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To want to run away and never see them again

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SilverBaubles33 Wed 28-Nov-12 15:21:23

Briefly, the Alpha mums invited me for coffee and a get to know you after drop off today - there are a few of us new mums this term. The main Alpha has been really friendly, but is constantly putting herself down and comparing herself to me - I used to have a quite high-powered job, she's a bit tubby, my DDs are on a scholarship etc, and making unfavourable comments. I don't know why she needs to do it as on the face of things she's really popular, has a gorgeous house, lovely dcs, kind husband, she's thoughtful and generous etc.

Anyway, we all turned up for coffee and one of the other mums is from Holland where I used to live, so we started chatting in Dutch. I went to find the loo and Alpha was in the kitchen crying with about four friends, saying that I had ruined her coffee morning, I was an effing bitch, she wished she's never invited me etc.

They saw me in the doorway and Alpha said sorry, not having a great week, and the friends basically asked me to leave.

I asked, is it cos I spoke Dutch, sort of laughing because I thought it must be a joke or something and they said, she can't really deal with you, she feels you're always competing with her etc etc.

I am beyond embarrassed about the whole thing. I just went red and left like they asked me to. My husband said I should laugh it off but I rally don't want to see any of them again and we've got school stuff coming up in the next few weeks, I feel really sick and I've been worrying about it all day.

Should I call her? pretend it didn't happen? Speak to one of her friends? I've never come across this sort of thing before, am I BU or is she and how should I react?

LaQueen Mon 03-Dec-12 13:31:34

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

EldritchCleavage Mon 03-Dec-12 15:23:14

Gosh I feel sorry for loony Mum's daughter though. Wonder if the daughter had to face tears and recriminations when she told her mother she'd lost her place in the side?

PickledInAPearTree Mon 03-Dec-12 17:20:26

Crying in your own coffee because someone spoke a bit of Dutch!


stormy week was your lady the one with the teeth? That thread was immense.

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