Why the hell are you wearing lipstick? You're so ugly there's no point."
Never fails to bemuse me how these days they all want to befriend me on Facebook, be ultra nice and "like" everything I do, even though we haven't spoken since the early nineties??!
On eating a Christmassy quality street chocolate from the communal office tin, one of my colleagues said "you shouldn't be eating those, you'll get FATTER".
I was supporting DH, who was doing the Tough Guy race. There were some soldiers there, possibly Paras (red berets). They were taking the mickey out of a young boy with disabilities. I told them that it wasn't acceptable or appropriate. The response?
one from today... not too bad but still!
On showing my mum my new bag that I'd bought my SIL's mother pipes up 'who's it by?' 'Jaspar Conran' I said (half price debenhams sale!) 'oh you're not in the same league as SIL and SIL then, theirs are Mulberry and Prada!'
thanks for that
When visiting my Gran she invited her neighbour into meet me and said
'this is my granddaughter, she used to be a big fat thing' and then moved her arms out to demonstrate!
What's with how many men feel it's totally acceptable to walk up to a woman, a stranger and inform her of their opinion on their appearance?!
A couple of new ones spring to mind. And old boyfriend told me I had a nice back and that I looked better from the back (I am flat chested but really?)
And in a bar a bloke who'd been staring at me with his friend for a while came over and said "My friend and I thought you were fit until we saw your nails. They're disgusting" (I bit them at the time) I wasn't asking for his opinion and he wasn't exactly an oil painting, nice nails or not!
My mother, on us visiting to show us me pregnant with her first grandchild (about 6 months) she said, "With an arse the size off yours it is hard to see if you are carrying the baby round the back or round the front."
I had a wild time at uni, really good fun and absolutely loved my time there.
I did a lot of science stuff which was bloody hard and really struggled with it. On graduating I remember feeling delighted to discover despite my struggling and socialising I got a 2nd class honours degree. I was so pleased (and still am many years later!)
Me to my friends: "Oh wow a 2nd, I can't believe I got a 2nd!"
HOD - who looked like Ming the mercilous from Flash Gordon and had stinky breath - walking past, shaking his head: "neither can we, neither can we"
*complimentary. I can see it was the kick up the bun i needed but I still can't forget it 7years on!
After u had ds1 DHs aunt said to me 'with all the weight you gained we expected twins!'. I laughed pretended I thought it was funny then went and sat in the car and cried! DH was so apologetic and she's said so many offensive things to him as well. But when I lost all my baby weight - 15kg - that same aunt was really com
I've got a belter!
When I was about 20 there were a number of tramps living in the town centre where I lived, they were always about and usually quite chatty.
One day one called to me from the other side of the road, something that I didn't hear. So I cheerily waved and said 'hello! what did you say' This was repeated several times, each time more loudly. Turns out he was (by now) shouting 'I bet your husband kisses your vagina for you'
At first I couldn't think of anything that anyone had ever said to me that was rude, then they all came flooding back!
1 / A Czech adult male student said to me in heavy Czech accent "You should go to gym, you are a little fat" I was so shell shocked I could say nothing but 'pardon?' thinking it was the language barrier. He just repeated it whilst pointing at his stomach. I could only say 'thanks'. He said it in front of the class but just in a matter of fact way - not aggressive in anyway. At the time I was a size 12 and about 8 weeks pregnant. I wept all the way home.
2/ when I was in my early 20s I was good friends with a tall beautiful girl. We were a little twosome. One night she brought out her tall beautiful friend and her short, fat, plain friend. So there were 4 of us. The plain fat short friend said to me "We can bond over being 'the ugly one' ".
3/ A massively large work colleague put her arm around me once and said "oh I am glad someone curvy like you work here so that I am not alone!" I was a quarter of her.
4/ My mum looking at a photo of me in early 20s said "Oh I do miss the figure you had then and your curves". What am I now?!!! Just a ball of lard?!
For a woman - I think weight is where it hurts. I am soon to become a mother and I think if anyone insulted my child I would rip their face off.
louis I wouldn't bother. She sounds horrible.
One of my beloved children clocked my lovely post waxed lip and asked me was Movember over now? I was kind of impressed that he knew about such things
OK - teenage, in McDonald's, visible mobility difficulties, some clueless woman knocks into me with her handbag and sends me and my milkshake flying. I look up with tears in my eyes, only to have this ratty, bald beardo say "Well it wasn't me!!" as if that would make it all better.
Also: at university, dating using the internet, still visible mobility difficulties, go on date with apparently pleasant woman and have pleasant if chemistry-free time, arrange another date about a month later with another woman from the same college, get stood up, check e-mail when I get back to college... to find a long screed saying "Oh yeah my friend * said she went on a date with you a few weeks ago and you were really f***ing weird so I didn't think I'd bother but now I'm having a guilt trip about it - I hope you don't mind but I feel awful!!". No, the honesty did not make me feel good.
louistheseventeenth why do you go home? She sounds awful.
Haha vlad wish I'd had such a comeback! I just pretended I hadn't heard and slunked off. Makes me smile now though
Glittery, if it's any consolation I was part of a very small tribe of Goths in my very non-rock-and-roll home town as a teenager, and was probably the only girl in a ten-mile radius who didn't wear Lycra miniskirts.
One night we were sloping off to the pub and were surrounded by a group of lads who seemed to be spoiling for a fight. "Oi, freakoids," said one, "do you think it's fucking Halloween or summink?"
We were quite gleeful in telling him that it was, in fact, Halloween
My mother, when telling her I was being induced after my first PG ended in MC at 5 months:
"Well at least you will be all stretched out for a proper baby after this"
My mother, after my third consecutive MC this year:
"When I think of you I just get so upset I pretend in my head you don't exist"
I am not looking forward to going home for Christmas.......
These are all shocking
I had an appointment with a dermatologist to get a dodgy mole checked out.
I sat down and explained to her why I'd been referred. She then said something along the lines of "oh I thought you were here about those spots on your face"
I thought my skin wasn't looking too bad that day.
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