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AIBU to think that people who start a conversation with 'Listen' are being rude?

(28 Posts)
BeRudeNotTo Thu 29-Nov-12 00:58:58

I mean seriously i'm stood here listening to you please don't take the Michael by asking me to blooming well listen when i'm already listening to you for crying out loud and for heavens sake all at the same time.grinSame applies to people who say 'LOOK' at the start of a conversation.

AViewfromtheFridge Thu 29-Nov-12 07:19:51

Politicians use it a lot as well, I've noticed, usually when dodging questions!

PseudoBadger Thu 29-Nov-12 07:02:25

"Now look here" grin My rather posh grandad used to say this all the time.

karatekimmi Thu 29-Nov-12 06:59:16

My DS and I had a "listen" count on Ian Thorpe during the Olympics. He said it A LOT!!!

CailinDana Thu 29-Nov-12 06:47:05

It can be an Irish thing but usually only when acknowledging that someone is right or playing along with a joke, so it's not aggressive - along the lines of "You were pretty merry last night" "Ah, listen, don't we all do that sometimes." I can't say I've noticed it much in the UK and I didn't realise it was also an Australianism.

sleeplessinsuburbia Thu 29-Nov-12 06:03:26

Ooh that's funny I was about to say must be an English thing as I don't remember anyone ever starting a discussion with either but it seems people think its Australian! Must be habits for different areas. I would think it was very odd for someone already engaged in conversation to say either to me.

FellatioNelson Thu 29-Nov-12 05:41:49

Yes, listen and look, both rather aggressive and bossy, unless being used in a genuinely tongue in cheek way.

cheekybaubles Thu 29-Nov-12 05:33:13

What about people that begin a conversation with "tell me to butt out if this is not any of my business but....."? I just want to interject with " "stop there then!

SomersetONeil Thu 29-Nov-12 04:07:28

Kiwis do it as well - but 'look' more than 'listen'.

SavoyCabbage Thu 29-Nov-12 03:59:34

That's what I was going to say Wombat. It's 'look' that I notice all the time.

sleepywombat Thu 29-Nov-12 03:52:36

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MyLastDuchess Thu 29-Nov-12 03:46:03

Ha, I never realised it was an Australianism (I'm Australian but haven't lived there for many years) . I use it a lot, it's a bit of a filler word really. Like saying, "You know what?"

I agree that in the wrong tone/context it would be very rude though.

BeRudeNotTo Thu 29-Nov-12 02:53:22


kiwigirl42 Thu 29-Nov-12 02:10:56

Drives me nuts. I listen to a lot of podcasts from Radio Australia and boy, do they say it a lot. You can guarantee that if they interview someone, the first word out of their mouth will be 'listen.....'

nemno Thu 29-Nov-12 02:10:46

I find "Look" worse than "Listen" though. Seems more imperious.

deleted203 Thu 29-Nov-12 01:55:54

Hmm...I don't know about rude, but an irritating habit, certainly. I cringe when people start a conversation with, 'With all due respect...' and you know damn well they are about to be extremely rude.

RichManPoorManBeggarmanThief Thu 29-Nov-12 01:52:25

South Africans say "Listen, I must tell you....." which also sounds really aggressive until you get used to it.

I do use it quite a lot- usually, "Hey, listen...."- I dont know why. Maybe cos I hang out with a lot of Australians grin

BeRudeNotTo Thu 29-Nov-12 01:33:56

here here nemno well said. I don't think AP O brien means to be rude and i have the upmost respect for the man but he does say 'Listen' alot (scratches head)

nemno Thu 29-Nov-12 01:23:23

I was going to say that Australians do it a lot and that yes I found it quite aggressive until I realised it is just a manner of speech there. Without the Aussie 'free pass' I still find it rude though.

BeRudeNotTo Thu 29-Nov-12 01:19:43

BeRudeNotTo Thu 29-Nov-12 01:17:02

Lol are u Aidan O Brien?

ChippingInLovesAutumn Thu 29-Nov-12 01:14:40

I don't think it's rude. and that has nothing to do with the fact that I find myself saying it quite a lot

fortyplus Thu 29-Nov-12 01:12:36

What about people who say 'I'm sorry but...' and then proceed to say something rude/offensive/racist that they're not sorry about at all!

bogwobbit Thu 29-Nov-12 01:11:03

That should be 'used' to not 'shed' to - predictive texting hmm

bogwobbit Thu 29-Nov-12 01:08:33

Very common in Australia and they're genuinely not being rude, it's just how they talk. Took a bit of getting shed to though.

InSPsFanjoNoOneHearsYouScream Thu 29-Nov-12 01:06:56

Listen right, Yeh

^ that is my brother when he's fucked up and been caught and is trying to worm his way out of it. The minute he says that the family zone out

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