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To feel jealous of women screaming in pain?

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honeytea Thu 06-Dec-12 21:26:34

I'm 39+4 weeks pregnant and have been watching some one born every minute repeats. I am insainly jealous of the screaming crying women, I just keep thinking "but I want to be screaming not sitting on the sofa with my raspberry leaf tea!."

I was in hospital yesterday because of high blood pressure and reduced fetal movements, all was fine and i was sitting waiting for my DP to pick me up. A woman walked by puffing, panting and crying, the normal reaction to this would be to think poor her, I hope she is ok but no crazy hormonal me was so envious that it wasn't me.

I am sure that I will be regreting wishing pain upon myself as soon as labour starts but for now I am just fantasizing about debilitatin pain.

OHforDUCKScake Sun 09-Dec-12 07:50:44

Has it been your time to scream yet honeytea?

Gillyweed001 Sun 09-Dec-12 08:05:53

Honey, don't worry too much about the weight. They told me ds was at least 8 pound, 4 weeks before my due date. when he was born, he was only 6.12! Good luck, you'll be there soon!

wem Sun 09-Dec-12 08:08:12

I remember feeling like this when in hospital waiting for an induction with DD2. It was a really busy day and I kept being bumped for the actual labouring women that kept coming in. I heard the screams and just wanted it to be my turn! Bit me on the bum later though, having barely made a noise with DD1 I screamed my head off when I finally got induced.

Hope it's your turn soon honeytea!

honey definately scream if you need to. My midwife told me off but I just didn't care, it definately helped!

What didn't help was 2 previous labours with a gradual build up for 2 weeks and then this 1 being 3hrs 10 mins from first pain to birth!

MrsGeologist Sun 09-Dec-12 08:38:45

With DS2, I was fine until crowning. I'd had a local when I had DS1, so didn't feel it, and was not prepared for how much it fucking stung. I screamed like a fucking banshee. Never screamed like that before. It was quite liberating, in a way grin

SuzySheepSmellsNice Sun 09-Dec-12 08:51:07

blackeyedsusan ditto, I did not utter a single noise apart from 'please take your clammy hands off me DM' which is odd as normally I am quite shouty and can be quite sweary

Gas and air is goooooooooooood

DH was concerned that I wasn't getting enough oxygen as I had the G&A clamped between my teeth for about 6 hours, bless him!

EuphemiaInExcelsis Sun 09-Dec-12 09:02:27

DH missed

Missed what? confused

RooneyMara Sun 09-Dec-12 09:07:45

I understand completely.

However screaming doesn't work very well ime.

ElphabaTheGreen Sun 09-Dec-12 09:14:26

You could get lucky and never have to scream in pain at all. I feel like a bit of a cheat having had an EMCS - waters broke, 12 hours of induction with naught but a token twinge or two and lots of me saying, 'is something supposed to be happening?' while midwives shook their heads at the max dose of syntocin I was on, then they cut DS an emergency escape hatch. Fanjo still honeymoon fresh grin

Fakebook Sun 09-Dec-12 09:16:17

Euphemia, missed ejaculating where he should have. confused.

TotesFeckingAmaze Sun 09-Dec-12 09:19:08


Is this your first baby, OP?

JenaiMathis Sun 09-Dec-12 10:33:37

How are these men missing their partners' vaginas?

Am I missing something? confused

EuphemiaInExcelsis Sun 09-Dec-12 10:46:12

I'm naïve lost. Did they do it in the wrong orifice? confused

Thumbwitch Sun 09-Dec-12 10:53:02

Oh I have a wry smile on my face reading this thread!

I didn't scream in my first labour, but wailed a lot. Second one though - ahh yes, lots of screaming (thanks for that, syntocin drip!) I couldn't have stopped it if I tried, tbh, it was out of my control. I'm still sure I heard someone going "Sshhh, shh" so I hit DH with the gas&air tube (thought it was him) - he looked most offended and asked why, and then denied saying Sh! Oops blush

First pg, DH "missed" when I was 41w pg and trying the sex-to-bring-on-labour thing - it was the most uncomfortable and awful experience of sex ever and wasn't even effective as he didn't ejaculate - we didn't even bother this time around. grin

Anyway - YABU to be envy of the pain but not the reason for it - I hope you have a calm and quick labour and that it starts soon for you - thanks and wine in advance! smile

EuphemiaInExcelsis Sun 09-Dec-12 10:56:01

I never made it to labour - emergency c section at 36 weeks - evidently there's a whole "Take aim, fire!" scenario DH and I missed out on! grin

MummytoMog Sun 09-Dec-12 10:59:56

I found mooing much more effective. Mooed like a cow both times. Found the old baby inducing shag very effective both times as well, although DH had to be forced into it. And despite a shed load of stitches both times I'm still using the smaller size mooncup...

ILiveInAPineappleCoveredInSnow Sun 09-Dec-12 11:00:25

I just snorted tea from both nostrils thanks to this thread!

Good luck OP!

Jingleflobba Sun 09-Dec-12 11:36:29

Have just spent 5 minutes wondering exactly how fakebook's DH missed! blush i get it now, only had one coffee this morning...
Totally normal to be envious, i spent my last 2 weeks reading birth announcements while green with envy and giving evil looks to women pushing prams so I know how you feel!

nellyjelly Sun 09-Dec-12 11:41:27

I wailed and groaned rather than screamed. Good luck OP.

Fakebook Sun 09-Dec-12 11:47:17

I didn't want to go into too much detail! It's really hard getting into position with a massive belly at 39 weeks. Apparently the sperm has to be deposited as close to the cervix as possible to kickstart labour, so that meant missionary. It was all very awkward and there was a lot of stopping and starting. So just as he was about to finish off he went off course and ended up outside. I've never felt such rage in my life. He was pissed off too for forcing him to do the job. If there's a next time, I'll just stick with squatting and star jumps.

JenaiMathis Sun 09-Dec-12 12:00:16

Oh Fakebook I get you now grin


EuphemiaInExcelsis Sun 09-Dec-12 12:06:58

I'll just stick with squatting and star jumps

My c section is looking like the more dignified option at the moment! grin

SoniaGluck Sun 09-Dec-12 12:12:30

How are these men missing their partners' vaginas?
I just cackled like a loon at this.

Thank you to Fakebook for explaining. I didn't understand because I had very small bumps and missionary was never a problem even at 40+ weeks.

Not that sex ever started labour for me - long walks with the dogs did the trick a couple of times. wink

applecrumple Sun 09-Dec-12 12:38:25

YANBU my dd is 12 weeks old, but she was 4 weeks prem. I had to be induced because she had stopped growing. I had 2 failed inductions, dd went into distress & had to be delivered by em c section. I didn't even make it into labour (apart from some minor tightenings - think I was about 2 cm dilated). Can't even watch one born every minute now as would just make me jealous & upset over the labour I never had. Silly really as I have a beautiful daughter, but I just can't help it.

honeytea Sun 09-Dec-12 12:57:22

No screaming for me yet envy It was very close on friday I was sent by my midwife to hospital as my blood preassure was high and I had protein in my urine, they wanted to induce me but I was 0cm dilated so they couldn't even do a sweep. My cervix was soft (not really sure what that means) but hopefully it won't be too long!

When my DP missed whilst ttc I ment he didn't get close enough to the cervix, timed the thrust wrong so to speak.

It is my 1st baby and I'm just ready to meet him now!

Curry for lunch and some christmas shopping later will get things moving I hope!

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