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to think that if it's SEVEN years since you heard from someone - maybe you shouldn't be sending them a Christmas Card?

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BonzoDooDah Mon 03-Dec-12 20:22:03

"Mabel and Albert" and their family lived in our house for more then 30 years. Sadly Albert died and then quite a few years later Mabel died at a ripe old age. We bought the house nearly seven years ago from her children.

Every year since we moved in we have received a posted Christmas card to 'Mabel and Family' signed x and y (but no return address). Obviously they've not had one off Mabel in the last seven years ...

We've just received this year's card sad

So, seriously, how long would you keep someone on your Christmas Card list if you hadn't heard from them? A year? Two? Seven???

TidyDancer Mon 03-Dec-12 20:23:38

My mum still sends Christmas cards to relatives we haven't seen in years, and former work colleagues, etc.

I don't really see the harm tbh.

StinkyWicket Mon 03-Dec-12 20:24:39

I wouldn't no, but plenty of older people do. Out of tradition maybe? I still get birthday cards from my mum's best friend even though I am thirty!

Also, older people (IMO) seem the think cards are very very important - my mum was most put out a couple of years ago when we didn't do cards!

StinkyWicket Mon 03-Dec-12 20:25:41

Tidy I read that as former wok colleagues for some reason grin

squeakytoy Mon 03-Dec-12 20:27:06

We have lived in this house for ten years and still get a card addressed to the previous occupant. They are still alive as far as we know.. but clearly dont have much correspondence with their old friends!

Annunziata Mon 03-Dec-12 20:28:07

That's quite sad. But I suppose it's easy to forget who actually has sent you a card, if it's just maybe someone they used to work with, so you do it out of habit.

My mum still sends and receives an xmas card from a lady she worked with before I was born. And I am 25! They always write a little update on their lives in the card.

redskyatnight Mon 03-Dec-12 20:30:18

The majority of my parents' Christmas cards are from people they haven't seen or spoken to in approximately thirty years. They consider the annual Christmas cards as "staying in touch".

Maybe the card senders do see Mabel and Albert on a regular basis but just haven't worked out their new address yet? I'd imagine once it gets past a year after you've moved you assume everyone knows.

PuppyMonkey Mon 03-Dec-12 20:32:19

It's because, as I've always said, people don't actually click whether or not someone sends them a Christmas card.

I still get cards for previous owners of this house - we've lived here since 1999. grin

QuietNinjaTardis Mon 03-Dec-12 20:33:59

Redsky Mabel and Albert have been dead for 7 years.

PuppyMonkey Mon 03-Dec-12 20:34:33

Redsky, Mabel and Albert died... So I don't think the senders do see them.

Fakebook Mon 03-Dec-12 20:35:06

Maybe the card senders do see Mabel and Albert on a regular basis but just haven't worked out their new address yet?

Oh the jokes I could make about that sentence, but I won't. grin grin

TidyDancer Mon 03-Dec-12 20:36:47

<makes mental note to check with DM if woks were ever involved in her work> grin

BonzoDooDah Mon 03-Dec-12 20:36:59

Puppy 1999 is fab! 13 years ... you do wonder!

And Tidy I don't see the harm I just think it's terribly sad really.

BonzoDooDah Mon 03-Dec-12 20:37:16

Redsky I'd be bloody amazed if Mabel and Albert were sending cards from where they are.

HassledHasASledge Mon 03-Dec-12 20:38:00

I'd quit after a couple of years grin. Seven years is extreme Christmas persistence.

I'm in a quandary re some very elderly friends of my long-dead mother's; I have a vague idea the wife wrote a couple of years ago that the Colonel, her husband, had died. But I'm not 100% I haven't imagined this - do I send no card, send one to both given that the Colonel might have ceased to be, or send one to the wife asking how the Colonel is?

emsyj Mon 03-Dec-12 20:38:18

Someone, somewhere sends our next door neighbour a birthday card every year addressed to our house. I am hopeful that one day she will tell the person that she lives at no.5 and not no.3, but until then I dutifully put it through her door! It doesn't bother me to redeliver it (she is a very nice lady) but it does make me wonder why she doesn't tell the bloody sender that the address is wrong?? confused

I can understand why people keep sending the cards - probably 'just in case', they aren't sure whether Albert and Mabel are still around, they still think of them, so still send the card. It is a bit sad though.

McKayz Mon 03-Dec-12 20:38:50

Trying not to laugh but it is times like this that I wonder why people don't read the threads properly.

RedSky, unless the card is from Derek Acorah I doubt they see Mabel and Albert.

JustFabulous Mon 03-Dec-12 20:39:43

It's worse when you get a card from someone you haven't sent one too as you don't have their address.

blanksquit Mon 03-Dec-12 20:42:47

Yes we still get one or two for the former owner of our house who died 7 years ago. You'd think if they didn't get a card back and knowing he would be in his nineties now, they might have guessed. Usually with no return address. It's lovely that friendship with no contact lasts so long. I did get one with a return address last xmas and sent them a note saying sadly he had died. Then felt bad that I might have ruined their xmas.

FairPhyllis Mon 03-Dec-12 20:48:54

My parents sent cards to a friend for donkeys years and never got anything back. Then one year they happened to put their address on the card, and in a flash they got a letter back saying he'd lost their address xxx years ago and had been really sad he couldn't send any back.

KittyFane1 Mon 03-Dec-12 20:53:01

It's so sad that they don't put their address on sad It's so sad that they think of this couple every year and don't know that they've gone sad

KittyFane1 Mon 03-Dec-12 20:55:42

Do you have Mabel and Albert's DC's address OP? Maybe they know who sends these card and can contact them?

BonzoDooDah Mon 03-Dec-12 21:01:48

I know - If they only put an address on it I could have sent a note (a sad note at Christmas it would have been - yes).

When I saw the envelope this year I thought "oh dear" but then maybe I can find the son and tell him. But when I opened the card it said

"Dear Mabel and Family


Nothing else!! This year they haven't even signed it. I suspect a poor 'old dear' contemporary is losing it a bit (sad)

maddening Mon 03-Dec-12 21:02:48

And it'll be sad when it stops as it means they've died too sad

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