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to think it's childish to wait outside?

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forbiddenfruit85 Sat 24-Nov-12 18:11:24

Friend was early meeting me today for lunch, so instead of going inside the restaurant and getting a table and maybe ordering a drink she decided to wait outside in the cold for 15 minutes by herself.

I know quite a few people that would prefer to wait outside until one of their party comes. I find this a bit silly and childish.

I'd have no problem going into a restaurant by myself and ordering a drink whilst I waited.

pictish Sat 24-Nov-12 18:13:10

Yanbu. I would head in and get confortable too.
Some people feel very uncomfortable entering a place on their own.
It doesn't bother me though.

WorraLiberty Sat 24-Nov-12 18:13:27

I wouldn't call it childish.

We're all different and some people just feel odd doing something like that.

It wouldn't bother me but I can think of quite a few people who would feel uncomfortable.

cozietoesie Sat 24-Nov-12 18:13:45

Maybe she's a little shy in crowded places. It didn't inconvenience you any, did it?

BigBirdisSaved Sat 24-Nov-12 18:14:04

Or you could choose to think of it as considerate.

A friend waited for you and you think it is childish. Lovely. It may not be your choice but no need to put her down for it.

strumpetpumpkin Sat 24-Nov-12 18:14:27

up to her really if she was early and it wasnt you being 15 minutes late

CalamityJ Sat 24-Nov-12 18:14:40

I wouldn't use the world childish, I'd say shy or not confident. Some people don't like being in restaurants/cafes/pubs etc on their own as they feel people are looking at them. Men seem more confident in these places being on their own than women in my experience. You might not have a problem but perhaps a less confident person would rather meet outside and go in together. YABU to call her behaviour "childish".

VIX1980 Sat 24-Nov-12 18:15:51

Not everyone has the confidence that you have to be able to go in and wait alone though. Im 32 and still find social things such as this difficult due to the little self confidence i posess, obviously your friend has similar issues or she would have gone in alone. Some people do, some people dont.

I dont actually see how this can bother someone enough to start a debate though hmm

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Sat 24-Nov-12 18:16:25

I have no problem going inside and ordering a drink on my own now but when I was feeling very vulnerable I would have preferred to wait outside. I just didn't have the self esteem to go into a crowded place by myself and suffer the agony of wondering whether the other person would actually come and feeling as though everyone was looking at the loser with no friends.

Maybe your friend needs a bit of building up.

bondigidum Sat 24-Nov-12 18:17:21

Not childish, more like shy.

I wouldn't go in. I'm very shy and socially anxious so would feel very nervous and awkward going into a place alone like that. I've always waited outside for people.

StaceymReadyForNumber3 Sat 24-Nov-12 18:18:33

I hate walking into places alone, I've just about overcome it if I know I am meeting people inside. But to walk into a pub/restaurant on my own knowing the people I'm meeting aren't there yet? Not on your nelly. I end up having a panic attack, which is ridiculous, but I can't help it.

So yabu

mynewpassion Sat 24-Nov-12 18:18:55

I think you are being mean by calling her or her behavior childish.

Firawla Sat 24-Nov-12 18:19:16

I do this sometimes depending on the place! what's the big deal, doesn't really make a difference to you does it, so she can do what she feels comfortable

nickelbabeuntiladvent Sat 24-Nov-12 18:19:32

i would sooner wait outside than go on my own into a room full of strangers to wait by myself for someone to turn up (and in the strangers' minds might have stood me up)

forbiddenfruit85 Sat 24-Nov-12 18:19:35

A friend waited for you and you think it is childish hmm no? I never said that.

Obviously childish was the wrong word to use. I just wouldn't have a problem waiting inside somewhere if I knew my friends weren't going to be long.

hmc Sat 24-Nov-12 18:20:13

YABU - and next time be on time. Rude.

nickelbabeuntiladvent Sat 24-Nov-12 18:20:13

especially buying a drink to drink by myself like a saddo loner!!

hmc Sat 24-Nov-12 18:21:51

Belatedly realises has been big twat and the friend was early. Retracts rudeness statement blush

Bunbaker Sat 24-Nov-12 18:23:23

"I find this a bit silly and childish."

How can you say this about a friend? She obviously felt too self conscious to sit at a table on her own. Were you a little late? You should have shown more consideration. If a friend of mine had waited out in the cold for me for 15 minutes I would have felt awful about keeping her waiting and not thought that she was being childish.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Sat 24-Nov-12 18:23:28

So what you really are saying is that you were late and now feeling guilty wink.

forbiddenfruit85 Sat 24-Nov-12 18:23:43

YABU - and next time be on time. Rude.

Wow didn't realise that you couldn't read. Because if you could then you have seen that I actually wrote -"Friend was early meeting me today for lunch"

Trills Sat 24-Nov-12 18:23:56

I don't see how it is considerate - it doesn't make a difference to me if you wait outside or go in. In fact it would probably make me feel bad that you had been stood outside (even if I was on time and you were early), so staying outside in the cold is more inconsiderate.

hmc Sat 24-Nov-12 18:24:10

You have something to retract now Forbidden

HullyEastergully Sat 24-Nov-12 18:24:43

Did yo punch her in the face?

PeggyCarter Sat 24-Nov-12 18:25:14

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