AIBU to think you might consider prostitution if you are on the your your arse knees?(91 Posts)
I have been skint properly skint and have thought about 'selling my body'
Lucky I have never got to that place, but if I ever do would I be wrong and dirty for doing so or sensible and clever for securing an income?
I've considered it seriously, to the point of calling ads for escorts and meeting up with the guy in charge. It was an agency that targeted businessmen in hotels and I already knew a girl who did it, so I was confident that I would be physically protected and the clients would be at a reasonable standard of grooming etc. But I realised that, despite being less than fussy about who I slept with back then, I just couldn't have sex with someone I hadn't picked out myself.
I wasn't hungry or on the streets, but I was on benefits and I enjoyed an active (and casual) sex life, so it seemed like only one step to get paid for doing something I was enjoying anyway. But it was a step too far for me personally. I have done other sex-related things for money though, including text services, which I didn't see anything morally wrong with, but it was an unreliable income.
The benefits I was on, were easily enough to keep me fed and sheltered, so I can't imagine being in a situation when I would have to do it to avoid my dc starving. I would have used the money for an improved quality of life - nicer clothes, consumer goods - stuff you can't afford on a low income but wouldn't be covered by benefits.
Yes, if I couldn't feed my children any other way. As a very fucking last resort. Anyone would if it came down to it
Briefest I also won't flame you, or anyone esle who got to the stage of feeling it was the only option.
I can't imagine any situation where I would do it, but if DDs were starving I know I would do anything to get food. I actualy know someone here (abroad, no benefit system) who did this after her husband walked out and left her homeless and penniless. She's not a friend as such, just soemone I know. I really can't understand why she took this route when she has a large close knit family and group of friends. Non of them are wealthy, but none of them would have seen her and DC starve.
I'm considering it right now . I work but, as of this Friday, I won't have been paid for 3 months (I'm barely surviving on tax credits). I don't think my employers can afford the number of staff they've got and because I stupidly became very close to them, they make excuses for not paying me when I ask for my money, although everyone else has had their wages. If I don't get my outstanding wages on Wednesday I plan to resign, but I don't know where I will stand re benefits if I make myself voluntarily jobless so if I have to turn to prostitution to get money for 6 month old DD, I will.
No, no amount of money would make me sleep with other men.
My marriage is worth more than that, as is my self morals.
Peahen (I'm at risk of hijacking the thread, but this is important) if you resign, you almost certainly will be refused benefits/JSA (it is called 'being sanctioned'). You will have to prove you had 'just cause' for leaving, and that takes time, and if they do not accept that your reason for leaving was good enough, you could be refused JSA for up to 6 months. Direct Gov info here. You may also have your tax credits stopped, so you'd be penniless. Don't do it without taking legal advice first.
If they don't pay you on Weds, it might be better simply to stop going in to work, and to start legal proceedings against them. You definitely need to take advice from a lawyer and/or the CAB. And maybe post in MN Legal for more ideas/advice?
Altikum, prostitution is not a moral issue - it's an economic one.
fellow shipoffestivemodels reading your story about your friend found it it seems it started where she was on adult channels then got so caught up in it that it turned rotton girls who start of inthe trade thinking it,s going to be easy money never is there lifes are taken soul destroyed a example of what could happen. to the op question i don,t think it,s dirty has there are horrible rotten to the core people who are worser than prostitutes.
Tailfeathers. It is possible to do without becoming a fucked up junky. But depends on wether you can handle it or not and you need to really think about if you really can.
I have 2 close friends who are escorts and seem to be happy and successful, sometimes i envy there life. Make sure you go with a good agency who really care about your safety. Or would you consider the sex line work?
In your shoes i would threaten to take your employer to a tribunal, i dont mean to be horrible but it seems like your letting them not pay you without kicking up a fuss. If they cant afford to everyone why are they choosing a single mum with a baby not to pay?
Name change to jump in on this one. Eighteen years ago I was in a dire financial situation and was offered the chance to work as an escort. After a long chat with the friend who told me she'd been doing it I decided to go for it; the money was the motivator but the thought of the experience of sex-for-money was also quite a heady one. My first client was a middle-aged fat-bellied butcher who treated me well and gave me £120 for sex. I can't underestimate the feeling of having that money just for a fuck! I was 26 at the time and very sexually active so I did enjoy (most) of the sex. I worked for a year until my debts were paid. Over that year I did 13 'jobs' between 7 clients. I had one who was a foot fetishist who loved to paint my nails then wank himself off. I had a very powerful man who loved me to blow him after totally humiliating him. I had an S&M return client who paid me £600 to tie him up and physically and emotionally abuse him...no actual sex was involved with him.
I had the choice of whether or not i did a job and there was one who's 'narrative' during his blow job I could have done without. On the other side, i had a client who treated me like a princess, was interested in my brain as well as my body, and actually made me cum. Yes, there are risks, but not really anymore than taking a man home who you meet in a bar/club.
What you need to ask yourself is why sex-for-money is seen as immoral. It's foundations are in institutions of control of women's sexuality, ie. religion, patriarchy, the state. Liberal and pro-sex feminism gives women space to DO WHAT THEY WANT WITH THEIR BODIES. Take charge of your sexuality and do what you need to do. Don't let other women's opinions influence your decision. Exploitation? Bollocks. When you're pulling the strings and they're paying you for it, it's the men that are being exploited honey.
The fact that you're considering it tells me that you could do it if you wanted. Not everyone can. But it's not called your 'money-maker' for nothing baby!
Feel free to PM me if you want to chat further.
I'd be a dominatrix, my privates are just that
Wouldn't mind making them lick my shoes and whipping them though, I'm sure it's probably better paid.
Oh see you let yourself down with the 'honey' and the 'baby'
That in itself is a reason to keep your hand on your ha'penny if you end up talking that way...
My dad used to say keep your hand on your ha'penny and your cab fare home worra
Clipped I hate to scare you but we could well be sisters
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