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to think this teacher was really harsh?

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freddiefrog Tue 27-Nov-12 13:14:03

DD is 11 and in year 6 and has had a supply teacher for the last 2 weeks

She gets homework twice a week -

Thursday - a little project which has to be done over the weekend and handed in on a Monday
Monday - numeracy which has to be handed in on Thursdays

As well as daily reading, spelling and times tables revision

So, last week DD was off school sick on Thursday and Friday, first day back yesterday.

I picked her up yesterday, chatting about her day and she tells she was given detention for all of lunch, and 10 stars removed from her chart (they use a reward system where stars they're given stars for good work/being helpful/whatever and at the end of term get to pick out of a lucky dip) for not handing in her weekend homework (she did hand the numeracy sheet in from the Monday)

To be honest, I thought DD had got the wrong end of the stick - she was off sick so hadn't had the homework to do in the first place, but DD was adamant she'd tried to explain she had been ill (which the teacher knew anyway) but her teacher insisted she stay in over lunch and do it then, so I checked with the teacher this morning, and yes, she'd been given detention and lost the stars.

I tried to explain to the teacher myself that DD had been off sick so I thought it was a bit unfair, but she was really dismissive of me too, and refused to reinstate her stars

Is it unreasonable to speak to the head? I hate all this going to the head and making a fuss shennanegans but I think it is really unfair to not get her stars back

If they had given her the homework yesterday, she would have done it last night and handed it in today (which is what I would expect to happen) but she wasn't given the opportunity

squeakytoy Tue 27-Nov-12 13:16:13

YANBU, if she hadnt been given the homework due to being off sick, then how on earth could she have done it. Yes, it was harsh of the teacher.

Hobbitation Tue 27-Nov-12 13:17:19

YANBU. Very harsh.

deleted203 Tue 27-Nov-12 13:18:08

This is completely unreasonable! How on earth was your DD expected to do Thursday's HW for Mon when she hadn't even received it? I would go speak to the head, definitely. I would also complain that the teacher was dismissive towards me. Fancy 'fining' a child 10 stars for being ill, which is what this effectively boils down to.

myBOYSareBONKERS Tue 27-Nov-12 13:18:54

YANBU - totally unreasonable of the teacher

tethersend Tue 27-Nov-12 13:19:23

YANBU. Not so much harsh as a load of bollocks. What is she punishing your DD for- being ill or not being psychic?

XBenedict Tue 27-Nov-12 13:19:26

Terribly unreasonable and I would be bringing this to the attention of the head teacher.

LindyHemming Tue 27-Nov-12 13:21:25

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ChaoticismyLife Tue 27-Nov-12 13:21:51

YANBU Complain to the HT

freddiefrog Tue 27-Nov-12 13:22:38

I think the teacher just cocked up, had forgotten DD was off, then refused to listen to DD or me when we tried to remonstrate with her instead of just saying 'oh, sorry' and giving DD her stars back

She's not our regular teacher and is only there for a couple more weeks.

I'll speak to the head later

Dramajustfollowsme Tue 27-Nov-12 13:26:08

YANBU - I'm a teacher and under similar circumstances I would have given it out yesterday and asked for it in on Friday. The same time period the other children had.

Mosman Tue 27-Nov-12 13:28:34

You have to teach the children not give a stuff about stars, if you get them great if you don't nobody died, detention on the other hand I would be furious about but it can't be undone. An apology is owed to your daughter and I'd be making sure she got it.

FellowshipOfFestiveFellows Tue 27-Nov-12 13:29:47

What a cow! When my dds teacher shouted at her when she wasn't at fault in front of the class I went to the ht and she was made to apologise to dd in front of the class too. Cannot believe they took her lunchtime from her over not doing homework, that would be harsh if she had been at school to receive it. At that age surely the parent would be at fault for not getting the child to do it.
She sounds like a right bully, frankly, and regardless if she forgot, you tried to tell her, and she ignored you as well.

SminkoPinko Tue 27-Nov-12 13:30:37

another yanbu here. hope the teacher was having a v bad day and this is not her usual modus operandi. if it is she must be a really terrible teacher.

BupcakesAndCunting Tue 27-Nov-12 13:32:52

YANBU. Weird woman.

bigbluebus Tue 27-Nov-12 13:36:18

They are not even that harsh with punishments for not handing in homework at DS's Secondary School - and that is when you did get the homework on the given day! They give you 2 days after the missed deadline and a text message to parents advising them of the missed homework - and only then if it is not handed in by the 2nd deadline do you get a detention.

The supply teacher was harsh and unfair to your DD and needs to apologise and re-instate the stars.

freddiefrog Tue 27-Nov-12 13:36:36

You have to teach the children not give a stuff about stars, if you get them great if you don't nobody died

That's fine, they're not the be all and end all, but, DD had already earned these stars and she had them removed. I think a the veryleast they should be reinstated

She can't get her lunchtime back, and the homework is now done, but DD is very cross that her stars have been removed.

Yes, the teacher should have listened to both me and DD, this is the first dealings I've had with her so I don't know if she's usually like this (DD hasn't said anything)

I'll speak to the head later at pick up time


Mosman Tue 27-Nov-12 13:39:42

Honestly we used to have a little giggle on the way home from school about how daft stars were because some children especially in reception/year 1 were getting so worked up about a bloomin star chart. It removes the power to be made to feel bad about something which is actually completely meaningless.

freddiefrog Tue 27-Nov-12 13:40:38

Her reasoning for being so tough with homework deadlines is that year 6 are getting ready for high school, but even in high school they wouldn't be so harsh with homework when you're off sick

She'll end up with a class full of kids terrified of going by the time she leaves

Their normal teacher is quite lenient, they share their homework projects in class on Wednesdays so as long as its done by then, it's fine

Mosman Tue 27-Nov-12 13:46:24

Great let the children think they are in for more of this when they get to high school that'll really build their confidence.

Startail Tue 27-Nov-12 13:48:08

Email to head, that is ridiculous.

takataka Tue 27-Nov-12 13:49:17

stars are given for good behaviour
they shouldnt be removed for 'bad behaviour'
that isnt the spirit of it at all

Tailtwister Tue 27-Nov-12 13:51:09

YANBU. I don't know how the teacher can justify this. I would contact the head and ask her to explain why she did it.

imnotmymum Tue 27-Nov-12 13:51:36

That is very unreasonable and the teacher should see this. Your DD was ill, by all means if necessary get the homework to catch up on if need to but this is totally out of order.

imnotmymum Tue 27-Nov-12 13:52:02

And agree high school would not be as harsh as this if child away ill.

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