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Mosman Wed 05-Dec-12 14:30:20

In a crop top, aged 11 to be circulated on the Internet ?
I'm fcuking fuming just not sure how to handle this.
When we joined the school I was given a form asking for a signature to authorise the children to be photographed. We declined. That as far as I'm concerned should have been the end of the matter.
Except this morning I get a phone to make sure I understand the implications of my child not bring photographed, I say that I do, I am told that she the teacher will explain to my child that she needs to ask mum if she questions why she cannot be photographed. Fine I say.
When the children arrive back into the classroom from assembly the teacher stands up in front of the class and announced that Dd is the only one who cannot have her picture taken, that she may not be able to join the school band or choir because of this.
Later on in the day I received the school newsletter via email displaying DD's classmates performing a dance wearing cropped tops, midriffs on display, confirming everything I was concerned about.
How do I handle this effectively and get a satisfactory outcome ?

Mosman Thu 06-Dec-12 00:05:54

We are in Australia my child is actually 10 most of the other children are 11, my 12 year old is in year 6 here.

I have decided I'll sit back and wait and see if the choir and band become an issue and deal with that if it becomes an issue.

Thanks again for the comments.

RichManPoorManBeggarmanThief Thu 06-Dec-12 00:06:42

I think Mosman lives in Australia so years might be different there?

I can completely understand why some people are concerned about photos on the internet as we have no idea what technology will allow in a few years time (at the moment facial recognition is not great, but it's only a matter of time). However I think the "peedo" fear is actually the least worrying for the reasons already cited- surely of more concern would be the possibility that with a single photo of you, someone could pull up every other photo of you ever uploaded?

BUT, let's think about this. The 11 year old will be on FB in a couple of years, if she's not already. From what I can tell, teenagers spend most of those years taking photos of themselves doing stupid things/being drunk/in their pants/ pretending to smoke massive reefers/ actually smoking massive reefers and uploading them. This ends some time around graduation when they realise they might want to be employable one day. I imagine a photo of said graduate as an 11yr old in a dance show might pale into insignificance compared to what will get uploaded over the next decade.

MrsWembley Thu 06-Dec-12 11:25:24

Ah, thank-you.

I still think, even though it's your opinion and you are allowed to voice it, looking for validation on here is... well, as I said before, YPMYSLAA .


Mosman Thu 06-Dec-12 11:28:58

I have no clue what that stands for :-)

DaveMccave Thu 06-Dec-12 11:36:19

I don't think you are being unreasonable to be p*ssed off. You have been completely ignored and it's out of order.

However... I think you are being previous about the 'cropped top'. It's hardly provocative on a child doing a gym routine. I can understand them double checking with you, I haven't been able to record any of my DD's nativity or school plays because two parents in her year have refused to sign the forms. I fully understand when it is because of child protection issues, ie, they could be traced by family that could cause them harm, but if I found out it was because they were just being precious I would be disappointed.

starfishmummy Thu 06-Dec-12 12:26:22

Yanbu not wanting your dc photographed.
School are not handling it well -there are children at ds's school who are fostered and legally cannot be photographed - they join in all the activities and are just moved out of the way when photos are taken. No fuss is made at all.

Floggingmolly Thu 06-Dec-12 12:36:38

I've just seen that you live in Australia, op. How on earth do you manage in summer, and have you any idea how many other people's holiday snaps your dc's probably feature in (which have undoubtably been uploaded to the Internet) wearing far less than a crop top?

Mosman Thu 06-Dec-12 12:39:06

My DC's are never in public without their clothes I hate the beach as do they and we have a pool so no issues there.
The school have decided to make her class photographer which I think is a marvellous solution. DD is delighted.

WileywithSageStuffing Thu 06-Dec-12 12:54:15

The school have decided to make her class photographer

I also think that is a fantastic solution - actually i think that would give me confidence that the school are doing a good job.

Mosman Thu 06-Dec-12 13:06:09

Better late than never I guess

madwomanintheattic Thu 06-Dec-12 14:31:19

Er, no. They were always doing a good job, by keeping her out of the pictures, as you requested.

To attempt to vindicate your position by suggesting they are only doing a good job now is extremely disingenuous.

PickledInAPearTree Thu 06-Dec-12 15:59:17

Id be a bit worried that she is way too conscious if you live in Oz and she never appears in public in anything approaching a crop top to be honest. Id be concerned that my attitude has rubbed off.

However that seems like a more than reasonable solution from the school so thats good.

I think you do need to calm it a tad to be honest.

LadyClariceCannockMonty Thu 06-Dec-12 17:22:18

Crop tops are clothes too, aren't they?

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