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To not want my DC to participate in nativity?

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Spru Wed 05-Dec-12 15:47:56

I asked school to excuse DC from nativity (due to religious reasons - we do not depict jesus/mary/joseph.) They were absolutely fine with it. Happened to mention this to work colleagues - and they basically told me that I wasn't willing to integrate! hmm

I was a bit shocked that they saw it like this despite the fact that I explained why. I didn't realise that this decision was perceived as a lack of willingness to integrate - in a country which I have been born and brought up in.

I had to bite my tongue for the sake of peace!

So...MN jury...grin AIBU to exclude DC from nativity for religious reasons (note: DC is not excluded from other christmas activities at school). Am I just not integrating well into the society that I was born and brought up in?



(please be gentle)

MrsTerryPratchett Sat 08-Dec-12 18:01:10

Grr have you been to Morocco? I like their theory. Look at the outside of mosques (and they are beautiful and many) but don't come in if you aren't Muslim. Keeps the places special for those for whom they are special.

My theory is that the OP is reasonable (and seasonable) because she is 'fitting in' where it is OK for her to do so (Secret Santa), not trying to change other people's traditions (not asking the school to ban Nativity) and keeping her traditions where she feels she must (not having her DC portray the prophets). I really fail to see how she could be more reasonable and still keep her integrity.

Spru Sun 09-Dec-12 00:28:42


Well i am glad that you too have pompously expressed your opinion. It is the season for goodwill and giving so I shall to graciously accept your criticism. thanks

After all, i dont want to be accused of looking solely for affirmation and validation. smile

SolidGoldFrankensteinandmurgh Sun 09-Dec-12 00:54:58

Well, all religious observance is inherently ridiculous, when you think about it. So are lots of things people like to do (such as ballet, football and buying Justin Beiber's music). But whatever wierd ridiculous shit people like to do or think is only problematic when it starts being a matter of trying to control what other people do or think. So in the OP's specific case, it's a bit daft to have such a stick up your arse about a school play but her DC aren't fussed about not participating and she'd not demanding that the school stop doing the play, so it's really not a big deal.

Galvanise Sun 09-Dec-12 01:01:09

Not read all the messages...but have to say brycie when someone says it is her right to do something and then follows with an eye roll, well that is just bad and a sad attitude!

Galvanise Sun 09-Dec-12 01:04:22

Sorry, the above should have read, when someone says it is her right to do something and then unofficially follows with an eye roll, well that is just bad and a sad attitude!

Galvanise Sun 09-Dec-12 01:09:32

SGF you will find that its work colleagues who got a stick up their arse over op's decision Along with many more on this thread.

Also, its not just a school play is it.

samandi Sun 09-Dec-12 09:47:50

Sounds a bit daft to me but you can do what you like. Personally I'd feel a bit sorry for a kid excluded but if s/he's fine with it then I don't see why anyone else should be upset on his/her behalf.

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