To ask if I'm rude or if DB IBU when I comment and joke about how bad his financial situation is?

[CaptainCrimbo]

It seems as though I have inadvertently upset a family member. Things have been very tight financially for DB and his DW. For example, only being able to afford to go abroad on holiday once a year, having to buy supermarket's own produce, having an old car etc. DB is doing temping work at min wage and his DP is on more, but not earning a wedge. They live in a small house, don't have much disposable income. They can only go away for the weekend maybe three or four times a year max, they don't buy many new clothes and things like that.

Apparently I've been rude because I make a lot of comments about how I know they haven't got much money, and told them a new car will financially cripple them. Joking about how DB's wife shouldn't get her hopes up about Xmas presents from DB because of their financial situation isn't very nice either according to DB. They had a new carpet fitted and I jokingly asked how they could afford it, because DB hasn't got a real job and they've got no money. Apparently I'm being thoughtless and rude. I'm not being nasty, but it's true, they are in the shit financially.

AIBU? Was I was rude, or are they just being overly sensitive? I think they just need to grow thicker skins. I think DB is being ridiculous, but I'm also prepared to be proven wrong.

[CogitOCrapNotMoreSprouts]

YABU. Rubbing people's noses in their misfortune is really bad form.

[MurderOfGoths]

Reverse AIBU?

[Turniphead1]

hahaha. Very funny.

[MissCellania]

Reverse aibu? I hate those.

[HECTheHallsWithRowsAndFolly]

People on here don't generally like reverse AIBUs

[WorraLorraTurkey]

Hahahaha! Are you for real?

[zlist]

I was thinking the same - reverse AIBU.
Anyway, YABU.

[NoKnidForABed]

Joke? Reverse AIBU?

[meddie]

You are being very rude. I am sure they are fully aware of their financial situation and constantly reminding them of it is really nasty.

[Alibabaandthe40nappies]

Are you joking?

A holiday abroad and 3-4 weekends away a year doesn't sound to bad.

You on the other hand sound like a thoughtless

[LimeLeafLizard]

Is this a reverse AIBU?

They don't sound that poor tbh - someone who 'has an old car, buys supermarket own brands and only goes on holiday once a year' sounds quite normal!

[ClippedPhoenix]

Hmmm, I actually think you have been rude, unintentionally but rude all the same. Why should they grow a thicker skin? Maybe you should tone down the type jokes you dish out.

[AntsMarching]

Is this a reverse?

[thenightsky]

Wow... you sound awful.

[Geekydiva]

Sometimes it's easier to take the mick out of people when you're not going through the same thing so see it differently to how they see it. Like for example their financial situation might be stressful to them and they are trying to make the best if their situation so could possibly be a sore point for them.

[KazzaRazza]

YABVVVVVU

How dare you comment, joking or otherwise, on someone elses financial situation.

I am in a real financial mess and would be devastated if my DB or anyone thought it was funny to laugh at me.

I just hope you never end up in financial straits and someone decides it's funny to laugh at you.

Grow up!

[LimeLeafLizard]

oh. Whoops. X posted with all the other people who thought the same thing!

[AntsMarching]

Oops. Massive x post

[bradyismyfavouritewiseman]

You are either a bitch or this is a reverse aibu.

If its a reverse its not objective enough so perhaps YABU even then.

[OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos]

Wow, you sound horrible!

And if its a reverse AIBU, then you are simply being a twat. I hate reverse AIBUs!

[PrincessMononoke]

Is this a jokey thread about a tv show or summat like that ?

[BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack]

Rude rude rude.

[OnTheBottomWithAStringOfTinsel]

So, if this is a reverse AIBU, you are not doing too badly financially, but your DB and SIL insist that you are broke and are constantly rubbing your nose in it, and you're being told you're too sensitive diddums and should lighten up?

I'd tear them a new one (and post here as a normal post, not a reverse one!)

[ChazsBrilliantAttitude]

If this is a reverse please put us out of our misery now as they are getting a bit tedious now.

I would never comment on anyone else financial situation and spending habits especially if I was in a better position myself, there is almost no way you can do it without sounding superior / smug/ judgmental etc.

[PrincessMononoke]

I love the bit about just the one holiday abroad this year and no surely not own brand food, the poor buggers