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OpheliaPayneAgain Sun 25-Nov-12 13:18:08

(Yes this is leading on from a comment made in another forum)

Dunno what I'm BU about though. Ok, AIBU to think that it's all a bit juvenile to be blatting imaginary people on Black Ops or Warcraft?

I don't know any 40yo who xboxes or online games - do I lead a sheltered life or just mix predominatly with adults? All I know is - they are out there, with an inability to sustain a RL relationship. Apparently.

PhallicGiraffe Sun 25-Nov-12 13:31:35

YABU. People can do what they want in their spare time, there are lots of different hobbies. One hobby is not any less valid than another. If its done in moderation and makes you happy, what is the problem.

No doubt you have got some some hobbies that other people find boring too.

kinkyfuckery Sun 25-Nov-12 13:34:34

Some would think it somewhat juvenile to speak to strangers on the internet.

As long as it's harmless, what's the harm?

LavenderPots Sun 25-Nov-12 13:34:47

but some of these games ou play against real people else where in the world - people use it as stress reliever etc...something to do when only rubbish on tv perhaps? it does not make them unable to have RL relationships??

onetiredmummy Sun 25-Nov-12 13:38:20

(Yes this is leading on from a comment made in another forum)

wtf, why have you brought it over here if you can debate it in another forum, I don't see the point?

40 year olds weren't brought up with these types of games so I guess they do other things to relax instead. I don't think its juvenile, I think its a method of relaxation (not one that I would choose) but that does not make it juvenile.

You sound delightful.

BoneyBackJefferson Sun 25-Nov-12 13:39:30


What do you do for stress relief?

InNeedOfBrandy Sun 25-Nov-12 13:44:31

YABU and a hypocrite as you chat to strangers online to.

Naoko Sun 25-Nov-12 13:45:16

DP and I are gamers. We play online games, often together. We're both adults, thank you very much, and have been sustaining our relationship future nearly 9 years now, in addition to having many dear friends, both in real life and online, as well as family we get on with.

It is a way to spend free time like any other. I play games in the evening. Some people watch TV or play golf or do embroidery. Why is gaming juvenile?

IneedAsockamnesty Sun 25-Nov-12 13:50:13

I think it's only an issue when it takes over your life same as any hobby.

FurryDogMother Sun 25-Nov-12 13:50:51

DH is 48, I am 53. We play Lord of the Rings Online (and have previously played WoW, D&D, Star Trek and a few others). We're far from the only people of our age to do this.We played tabletop AD&D years back, the online games are just a extension of that. We've been gamers since the 70s smile

We also have a RL, are happily married, other hobbies (fishing, photography, home brewing) and have even been known to go to the pub on occasion. :P

OpheliaPayneAgain Sun 25-Nov-12 13:54:26

I don't kill people online though, therein lays the difference.

Oh well horses for courses as they say.

ConfusedPixie Sun 25-Nov-12 13:55:56

YABU. DP and I aren't huge online players but for both of us it's a good way to switch off. I'd rather ply games than watch TV!

Naoko Sun 25-Nov-12 13:56:08

Nor do I. It's a game. No one actually dies.

RubberDuck Sun 25-Nov-12 13:56:48

I'm a gamer, I'm 38. I don't watch much TV and prefer games that have an in-depth story - I far prefer being a part of/have control of the story rather than sitting passively watching one.

Plus, for around £30 I get over 30 hours of entertainment - probably the best value entertainment you can get, especially when you start looking at the costs of a Sky subscription or buying DVDs/books!

RabbitsMakeGOLDBaubles Sun 25-Nov-12 13:58:34

I find much joy in online gaming. Being stuck at home a lot due to being disabled and also a single parent to a behaviourally challenging child, it's a lovely release to go explore an online world like WoW and meet and interact with people. It was as much a community in my guild as you find here on Mumsnet and I dislike being told I am childish or not grown up because I enjoyed that.

MurderOfGoths Sun 25-Nov-12 13:58:43


Do you watch TV? Read? If you are going to take it so literally then you get pleasure from reading about/watching others suffering.

Except we both know that isn't the case. Same as fighting in video games isn't the same as getting pleasure from killing.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Sun 25-Nov-12 13:59:15


DH and I used to game online. We haven't since we had the DCs, because there just isn't enough time. I'm sure we will again once we are out of the toddler/preschool phase.

We have a relationship hmm

MurderOfGoths Sun 25-Nov-12 14:00:43

"All I know is - they are out there, with an inability to sustain a RL relationship."

Shit, I best tell DH that we don't have a real life relationship. And my son. And my friends. And my family. Maybe too much gaming has made me imagine them all? Christ, you'd have thought I'd have imagined myself a quieter, less pooey baby wouldn't you?

RabbitsMakeGOLDBaubles Sun 25-Nov-12 14:06:45

Best not mention here then that my DD is the result of a relationship that started in an online game, and eventually became real life then. Do you think that means she is not a RL DD? Feels real enough to me.

True enough that I can't seem to sustain a RL relationship though, but that's more to do with my own health making having a physical relationship very difficult, and me feeling like a burden and not wanting to commit to any relationship.

Timeforabiscuit Sun 25-Nov-12 14:12:29


I think your looking at a fairly dated stereotype of what a "gamer" represents.

GreenEggsAndNichts Sun 25-Nov-12 14:20:34

Almost no one I know in real life knows I play online games. Trust me, if you're the sort who clutches her pearls at the mention of such things, I'd have sensed it and not mentioned it. You probably do know people who game, they've just never said anything about it.

I don't understand how people can watch shite like the X Factor or Strictly, much less feel involved enough to pay to vote. Half my FB list goes on about those programmes when they're on, as if they have some personal stake in what happens. I don't lecture them on their use of their free time; they enjoy it, good for them.


BoneyBackJefferson Sun 25-Nov-12 14:20:37

"I don't kill people online though, therein lays the difference."

To my knowledge I haven't killed anyone but then I have never tried to undermine someones choice on the internet.

Ghostsgowoooh Sun 25-Nov-12 14:22:43

Tabu. I played wow for a couple of years and I have a family. It was a release at the end of the day to turn on a fantasy world and lose myself in it for a few hours once the kids had gone to bed and the housework was done. Much better than sitting slack jawed at the telly!

Ghostsgowoooh Sun 25-Nov-12 14:23:06

Tabu not tabu

Ghostsgowoooh Sun 25-Nov-12 14:23:29

Oh for fucks sake Yabu

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