What's the most rude thing anyone has ever said/done to you?(285 Posts)
OK, I know it's not really an AIBU, but it features people being definitely U! I was just putting on some eyeshadow (as you do) and I remembered this: a) years ago, I was in a noisy pub and drunk man said to his wife, "Look at this girl, isn't she lovely?" His wife looked right at me and said, "She would be if she'd learn to do her eye makeup right." Still no idea what was wrong with my eye makeup, so presumably am still making the same terrible mistake!
b) I once went on a very short taxi journey and the fare was £5. I gave the taxi driver £5.50, ie a 10% tip. He looked down at it and said, (I kid you not) "That's not much of a tip." I just went, "Thanks! Bye!"
c) My boyfriend gave me a pair of earrings for my birthday. I said to my friend, "Oh, I see you're looking at my earrings. DP gave me them for my birthday." "Is that ALL he gave you?" "Yes. They ARE real." (They were pearls.) She then said, "Oh. They don't LOOK real."
d) I was once flashed at. A proper, open-up-your-brown-raincoat flash. I was about 23, and it was right in the centre of the city, in broad daylight. The thing was, the flasher was a bit of an amateur and got the timing wrong. He let me get too close to him before opening up the raincoat. I didn't look down, so I didn't see anything. Still rude though. Or am I being over-sensitive?
I used to be a model.
My Mum's 'date' said to me: "You actually look a lot better in your pictures" after she had asked me to show him my portfolio.
I have had numerous rude/cruel things said to me over the years. That is the only one I allowed to stick for some reason.
Smug, annoying woman from my NCT group who lost her baby weight v quickly (it took me many
years months to lose it).
Gives a leaflet about some kind of exercise class to one of the skinny girls in the group, goes to offer me one saying "are you interested in..oh..I don't suppose you are" and puts it back in her bag.
Happily I am now a toned, size 10 gym bunny and very much enjoyed bumping into her again (while she was still losing the weight from her twins).
"is this your clever grandaughter?" "no no this is my other grandaughter" gcse's, a levels and a degree but not a Dr like my cousin so thick as shit!
Oh, and from woman at school when they'd heard DH and I foster
'i'm too kind, I couldn't do it, I'd get too attached'
Yeah, cruel heartless bitch me.
The midwife when I wad in labour with ds1, "you've done really badly for stretch marks". Thanks
On a night out aged about 16, with my petite, pretty friend. Boy comes over to friend in the taxi queue, starts talking to her, notices me and says, "What is that?!".
My sensitive uncle used to call me 'Beef to the heel, like a Mullingar heifer' loudly, as often as possible when I was a teenager. Being a sensitive soul, this would drive me straight into my bedroom to hide/sulk for hours on end. One afternoon, emerging, blinking into the living room, my aunt (on my dad's side this time) said 'oh don't let him bother you. I was a big fat lump too when I was a teenager and look at me now!'
The bizarre thing is, I wasn't even that fat, a size 14 maybe. Oh, and both aunt and uncle went on to have at least one child each who was much fatter than I've ever been. My mum and I have never said anything but do have the occasional chortle abut it!
Another one: random stranger on the street "excuse me love, do you know the way to weight watchers?" me "no, sorry" him "thought not". And I weighed all of 8 and half stone at the time
I got the impression that when he said thought not, it was because you were 8 and a half stone and therefore didn't need to go to WW. So therefore you wouldn't know the way.
Going out clubbing with a friend (many ears ago), we passed a load of lads. Now my friend has a major facial disfigurement and one of the lads decided to say "Wow, isn't she f***ing ugly" to which I grabbed him by the scruff, flung him against a bus shelter and told him that I would break his f***ing legs if he disrespected her again.
He asked if I was angry, so I told him "I haven't even started getting angry, now piss off before you end up eating shitty hospital food".
I have two:
1) After I'd lost the excess weight I'd put on in my early 20's from drinking copious pints of lager, my Gran said "Good, you looked like the back end of a bus." [I really didn't]
2) Upon seeing a photo of me when from my copious pints of lager phase a boyfriend remarked "Well, I wouldn't have asked you out when you looked like that." He thought I would appreciate his honest, the narc cunt.
PackItInNow Should have deployed your tactics on a few of my relatives....
I was at my friends hen do in a club in London. A slimey weasel came up to me from across the other side of the club and said ' This girl looks like Shilpa Shetty....the face but not the body!'
I was nearly six months pregnant with my son
Earlier this year I was at a check out at the super market, wearing a new top after dropping a couple of stone. Was my first new top in the next size down. Feeling pretty damn bob on with me self.
The old dear infront of my piped up with. Ohh they do make some lovely clothes now a days, for people like you.
The spotty yoof behind the till interjected with, she's not a murderer love just a bit .... Cuddly. Full marks to him for not saying just a massive heifer.
My very first proper bf "of course I'd rather go out with someone who looked like a model, but you're lucky because I can see past that and love your personality".
Cue a string of loser bf's each one worse than the last cos that's all I thought I deserved. Until I finally met dh who makes me feel good about myself. So I married him!
I think mine will win.
In the postnatal ward after giving birth to DD. Had trouble latching her on so she was full on screaming for about an hour. When she eventually stopped crying, the boyfriend of the girl in the next bed, said 'they've eventually shut the little cunt up then.'
Couldn't believe someone would say that about a newborn baby.
When I was choosing which A levels to do and mentioned to my physics teacher I was considering physics, she told me I wasn't really A level material and I should consider leaving school and going to work in M&S! the caaah! I took (and passed) physics and went on to get a geology degree
My best friend and housemate slept with my boyfriend. And when I found out said "it's not like you owned him'
I thought that was pretty rude
I've had several things.
An old lady on a bus 'Your son is going to be so ashamed of you looking like that when he's older' (I have lots of piercings)
Some random guy shouting out of his car 'Go on a fucking diet' (after I'd lost 3 stone already and was feeling quite good about myself until then, I cried on the bus.
In town while my son (with SN which does affect his moods) having a mahooosive strop some guy saying 'God, some people can't control their fucking kids'
While I was in hospital pg with dd and a nurse saying to me 'Have you put on a lot of weight this pregnancy or have you always been this fat.' charming.
Male friend of mine once asked me very earnestly "if you were a girl, what would you think of x y z?"
god the "fat" ones really stick in people's heads, don't they. big hugs too all subject to nasty, fattist remarks.
and all the horrible ones to people's children too.
Rude lady who tried to push ahead of me at the tills, when told by the shop assistant that I was first: "Oh, you're so tiny, I didn't see you there".
I'm 5'3". Hardly invisible to the naked eye I refrained from replying that at her size she could probably be seen from space.
I have a lot, all on a similar theme:
When I was 16 my friend's grandmother asked me why I was so fat. I was at most a bit teenage chubby, but not huge.
At university a friend talking about her previous eating problems said to me 'well of course even when I was a compulsive eater I was never as fat as you are' At the time I was 5' 6 and a size 14 (would be a 12 in today's sizes). She was 4' 11 and a size 8, but previously had been a size 16...
Another friend's mum said to me 'you'd be really pretty if you got your weight problem sorted out'
I've also been asked why was I so fat MANY times. Told I had a pretty face but needed to lose weight.
It would never occur to me to comment negatively on anyone's weight. I have no idea why people feel entitled to do so.
An ex boyfriend and me once ordered champagne in a restaurant. The head of house guy brought it over and asked if we'd mind telling him what the occasion was. When we replied there wasn't one he said "oh, you don't look like the sort of people to drink champagne for no reason!"
It was frightfully rude of him!
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